Just got one of those calls

[pecwae]

Husband just let me know that a dear friend of ours will be taken off life support tonight. This is a gracious, life loving man who was my huband's boss for a time (Director of Career Services, Appalachian State University) and my husband's one good friend over the past 9 years.

He had retired just 8 months ago, still worked a bit, but had decided last week to completely stop working and travel to enjoy his retirement.

He was coming home from visiting his son in Mississippi, felt odd, pulled over and called 911. He apparently went on to have a massive stroke.

My husband had to leave work to drive around by himself for a while. I'm sitting here in tears wondering 'why, why, why.' You know, again, another vibrant life just gone in the blink of an eye and nothing anyone, anywhere can do about it.

To you Dr. David Ball. To all the joy and fun and smiles you brought to others. To the friendship you extended to my shy husband. I wish you all godspeed. You will be missed by so many; too many to count.

[auntAgonist]

1. pecwae, life hardly seems fair does it?

I'm so sorry for your loss. For your husband who's lost a great friend, my heartfelt sympathy. Friends are so hard to come by. Especially the really true friends. May you BOTH find comfort in the fond memories of Dr David Ball.

My condolences to his family and colleagues.

aA
:hug:

[pecwae]

2. Thank you aA

You're always here for us.

I just found out that David was conscious enough after his calling 911 to call his brother and his SO in NC. He will be buried in MS tomorrow next to his parents and his SO made it down there in time to be with him at the end.

This, my son's death anniversary, my father's death anniversary, the continuing useless deaths of our military and Iraqi's, add the damn enforced cheer and admonishments to go shopping for the season....sometimes it's too much to bear. There's so much suffering in this world.

[auntAgonist]

3. I wish I could

:hug: you. This is such a difficult time for you and your family. You make a difference though, really you do. You're here speaking out about atrocities, you're caring and loving. You hold dear the memory of your son. He lives on in your heart. You have each other, you and your husband, a daughter whom you love very much. I hope you find joy and peace this coming year.

:hug:
kesha.

[flamingyouth]

4. Oh, I'm so sorry, my dear pecwae

I can't tell you how bad I feel reading this. My heart goes out to you and your husband on the sudden loss of this wonderful man. My condolences to his family as well. I'm so sorry. :hug:

[pecwae]

5. Thank you fy

I know you have sorrows of your own and it means so much to have you here to listen. This and Cancer Support have become my safe places and I cherish them and all of you.:hug:

[havocmom]

6. Strength and healing to you, pecwae.

Know the missing part is hard, but he sounds like a man whose life should be celebrated. Sometimes there is comfort in REALLY appreciating the good someone did, and then making a commitment to incorporate some of their fine qualities into our own being.

We can keep some of their spirit alive by working toward the qualities we admired about them.

Sending energy to you this winter night.

hm