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realFedUp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-08-09 09:31 PM
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Early in this divorce
My husband is a lawyer and I don't trust
him. He's been cheating on me he's said
for 6 months, but who really knows how long
since I don't trust him.

We are going the lawyer/mediator route first
and I've been reading everything I can to
catch up to a lawyer who's had one divorce
already.

I'm proud of myself. Somehow someone's watching
over me and my stronger, lawyerish person
has done the right things for me and I'm
holding my own against his knowledge and
snakey ways.

I'm taking my time. I'm staying in the house.
I'm not making a final decision til we get
a settlement agreement. I'm taking care of me
and my future because he quit caring about
those a ways back.
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PassingFair Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jul-10-09 11:04 PM
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1. Sorry you're having to go through this.
I hope you get through it quickly.

:hug:
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realFedUp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-12-09 09:11 AM
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5. Actually slow is good
I'm staying put until a settlement agreement
is signed. I'd recommend taking your time.
The marriage was a long one...why should it
end in perhaps haste and rapid changes in
your lifestyle?

Thank you for your sympathies though.
Very appreciated.
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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-11-09 07:15 PM
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2. I hope you've got YOUR OWN LAWYER.
My husb and I are BOTH lawyers. Don't make no difference. He thinks he knows it all, and I know that he DOESN'T! Neither of us practice in this jurisdiction.

PLEASE protect yourself.

:hi:
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realFedUp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-12-09 09:08 AM
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3. I have been hearing that from galfriends also
I'm going to go the mediator route
first and know that I can get a
lawyer in collaborative law.
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realFedUp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-12-09 09:09 AM
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4. Feel free to tweet
@libbybreen
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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-12-09 09:21 AM
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7. I haven't tweeted!
You may pm me!

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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-12-09 09:20 AM
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6. Consulting a lawyer would inform you of the several options,
how they work, how your husb might take advantage of you one way or another.

I understand and appreciate your approach, but I would feel better knowing that you'd consulted with an attorney. How, for example, did you learn about the 'mediator' route, and decide to use it?

GOOD LUCK!
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