Not to be disrespectful, but I have a question about psychologists

[HereSince1628]

I'm an old college prof. Doing homework is something I've seen as important for decades. For every hour I spent in class or labs I spent over 2 hours in preperation of one kind or another. My successful students did similarly.

Do most psychologists look at their records between office visits?

My psychologist asks me for information and I cough it up, even if it takes a while at home to put it together--like 40 years of employment history. She sends me to see other specialists and to testers to take the MMPI and MCMI. I go. When we meet again she asks what's happened, I tell her what's happened, more over, those folks reports are available to her in my pooled electronic records... Then a week later, she asks what happened at the specialists' and how was the testers' all over again. Either I'm dissociating and it's Ground-Hog Day in the psych clinic, or she's testing my responses for consistency, or maybe she just doesn't do homework--even to the point of bothering to look at her own notes before I step into her office. I came close to making a cynical remark this afternoon, but weeks of practice and being reminded by the SO to stop and think before making comments, caused me to hold back.

This is very troubling to me because I have a history of walling off people whom I have identified as "one of them", which is to say those people that can't be trusted with things that are important to me. I don't want to sabotage many meetings and whatever progress has been made but this tweaked me. Is this just one of my triggers or is she really winging it?

...your thoughts, especially those that break the chain of my thoughts, would be welcome.

[knowbody0]

1. I most definitely would call her on it

she is working FOR you, she is well paid. the fact you are bothered she may be "one of them" is an indication you do not have confidence in her interest re your well being. it may not be a good match for you.

[EFerrari]

2. Our triggers don't come from nowhere.

By which I mean, yes, it sounds like this is one of your triggers and also like it would be good to know what the process is. Does she ask gratuitous questions out of habit or does she not do her homework or is she lazy or what is it?

I often regret my cynical remarks but more rarely my direct questions.

There's another little bit in here about your expectations of her.