Biden's Dad's Advice: "Joey, Get up. Get up."

[Kire]

"Success is not measured by when you get knocked down, it's how quickly you get up."

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=385x173299



This ain't just talk about hope and change. This is real.

[auntAgonist]

1. I don't understand why this is posted in the bereavement group.

[Kire]

2. I'm not really the right person to ask right now.

Maybe someone who posted in the thread I linked to is in a better place right now.

I suggest starting with gateley.

[auntAgonist]

3. The video is very moving and I thank you for the link to it.

It does show the strength and fortitude needed to go on in the face of death, adversity and life's challenges.

I only asked because I wasn't sure why you posted it here. I read the thread that you linked.

I'm sorry you're not in "a better place right now"

I don't know what it is you're dealing with but please feel free to let us know here if you need a sounding board. There are a lot of wonderful people on this group.

:hug:
aA
kesha

[Kire]

4. okay, hi, I'm somewhat better now

yeah, like I told gately, my dad isn't around anymore to tell me to get up, and I haven't been getting up. I've been going to work doing the best I can, but it never seemed enough. i don't want to get into everything, but I was always living my life based on not offending other people.

It's a huge combination of things, check out my journal posts 63 to 67.

But, I'm getting back now. I came very close to losing my job again about a month ago. Very close. And I was unemployed for three years between 2003 and 2006, so that's terrifying. But, I survived. One of those journal posts tells the story.

It's a whole combination of things, but I think I am more prepared than ever to get back into life. My thinking is different. I'm not scared to go out and interact with people. I even sat and helped (or tried to help the best I could) my Aunt with a map yesterday, and we learned a lot.

I'm getting up, and I'm also letting go. I don't feel like I'm forced to get up at the last minute and rush, rush, rush anymore.

I hope you know what I'm saying. It's really wonderful.

I lost my Dad, my best friend and another mentor who was imporatant to me all in less than a year in 2003. Biden talks about how he felt guilty about getting back into life with his wife and daughter killed tragically. Ding. Ding. Ding. Hello. That's so me.

I'm sorry. I'm supposed to be going to bed a while ago. I'll talk later.

Kire

[RevCheesehead]

5. Thanks for sharing your story, Kire.

I think we can relate to how grief paralyzes us, and how we feel guilty when we try to go on with our lives.

Two years after my Mom's death, I'm finally seeking counseling, because I cannot do it by myself, and I need to heal.

Biden's words resonated with me, too. :hug:

[Kire]

6. It took me two months to even cry at all after my Dad died in 2003

And I had a lot of counselors around me.

People were saying I was the "stong one", whatever that means. Two or three years later, everything fell apart.

Only in the past few weeks have I felt like saving the details for a memoir I might write after I make a name for myself.

It's strange, but if I let myself go with feeling like "that's weird" or that it should be any other way than the way it is, that's when problems start to happen. There are times and places for everything, and that kind of thing is exactly what therapy is for.

I hope you find a good one.

[RevCheesehead]

7. Thank you, Kire.

And best of wishes in your path to healing, too. :hug:

[Kire]

8. You're welcome.

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[auntAgonist]

9. Kire, I can so relate to what you're saying here.

I too was the strong one in my family. When my mother was diagnosed with cancer I cried like a baby and then got down to business. Went to all the Dr appointments. Helped her decide on her treatment. Anything and everything I could do to keep the family centred, that was me. I was raising 3 boys at the time, one of my own and two foster children. My husband was a long distance truck driver and I handled everything alone. I also worked for a funeral home in hopes of being accepted into a funeral director program at Humber College in Toronto.

When my mother died, I went to the funeral home, having prearranged everything. I made sure all the details were in order. I prepared my mother's body. I did not embalm her, a licensed director did that. I did do her makeup, hair and dressing. I placed her in her casket and never shed a tear. I did have a bit of a meltdown at the viewing but quickly pulled myself up so that no one could see my 'weakness'.

Months later, my life fell apart. I divorced. Lost everything I had. And never thought I'd recover.
I did though. It's been 11 years since my Mum died. Not a day goes by I don't think about her.


ackk now I'm rambling ..

:hug: to you Kire, thank you for sharing and bringing out some thoughts ...


aA
kesha.

[Kire]

10. I'm sorry

keep your sense of humor

It's good to see you're on your way back up from where you were.

thank you for sharing.

Kire,