Today was my uncle's memorial service.

[RevCheesehead]

It was a terrific service in an ELCA (Lutheran) church, with a really terrific pastor. I was thrilled when I went into his office, and his laptop was streaming Friday's edition of Countdown!!

I gave the sermon/memorial, and did the committal service at the cemetery. It was a very moving and emotional day, filled with all kinds of love. Unfortunately, my Dad was unable to make it. He's 89, and can no longer travel long distances. I brought a notebook with me, so many people could write messages for him.

Later in the afternoon, we went to my uncle's house, which was literally falling apart... filthy, layers of dust at least an inch thick, etc... And I saw the bedroom, and the bloodstains on the headboard of the bed and the wall. That was tough, but also in a way, healing.

All I can say is that I know in my heart that Ernie is at peace. Before I drove home, I stopped at the cemetery again, to spend some time with Ernie, my grandparents, and my uncle Paul (who died in 1945). I was listening to the Durufle and Faure requiems, and played them all the way home. The most amazing peace came over me, and as the sun set over the hills of northern Wisconsin, a few deer came out to greet me on my way home.

[auntAgonist]

1. Rev..

I can't think of anything to say. I've backspaced a dozen times. I'll just leave you a :hug:

:loveya:


aA
kesha

[RevCheesehead]

3. Thanks, Kesha.

:hug: back atcha!

[Tikki]

2. You are a kind and compassionate....

person.
You are there for others...we are here for you.

To know that you are at peace with loving memories
of your Uncle makes me believe that those feelings
after a loss could truly be attainable.

Tikki

[RevCheesehead]

4. Oh, they are, indeed!

But it takes time, Tikki. Lots and lots of time - especially when it's someone who's been a significant part of your life.

It's taken me about two years to find that deep peace with my Mom. And 17 years ago, when my best friend was murdered, it took me at least four years. Some of it comes with maturity, no doubt; but some of it comes from the experience of loss. Keep in mind, also, that as a pastor, I deal with funerals and grief quite a bit - but not at that deep personal level.

You will find peace. I KNOW it. :hug:O8)