The "D" word

[Dervill Crow]

A friend of mine told me long ago that if someone uses the word "divorce," it means they are probably considering it. Do you think that is true?

I've pretty much single-handedly put us in a financial bind, and I got up this morning to find a list of solutions taped to my computer monitor, e.g., not spending on books, pedicures, internet, cell phones, etc., selling various household items, selling the house and getting an apartment, and lastly, divorce. I asked him if that was a threat if I don't shape up. My gut reaction is to tell him if he wants a divorce, fine! We've been married 33 years, since I was 19 and he was 21, and our youngest kid is 17.

[mrgorth]

1. Yes

but instead of going down that road I would advise you to work with him. You pretty much just admitted that you were bad with money (so am I) and if you are spending on all those things when in a bad spot you may have a problem. More, when you get out on your own you'll have noone to hold you back. Just because he's considering it doesn't mean he wants it.

[Dervill Crow]

2. Thank you for the voice of reason.

There's no reason I can't fix this if that's the only thing that's bugging him about me.

[mrgorth]

3. Divorce pretty much sucks

and if you can avoid it by helping to get finances in line I would try that.