for an amusing tale about a divorce proceedings....

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1. That is too funny....I must read of anyone going through a divorce.

I held onto the coveted "Grandmother Clock" his father had made for me. Since it had been made especially for ME, I made it an issue.
Yes, I liked it, and I adored his parents, but I was thinking long term. The other antiques I got which we had both paid for are an investment of sorts.
Oh, and as an aside, (he left me for another woman whom unbeknown to me, had his son 11 year prior). I discovered this once he moved out and I began going through all the "stuff". It was a shock. I knew of "a woman" whose father owned a dept store who had pursued him. I think this is the same woman since I noticed how steeply his standard of living rose. (living in expensive area and owned alot of rental property)
Anyway, I had my own attorney do the divorce. I managed to get this ex to agree to a division of property and it cost very little.

My last ex was the ex from hell. He threatened to beat me and had me all but cut off from my friends. He insisted on dinner being served at 6 pm sharp. He said in court that I tried to kill him by denying him sustenance when he had the flu. That lazy ass was already over the flu and I now had it and had to take care of our newborn baby by myself.
Eventually, I would go to HIS attorney when he did something wrong. Why run up my own attorney bills?
I was lucky to get out with my life in retrospect.
I find out now from my daughter who is 20, that he is on the prowl again. He wants to have a child, since "I denied him from being a father".
He is in his 50's, and I can tell you, he now wants someone to come and cook and clean for him. His mother is getting too old to do it.
If you want someone who is going to think it is funny to fart in your face, or to detain you from leaving the house for any reason...this is the man for you. If you want to have to beg to speak with your friends on the phone....I have his number.
He wants to have a child to try to entrap a woman.
Oh, sorry...he is a staunch Republican...did I turn you off?
Okay, I will say he is very intelligent which I admire in a man.
He just managed to mask the other stuff SO WELL!

It is long ago now...I was divorced from this clown in 1989.
Just try to work it out amongst yourselves on division of property and custody arrangements. I have seen too many people lose their property to pay for attorney bills. The longer it goes on, the more they make, and the longer you suffer. It is not just the attorney bills, but let me tell you that I paid dearly for court reporters when my ex never would show up.
I wish you all well. You will get through it....try to compromise.