A very useful site

[undergroundpanther]

about what goes on when therapy goes wrong,the warning signs,what bad therapy can do,and how to know if you got a dangerous situation on your hands.
How to asses if therapy is NOT right for you,and might be making things worse(for some people therapy is not theraputic) and since all of us are unique I think this can be an option for some to consider.
By discribing bad therapy it shows how good therapy is supposed to be. This site tackles the real big issues like boundaries and verbal abuse in therapy..Good for anyone getting into therapy and wanting to find a good theraputic relationship by knowing what a bad theraputic relationship is like so they can get out before the damage is done..I found the site very useful.It pegged what irritates me about my own therapist and what I think is good about him..It also showed me how much harm the bad therapists I have had have caused me.

http://www.therapy-abuse.net/index.html

[Kashka-Kat]

1. thnx-- this part was particularly useful to me--

http://www.therapy-abuse.net/Articles%20online/transference.htm

I didn't experience "abuse" exactly but murky boundaries which resulted in a LOT of confusion and pain... yes of course there was an element of "transference," projecting desire of daddy or mommy's love onto the therapist... as well as "counter-transference" where the therapist also feels an attraction... but on the other hand as Freud said, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. I think the human animal has a mating instinct and quite naturally can tend to respond to physical and emotional closeness w/ sexual and/or love feelings... and then the moment of truth to find that the relationship is "only" therapy, it can never be "love" or "family" or "mate" ....I experienced that as rejection, it really sent me reeling, still haven't quite recovered...

The thing is, I really think it is up to the therapist to be absolutely scrupulous about maintaining clear boundaries ie no long chats apart from the sessions, no emails, no details about his personal life, etc.

Needless to say, I'm going to be working only w/ women from now on!