First post for the group

[mrgorth]

I'm sorry for you that you even had to come here. Boy does this suck.

[SCDem]

1. Hey MrGoth

Sorry you had to create the group but thank you for doing so.

I attempted to settle things between my husband and I through a seperation agreement, he refused to accept to any terms and refused to get a lawyer so as of this Monday a complaint was filed and will be getting a date for a emergency temprary hearing to decide custody/visitation/support with the next few days, then next week my husband will be served. I'm scared as sh*t.

[mrgorth]

2. Actually

My the mrg are initials for my family and my last name is Orth. I'm not to divorce stage yet but everything seems headed that way. It's like I'm a passenger in a crashing car and I can't stop it.

[SCDem]

3. Well

I wish you all the luck in whatever happens and that within a year things are better than not. PM me with any stress or fears that you may have or questions if the divorce ball starts rolling since it I'm a couple months into it already.

[Magrittes Pipe]

4. "Passenger in a crashing car..."

Sounds familiar.

Mrs. Hedges and I found ourselves in the same boat -- er, car. So we took the wheel and drove it off a cliff. Don't get me wrong, there's lots about it that sucks. But we are now in control, and though she's now the soon-to-be-ex-Mrs. Hedges, we remain close -- that would have been impossible had we tilted at windmills and grown to resent each other.

This may not be what you want to hear.... it's certainly not *advice* -- if you can save your marriage, please, do so. This is just a post to let you know that it IS possible to have a "good divorce." It's just damn hard. Almost as hard as making a marriage work. ;)

However things turn out for you, I wish you the best of luck. :hi:

[Cheswick2.0]

5. my image was a train wreck headed at me and my kids

and I couldn't stop it.
If you want to stop it don't be affraid to try.
I was living in Florida when I divorced and I thought I had no options, but I did. I thought I did everything I could to stop the divorce but I did not.
On the other hand there may be a point where you just have no power. forgive yourself.

I am sorry for anyone going through divorce.