telling me to just 'get over it' or to simply change my perspective does no good

[fizzgig]

and it is frustrating because it feels like people are belittling my situation. i would never dream of telling anyone to 'beat' my situation because i have no idea exactly what someone else is going through.

my brain does not function the same as people without a mental illness. there are times i cannot stop the frenzy in my brain. there are times that i can't stop the fact that all i do is beat myself up for things over which i had no control.

yeah, things could be a lot worse, but unless you have a complete and total understanding of what i'm dealing with and you can't say something positive or supportive, keep your mouth shut.

edit: for the sake of honesty, i would tell someone to get over it if they complained to me that they could only get a $30,000 car rather than a $40,000 car, that they had to settle for a week in the bahamas rather than two or something similar. i'm not proud that i'm judgmental like that and i'm trying to change that perspective, but i am not perfect.

[lightningandsnow]

1. I totally relate.

:hug:

[fizzgig]

2. it's so disheartening, isn't it?

i hope you are well :hug:

[Forkboy]

3. It's all I can do not to kick those people square in the nuts.

It's highly offensive to me. Don't these bozos think that if I could snap out of it that I would? Do they think I like being depressed or manic or having panic attacks?

Some people's kids.

:hug:

on edit - ok, I don't entirely mind being manic, at least for the first two days before it takes a physical toll. ;)

[laylah]

4. oh baby...

I know how frustrating that is :hug: Some folks just don't have a clue and wouldn't know the "walk a mile in their shoes" addage if it ran over them. To tell someone like us to "get over it", "deal with it", "get more exercise", "eat better", et cet is just ignorance on their part. I love you, honey :loveya: Oh, and none of us are perfect. Isn't that wonderful! :woohoo:

[Ladyhawk]

5. You learn quickly to keep your mouth shut.

That is all.

[Fire Walk With Me]

6. Hey Fizzgig, sorry that you've suffered this.

I'm newly bipolar diagnosed (and am completely open about it), in addition to alcoholism...I've had my long, long share of People Who Don't Get It And Never Will. Even at the hospital. The number of professionals there who didn't have the first clue about alcoholism/addiction was nearly absolute. They happily, repeatedly offered addictive sleep meds in spite of my insistence upon not even being near such things..."There's no alcohol in the hospital", they'd say with a smile. I could go on and on...it's not the stigmata it once was, but for the number of people suffering from it, you'd think that doctors and staff would know something...

I hope that things are getting better for you.

[redqueen]

7. If it were so easy, people would.

I've been told that, and it really hurts. But then I realize those people are fucking clueless, heartless idiots and then I feel better.

Good luck. :hug: