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longer answer - they REALLY suck.
But I've heard believers say worse things (I just finished up my Internship at a Hospital, and BOY do I have stories!). For example, I was providing pastoral care to a couple who had just lost a child... it was their seventh pre-natal loss. They were devistated - and one individual (Christian) who wanted to provide solace and comfort said "That's okay, God must've needed another angel!". While I was standing there, mouth gaping wide open, wanting to slap them (thank goodness I'm a pacifist!) they followed up with the even better "well, at least you can try again!". I contained myself and had that person removed from the room and then had to help the family to regain composure. (That person got assigned to a different unit in the hospital, but I don't think they should work around anyone who has experienced loss of ANY kind!).
I think though, to get back to your question, that people, when they experience something earth-shattering, try to make it "managable" or "understandable". You might think that the hard part about being a chaplain is that we minister to people of all faiths (including none!) and try to help them come to terms with things in a way that is true to their faith path... it isn't. The REALLY hard part is telling people that sometimes shitty things happen, and there is no cause, there's noone to blame, and there is nothing that can be done to explain it. It is just life, and that just as we embrace the joys, we need to embrace the sorrow, loss, pain and suffering - because they are also part of the beautiful mosaic that is human life.
Hope that helped some. skater314159 :hippie:
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