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This type drives me crazy too:
Obviously, there is a difference between being victimized and “playing the victim,” and some people play the victim cunningly to justify tearing down others.
I remember growing up and watching teenagers when they decided to be mean, watching the bullies and observing the cunning ones who always played victim. The latter is the worse kind. The young people who did mean things once in a while were just being mean (other problem for other discussion). The bullies you could spot a mile away. The "perpetual victim" type was always out to destroy others, and obviously that mentality and behavior is pervasive in adults.
Example: In my neighborhood the H.S. dropout rate was a problem. There were those who dropped out and went about their business, doing whatever to survive. There were those who became bullies, thugs. Then there were those who seemed hell bent on ruining the young people who stayed in school. They were always spreading rumors about a kid thinking he or she is better than another individual; always attacking the youngsters character when all the he/she wanted was to go to school and take pride in that. Some of these kids under attack were dealing with a lot of other issues: family problems, personal issues (some mental) and peer pressure (from bullies). The mean-spirited perpetual victims dropped out of school and refused to move on with their lives, but spent countless hours trying to disparage youngsters who were making their best effort to survive and succeed. It seems to me the normal thing to do when you know someone who goes on to do better things and aspires to better things, is to encourage them. It’s not normal to try to talk them out of it or criticize them for it.
Ever been romantically involved with someone who doesn't want you to make a career move that's in your best interest? Same thing. In such instances, someone like that will offer to accept your decision while still disagreeing with it, want to break up with you, or say they accept it, but try to derail it with deceptive tactics. Bingo the latter. That's what I'm discovering a lot in the stuff online---from pundits, media, bloggers, posters, everybody. The worse part of it is playing the victim reels in supporters and makes it very hard to ferret out the facts. The perpetual victim usually approaches someone who they've had limited or no contact with, but is a mutual acquaintance of the person being targeted, and tries to endear him/herself to that person. "You will understand where I'm coming from" or "you are different," is a likely approach. If the person confronts the perpetual victim, stands firm and says, "I don't think that person believes he/she is superior because he/she wants to get a high school degree and is focused on trying to get into college," the reaction is usually anger or more devious behavior, and if possible they begin to target that person. It's sick, they are destructive and cannot be appeased. They are not looking to be appeased. They are only out to destroy.
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