Talking with long-lost friends in my dreams

[MorningGlow]

Every once in a while I have a dream where I reconnect with someone from my past, and we have a lovely chat, like there was never any bad blood between us. I enjoy these dreams--it's like I'm cleaning up my karma and reminding myself that enmity is just playacting--that we're all one big loving family under the drama.

Last night I had a very detailed dream where my first mega-serious boyfriend (he proposed to me and I turned him down) came to see me. He looked exactly the same as he did 20 years ago, just a little grayer at the temples, which is how I thought he would look. He was wearing a red jacket, like a North Face or Columbia hiking jacket. I was working at a local supermarket for some reason--but then it kind of turned into an enlarged, expanded version of the bookstore we used to work at (where we met). That bookstore is gone IRL, though. Closed many years ago. I showed him around and pointed out all the changes, then we sat down and chatted.

We had a lovely, loving talk, without any grudges or lingering resentment over our breakup. We filled each other in on what we'd been doing in the past two decades, and we talked about our children. He told me he had a 12-year-old son, as well as a 19-year-old stepson who was causing a bit of trouble because he was kind of a slacker. I have no idea how accurate any of this is (last I heard he lives in California and we don't have any mutual friends anymore), but it sounded good in the dream! We talked for a long time before I said I had to get back to work, and I walked him out, and we hugged. It was so...pleasant. :)

[Kookaburra]

1. Funny you bring that up, MorningGlow

I had a similar dream about a love from long ago -- the first man to propose to me -- we talked and caught up similarly (he also has 2 children and boy and a girl -- both teenagers), and we decided that we really weren't meant to spend a lifetime together and we should have friendly memories of each other. It was so nice to resolve that finally because it certainly did not end well many years ago.

[MorningGlow]

4. I wish we had discussed why we didn't end up together in the dream last night

I would have liked to explain to him that it wasn't correct for us to be together beyond the point we took it to, because he didn't take it well either. But then again, his higher self knows the bigger plan...

[Celebration]

2. I call that a really good dream

Yep, I would say you are clearing some cobwebs out of the past.

My dreams rarely make sense to me, but it has been at least ten years since I had an "old boyfriend" dream. That would really be cool if you could verify the information, but I suspect that wasn't really the point.

I still like my swimming and flying dreams the best.

[MorningGlow]

5. My worst cobweb-clearing ex-BF dream

was when I met with one of my "what the hell was I thinking" guys. It was a stupid relationship and shouldn't have gone on as long as it did (about a year). Anyway, in the dream he had a contract and offered to rip it up. I said, "No, that's okay." So he kept it.
:wtf:

What was I thinking, in the dream as well?! Now we still have some karma between us! Sigh...where was my head...

[Shallah Kali]

11. You can still cut the connection

btw I think it was likely a subpersonality not the ***YOU*** conscious you or High Self that opted to keep the connection during the dream.

You can ask your guides/higher power to help including giving back any soul fragments & personal energy you still carry from him and calling back any he has from you. I ask my guides to take the pieces until I am ready for them to reintegrate and wrapping them in a cocoon of divine light & love to protect and heal any damage. In close relationships especially romantic ones there is a LOT of energy going back and forth so I have personally found it useful to do this. Heck, I have taken back personal energy from places I lived that I didn't really like yet oddly felt a longing to go back there until I tried calling back anything of me I left behind.

[FirstLight]

3. ...all part of the Karma clearing, folks!

I just got more interested in Facebook, and am talking to a good chunk of old friends to9o...and it has been an interesting mirror. because their ideas of WHO i really AM, compared to my reality are interesting to reconcile... It is kinda fun too!


I look forward to bringing this concept up in my therapy session tomorrow. because it has been such an interesting practice to TALK to the past with out GOING there, you know?

[MorningGlow]

6. OMG twin, I just joined Facebook!

A college friend joined and sent me one of those "Your friend just joined Facebook and thinks you should too" e-mails, so after resisting for months, I finally joined. She and I have kind of kept in touch over the years, so it wasn't a jolt to communicate with her on Facebook, but of course it's checking out all the other alums/mutual friends that's interesting. She just sent another "You should join" e-mails to a mutual friend and told me about it. I was skittish, because this other friend and I didn't part on good terms...20 years ago! I don't hold any grudges, but I'm afraid of what she thinks of me after all this time! Isn't that silly?!
Hee--I'm gonna look you up and befriend you! How's that for a threat! :rofl:

[FirstLight]

8. Please DO!

I am a member of the DU group on Facebook! lol
then we can make comments on my wall & yours that nobody else gets becaue of conversations *here* :rofl:

[crikkett]

7. Valentine's dream? Succubus? Cross-Quarter (imbolc) dream?

Valentine's dream? Succubus? Cross-Quarter (imbolc) dream?

What a nice experience. It would be amazing if it were true.

I had a set of dreams this morning in almost the same vein.

When I woke, I realized that Saturday is Valentine's.

Feb 2 was Imbolc

And I wonder if succubus shouldn't be ruled out.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

9. That's a good dream

I do think people are connecting and reconnecting on many levels now.

[Shallah Kali]

12. The veil is thinner between physical and spirit or the dimensions are blending

lots of fascinating stuff leaking through! :bounce:

[FirstLight]

10. More on ghosts from the past...

so, this facebook thing has been a real trip this week...seeing more and hearing more from people I haven't thought of in 20 years is very weird. I feel so old on the one hand...and yet to me it was just YESTERDAY that heartbreak and crazy teen antics were my norm.

So...as I process this illness of the last couple days I have done some energy work as well - and realized that this is clearing some stuff from MANY past lives, and also delving into patterns that seemed to emerge in and around the ages of 14-17in this life.

One of the first things I notice is that I don't feel very "far away" from the events of 20 yrs ago... I stunted somewhere and fel like the wounds or the events are still fresh in my mind. It's like everyone else moved on and I stayed in this cocoon and continued to repeat many of the same mistakes. Issues of Trust, feelings of being abandoned, wishing that someone would love me with that wild reckless abandon of youth...and then thinking about how fickle I have been to that dream by being promiscuious...

Second is the feeling of inadequacy - like everyone else grew up and had normal stable relationships, had the job and the house, and here i am still floundering along...two ex-husbands and three kids. My life reads like a bad movie and I am lying to everyone that I am fine and doing well. Not mentioning to anyone that I am on welfare or trying to get my mental & physical health in order, much les get a better job. I play the role of the strong woman and tell everyone I am a writer (nevermind that "freelance" = starving artist)

The funny part is that the issues that showed up in e=nergy healing had to do with me owning my truth and real power and REALLY knowing that I am that powerful shining spirit and that I AM doing the work of healing and moving this stuff out of my field and karma.

funy how the past can make you fel so small, when maybe the whole goal is to own one's "bigness"
still, it feels weird... especially when the guy that first broke my heart is asking me out for a drink when he comes up on business in June...

[rosesaylavee]

13. Well, if this isn't too too weird. Me too.

Had a dream the night before last about the first love of my life. Spoke with him at great length but he was 18 and I was the age I am currently. Kept thinking, 'hey, he's much too young'. Worked out why he left the area and came to an understanding about him and why he was the way he was upon awakening.