Wondering how to turn the pre-interview for memory test into a crisis?

[HereSince1628]

Is that even possible? Yes. I did it on Wednesday. And I'm still wondering on how I managed that and whether I did it entirely on my own.

The SO thinks he may have just been trying to stress me for the test. I don't know, I certainly went from a calm and collected client in a waiting room listening to my mp3 player to a very pissed off borderline walking out his office door without having had the memory test(s).

I think it may have gone south when he asked me when my memory problem began and I said 'Last April, it's all in my file. Did you -read- my file?' He said no and I said, 'Oh, we're doing without homework today.' Do you guys think that the VA's electronic records are so complicated that a diagnosis of psychogenic amnesia would be hidden from the psychologist assigned to do memory testing?

But then it could have started earlier when he asked what brought me in and I said my 1998 Ford Escort wagon.

It for sure was way far south when a he chastised me for my job history and suggested that I hated veterans because I said I wasn't interested in doing volunteer work at the VA to learn, as he put it, 'how to behave.'

[elleng]

1. Sounds like HE's a crisis! (Unless this is a joke, a-la- Onion???

What a jerk! (NOT you; you did nicely, imo!)

[InkAddict]

2. Geez, everybody's a psychologist now...

Interviewers raise similar small talk banter while job-hunting, IF one can get a face-to-face:

I: So, how did you learn about this position?
A: From your posting. I immediately sent in my resume w/cover letter. You read my resume and cover letter, correct? or
From your employee, "X", (ditto).
I: Ah, no - not really. HR failed to provide that and I'm not really the hiring manager (Day later on follow-up: "Your stuff was sitting on my fax machine, LOL." Furthermore, I've learned you'll need to visit a bit with Patel, who is on the technical staff though not the hiring manager either. He's scheduled to fly in next month on his way to a month-long visit home.)

A: So, from your posting, this is a 3-month contract position without benefits or right to hire?
I: Well....actually we're looking for someone to stay forever (With straight face to obviously almost-senior applicant).

I: So, how have you been spending your time? I see that you've not spent any of your long-term unemployment volunteering...
A: Well, I consider finding work a FT job, even with on-again, off-again UE that leaves me little disposable income for extraneous transportation costs as opposed to rent, utilities, and food. BTW, when is the expected start date?
I: (Pregnant pause)...well, we don't actually have the contract yet but we might get it...I think we will...and it has lots of non-guaranteed follow-on's too. The thing is, we want you, should you be hired, to commit to it and stop your job-hunting immediately.
I: I see your predicament.

CRAZYMAKING IDGIOTS!

[postatomic]

3. What kind of test?

I'm sorry that you had to go through this. I know that my Psych records are not available to anyone and no one knows that they even exist unless I tell them and sign a release for them to have access to them. I don't know how the VA works.

Your whole experience sounds a bit frustrating. Hope it works out.

[HereSince1628]

4. It was to be memory tests...baselines to see if there is something

more than dissociation going on... I had some very troubling episodes in spring when little bouts of forgetting about how arguments when turned into losing entire days and nights in a row. The presumption was psychogenic causes, and it's took until now to get a path cleared into neuropsych testing. Unfortunately, I walked off the path when I walked out, so the wait was all for nothing.

[postatomic]

5. So, you feel that you've burned the bridge?

I've felt that way numerous times and have always managed to rebuild the "bridge". I think anyone who is a psych professional is use to dealing with this. So I've been told.

I know the feeling. You just get tired of all the bullshit that you have to go through and all you want is for someone to help you. When you are faced with a road block that you were not expecting you just say screw it.

It sounds too important. I'd give it another try.

[HereSince1628]

6. No. I didn't burn a bridge. I realized Dwight Schrute was in charge

of my assessment. Too bad it was my mind I wanted help with and not a beet field.

[postatomic]

7. Got it

I don't always digest words the way they were intended and respond in an incorrect manner. Was just frustrated for you. And I don't know how the VA works, so I'm probably talking beet fields. Adding to your frustration. Certainly not my intent.
:hi:

[undergroundpanther]

8. Fuck that lie

Behaviorism is a load of shit.

Problem is YOU do not play the submissive ready to be killed role all dominating assholes want you to play.You fail to PLACATE and protect abusers,you are defiant and you don't do thier job for them.
This makes the bully uncomfortable.

You are sane in a evil culture of destruction and death that is killing everything it touches.
You are"misbehaving" a.k.a.uncivilized because you can feel and you direct your anger at whom deserves it,the abusers that gave you pstd. Your defiance tells they can't get away with dominating you.

So stay uncivilized,stay wild,don't ever give in to people like that and "behave",protectabusers, lie for them,numb out or become anyone else for the abusive assholes in this world.. Be wild and damn their "consequences".Damn the bullies every last one of those arrogant toxic shitheads.
You have every right to HATE who abuses you for not 'behaving' as they would assume they were entitled to expect or demand from you.