I quit my therapist today

[undergroundpanther]

She is a new ager type and I can't deal with her pushing the new age stuff anymore.She would give me simplistic answers.Told me not to judge an aryan brotherhood thug as a danger to my life,that I think that denial she did was the last straw.Her hypocrisy became intolerable.
For awhile she was ok,but her unrealistic ideas about how to deal with dangerous or bad situations was silly to me. I began to feel like she was not about really helping me,if it might get 'messy'. She seemed to try making me be like her,just giving me platitudes,telling me to not judge or say someone or some situations are toxic or crazy makers for me.I couldn't really talk to her on a deep level about what upsets me because either she didn't want to just listen and just wanted to fix it before I even had time to articulate it,or she wanted me appearing to be 'stable' after my 45 minutes.I don' know her motives.I have a radically different perspective than hers,and that also makes us no longer compatible.

She thought her saying things I didn't want to hear was the problem of why I left,but what she doesn't get is I hear stuff I don't like hearing alot,I think she was counter-transferring on me.I hope to find a more realistic therapist soon.I don't trust her for many reasons over time,and,because she was unwilling to let me open up because once I began to feel what I was saying, she'd shut me down. I felt myself swallowing emotions.I think part of my process of healing is to feel my feelings concerning the past which is dissociated from memory and learn to cope with the past with both intellectual and emotional understanding together..

[hunter]

1. "Don't judge???"

If you can't judge an aryan brotherhood thug, just who the hell can you judge?

It's like the moms of sociopaths: "Oh, he's a good boy, he's just misunderstood.

Some of us have become very good judges of these sorts of characters as a matter of self-preservation.

[HereSince1628]

2. The feeling of being invalidated by a therapist is truly awful

I hope you get a good match next time.