Once in an Al Anon meeting, I heard someone say, "When I was a kid, when

[raccoon]

something bad happened to me, my family acted like it was my fault for LETTING IT HAPPEN."

Boy, could I relate. Just thought I'd share that with you all.

[NMDemDist2]

1. hehe

interesting

thanks for sharing!! hope you can share more knowledge of Alanon with the folks who come by asking us drunks about interventions etc. Your input would be valuable

:hi:

[Kajsa]

2. Man, I can relate to that, too.

As a recovering alki and an ACA, I remember my Dad
delegating duties, responsibilities and blame on us.
This is while he was still drinking.

Once he sobered up, he did a 180 and started taking
responsibility for his actions.

He also stopped blaming others for things that were
out of their control, i.e. what you're talking about.

It's all in our 12 steps- we aren't in charge, but we
sure ask for direction.

The Serenity Prayer states it best.

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Thanks for sharing, we need you.

:hi:

[Why Syzygy]

3. As the oldest

child, I was responsible for everything. It got really dysfunctional when I was in high school and my parents weren't getting along. I did manage to extricate myself from that family 'role'.