I first posted in the introduction thread here in March of 2005....

[erinlough]

when I lost my sister Nan. Since then I have been caring first for my mother who had heart problems, cancer, and was 87. She died in April of this year of a massive stroke, the only death we were not expecting. Her death hit my father very hard, actually it decimated the whole family.

At her funeral my Father told my sister and I that his legs were painfully swollen. He was diagnosed with a rare disease called Wegeners and lost his kidneys. We gave him at home dialysis for seven months until he fell during the night and did not know where he was. When he realized what had happened he decided to stop dialysis after consulting with his doctors. He explained that he was done because he knew he was only going to keep going down-hill and he didn't want to live that way.

He called in all of his grandchildren and explained his decision and Last week, on Friday, he stopped his dialysis and he died 8 days later. It was a dignified and peaceful death. I will always miss him, he was so brave.

Then today my husband got a call and his mother has died. I don't even have any feelings left.....

[easttexaslefty]

1. I'm so sorry, erinlough

If you ever want to vent or cyber-cry,I am here for you.
Peace,

[RevCheesehead]

2. I am so very, very sorry.

God bless you during this time. Holidays make it extra tough. :hug::hug:

[livetohike]

3. My sympathy to you and your family erinlough and

a big :hug: for you all. Your Dad was very brave to choose his time....I hope you all find some peace this holiday season.

[erinlough]

4. Thanks all of you

we just got home from our first Christmas Eve without everyone. It was so different, but we held together. There were times in the past when we had 28 people over for Christmas, it was my mom's time of the year. Tonight there was only 14 of us......next year will be better.

You won't believe this but tonight my son got a call from his father, not my husband any more, and my ex's mother died on the 22nd. My poor son lost all of his grandparents in one year. Life is wierd isn't it?

[pecwae]

5. So much to have to endure

I'm so sorry for your losses. Everyone here understands about grief and are here for you.

:grouphug: