Is there any regaining trust after infidelity?

[mrgorth]

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[villager]

1. I never did

though three years later, after the lying, homewrecking drunk she had her affair with turned out not to be such a great catch (surprise surprise) she is, admittedly, so wrung out that's she finally been forced to face herself in the mirror...

...in ways she never did when we were married...

[flakey_foont]

2. From experience

I wish that I could say that there was,
but, I don't believe that you can ever completely regain trust..
once a cheat, always a cheat

[wildhorses]

3. it is the trust in

one's self that must be regained. Trust that you can again make good choices. Trust that you can go own to be happy again. Trust that to thine own self be true. Trust that tomorrow is another day, a blank slate on which you write your own story. Do not worry about the 'ex...set them free to find their own destiny for yours has taken the road less traveled and there will be other opportunities set forth. This is where you must place your trust, in Yourself.

[TahitiNut]

4. I've found this to be true.

Trust, like happiness, is within. At the same time, we have a obligation to ourselves to care for our "personal ecology" (that which we include in our "world"). It took me a looong time to fully realize that 'love' is about me and not so much who I love. As I learn to love fuller and more deeply, I don't feel a frantic need to keep that which I love tightly nearby -- as though it or they are rare. I'm learning I live in an abundant Universe ... with many, many lovable people. Indeed, it's each person's birthright to be lovable and capable -- and my job to see it.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. i dont think there is

my ex cheated on me at the beginnning of our relationship and for years i thought i could deal with it...but it would always be there..somewhere at the back of my head i knew i didnt trust her...anyhow after living with that in my head for years...i finally decided to finish it off

the break up was about the most agonizing pain ever...but i dont think i could live with that for the rest of my life either


trust once broken cant be patched up fully....

[wildhorses]

6. only when you have forgotten

have you truly forgiven

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. yes there is...

atleast i like to believe so after having dated 2 whores in a single year...

but i think it comes slowly...but it comes alright

[wildhorses]

8. the thing is you have to forgive yourself and

for me that is the hardest thing to do.

[mzmolly]

9. I have friends who've worked through an affair.

It takes much from both partners.

I'm so sorry you've been suffering my friend. I hope there is a way to healing for your family.

:hug:

[LWolf]

10. No.

You can patch the relationship back together, but it is never the same. You never look at that person the same way again; there is an unspoken tension that does not dissipate. In my experience, of course.