Is it ok for me to come here?

[lukasahero]

Just lost my dad, my hero.

Still, it feels less than those who have lost a spouse or child. He was 80. He lived an amazing life.

He was still my compass.

He passed on Feb. 27 but I haven't really started the process of grieving yet. I'm still in the "movie" mode. (Surely this must be someone else we're talking about, not my dad.)

I go back to work tomorrow and don't know how the world can possibly go on when my dad is gone.

He was carving the turkey at thxsgvg - how can he possibly be gone so fast?

Anyway, sorry for intruding. I have to talk this out.

[livetohike]

1. My sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your Dad

:hug: I hope the memories of good times with your Dad will help ease the shock and sadness and erase the pain of the past week. It sounds like you may have some great memories/

I lost my Dad at age 80, too. He had pancreatic cancer and was gone in three weeks from his diagnosis. It was a shock (but his father died of the same disease, and lasted six months) and we thought we would have more time, or there would be a way our Dad would beat it.

There are some wonderful people active in this group. Please come here and let us know how you are doing or if you just want to talk. :hug:

[auntAgonist]

2. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your memories of your wonderful

Dad will sustain you. That's how you go on I think. The love and warmth he placed within you stays with you day to day even hour to hour.

It all sounds so surreal doesn't it? The loss, the talking of those we love in past tense, it just doesn't seem right.

I hope you will share some of your memories with us and let us help in any way we can, to ease your hurt and try to help you through the days.

Please DO talk it out and know that you are NEVER EVER intruding here. Sadly now, you're one of us.
You are someone who has loved, been loved and will continue to love ...and yes you've lost too. :hug:

welcome to our little family.

aA
kesha

[auntAgonist]

3. I was thinking of you many times this week and hoping

that the days weren't too stressful for you. Back to routine isn't always what it's cracked up to be is it?

Anyway, know that good thoughts are coming your way.

:hug:

aA
kesha

[RevCheesehead]

4. Of course it's OK for you to be here!

Grief is not a contest... it comes to all of us, eventually. You are most welcome here.

I came to this group when my mom died 4 years ago. I still grieve, and I miss her every day. Somehow, in the last 4 years, I have managed to keep going on the good days... and when I need to stop and cry, I do.

Everyone grieves in their own way, and nobody can show you how to do it. You must find your own way. That's why we're here - to help you sort it all out, or just to listen if you need an ear.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ruth

[WheelWalker]

5. You know, I lost my dad in 1976; and even thought I'm

60 years old, and he's been gone almost 35 years, he's still getting smarter every day.

[tango-tee]

6. Your dad must have been a good father,

if he is still your internal compass. I don't know your age, but you know what? My dad is still my guide in so many ways, and Dad died when I was already 53 years old. Often, when things become difficult, I have a "conversation" with him, and in my mind's eye I see him sitting in his favorite chair, having that thoughtful look on his face as we're debating what to do.

Dear friend, you are not intruding in the least. You are among like-minded people, trying to make sense of their losses and putting the pieces of life back together. It's a long, hard road for all of us, but this is also why we have this wonderful place to share our sorrows and pain.



:hug: