I asked my wife for a divorce on Sunday night

[mrgorth]

I've had enough of not being loved. For the sake of her and the kids I endured a grueling week of vacation with her whole family. I'm hoping this will go well as I have told her I'm willing to give her most of everything she wants. She also knows I have her over a barrel if I need to use it. I'm going to start going down this road.

[HEAVYHEART]

1. How are things going?

[mrgorth]

2. Well,

our divorce agreement is signed and we're just waiting. I've already closed on my new place and I'm expecting to move in next weekend. Things are going better than can be expected. I'm really just a little nervous about some of the work I'm going to do on the house that weekend. That said, I tried to get off some of my meds recently and it hurt like hell. So I guess underneath all this stuff is a whole boatload of pain.

[muchacho]

3. Good luck

[swimmernsecretsea]

4. Just take a step.

That putting-the-foot-forward feels weird, but it gets better. Start small. It's hard. You're doing a good thing, even though it doesn't feel that way. Talk to someone, especially a professional. You go to a doctor for pain, and this is pain.

[ChairmanAgnostic]

5. be polite. be nice, and be fair.

not just for karma's sake, but because the divorce process is faster, cheaper, healthier, and less stressful. In any event, the end result will still be close to the same.

You got kids? that makes a huge difference. The way you behave is a major life's lesson for them. If you act professionally, they learn that lesson. If you continue to show respect to her, they learn that. If you don't the learn the wrong lessons.

NEVER, EVER used the kids as a messenger service.