I got a call before 6 am

[Why Syzygy]

from a fellow alcoholic. I won't even describe the history. He just wanted to yell at me.
Strange, but I don't need to yell any more. I just kept affirming him.
Don't know if I will hear from him again. Hope so.

Just prayers, please.

[NMDemDist2]

1. was he drunk? n/t

[Why Syzygy]

2. Yes

we have a bit of history. But, yes. He was on a drunk rant.
I think maybe some of the things I said got thru, but who's to know.

edit: I'll add more. How come birds of a feather flock together? It never fails!
Two years ago, I was dry and was on an email list for other drys. I hate to use the term Sober until someone is committed to the journey ... and I piped up and said, I want to move to Austin. Any ideas? He lives here. We had phone conversations. It became apparent that he drank on Thursday nighs. He is a felon Dui... which I find so bizarre. But he has intelligence, worked for nasa, same degree my son has, mechanical engineer. I'm a softy for the brainiacs.
I was DRY . 45 days ... I made sure that our first meeting was over by Wednesday, because I did not want to see him drunk. It went well. But then I came and stayed the month of December. Four Thursdays. After I moved here, less than 2 miles from his place, I had many happy full moons in his hot tub, which I cleaned.

It got screwy. His drunk thing. My drunk thing.

I'm hoping for reconciliation. But I know if he is still drinking, which from all appearances he is. it ain't gonna happen.

Damn. He is so smart. What a waste.

[NMDemDist2]

3. talking to a drunk is just talking to the disease

but you never know huh? :shrug:

[Kajsa]

4. If he's a blackout drinker,

he probably won't remember most if not all of
what happened.

I'm speaking from years of personal experience.

[Why Syzygy]

5. He is.

We've had dozens of conversations and experiences he never remembered. I haven't had any contact with him for almost a year. We had one follow up conversation, but this is one relationship I intend to stay away from (contrary to OP). I've met so many happy sober people over the past few months. What a difference!

[Kajsa]

6. That's a good idea.

If he should call you again when he's drunk,
just tell him, " don't call me when you're drunk."

My sponsor use to hang up on me when I called her
after downing " a few".
She told me later that she could " smell" the booze over the
phone. ;-)

It took me a while to get with the program.
She's still my sponsor, many years later.

[Why Syzygy]

7. True.

Sober people don't enjoy talking to drunk people. I relapsed (on purpose) after a year one time.
My sponsor told me I was bordering on abusive and I should not call her again until I was sober a week.

Drunks get lonely. They want someone to LISTEN. I fully understand that.

I used to turn my phone off when this guy called. He kept me up all night many times, even when I was sober. I listened. No way to talk when he got his mouth in gear. Yeah. That sounds like abuse.

Good going on the sponsor. I dread getting another one.

[SPKrazy]

8. I Wouldn't Talk To A Drunk

unless I want to be yelled at.

I'm not judging you, I'm just saying that for me.

I hate this disease, and i can't do anything for someone who is drunk except I could listen to them.

Call me when you sober up is what I'd say.