Jointly owned house is selling;

[elleng]

separated 2+ years, since assaulted by husband (father of our 2 daughters.) I've been living on MY several retirement accounts; he's been living in house and working.

I say, 'When you get check, you'll write me one, right?' He says, 'I don't feel like giving you a large amount so you'll just spend it as you have in past.' Last part is b.s., as I've paid daughter's tuition AND rent and phone and utilities as well as my own, WITH MY RETIREMENT SAVINGS.

I'm VERY upset and anxious now, so ranting/writing here; I allowed myself to be under his emotional thumb for years, and still have evidence of related emotional trauma.

[SheilaT]

1. Do you have any kind

of legal paperwork in place? Is your name on the house? If it is, you should have not problem getting your share. If not, you need an attorney. And don't think you can't afford one. You can't afford not to have one.

[elleng]

2. Gotcha, Sheila.

We're both attorneys. Name WAS on house,25 years ago, joint tenancy. He begged me last year to sign quit claim so he could avoid a debt of some kind; never really explained it, but he made such a fuss, included getting our daughters to beg me, that I signed.

SO now I've got that issue. And yes, I know I need attorney.

Thanks

[SheilaT]

3. Oooh. Nothing I can say

can help at this point.

Good luck to you.

And just so you know I'm coming from a place of sympathy, my ex has stopped paying the maintenance for me, and I do have my attorney working on it.