Letting go...

[SPKrazy]

and realizing that we can't change anyone but ourselves...

that is truly the key to living recovery i think.

I struggle with that, I worry about others I know that don't have recovery.

I want to give it to them, but I can't.

I love people with problems, but love won't stop alcoholism.

Just thought I'd put that out there today.

Thanks

:hi:

:hug:

[NMDemDist2]

1. .....

:hug:

thinking of letting go always sends me to Dr, Paul's story. Not the "acceptance is the key" part but the part where he talks about where you put you attention.

as in "if I think about the problem, the problem increases, if I think about the solution, the solution increases."

It reminds me to stay in the solution yanno?

[SPKrazy]

2. yah

i know

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

3. focusing on the solution tonight

'cause the problem

well it is cunning, baffling, powerful

and it waits for me

and it envelops others

and I hurt for them, but can only pray and do for me what I can do

God grant me the serenity
to accept the people I cannot change
the courage to change the people I can,
and the wisdom to know it's ME.

:hug:

:grouphug:

[NMDemDist2]

4. wise prayer my friend

:hug:

hang in there and keep doing the work, it will get better

[Kajsa]

5. We are constantly dealing with that dilemma.

'Carry the message, not the person' ( did I get that right?)

Remember, for every one of us in recovery, we have nine brothers/sisters
still out there, drinking and using.

I never forget that.


:hug:

[SPKrazy]

6. ...

:hug: :hug:

[KitchenWitch]

7. Always the most difficult but yet most rewarding concept to apply for me.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

8. I'm still on this

but I realize today (again) that I can't change anyone but myself, and I can't stop someone else from drinking and I can't handle their drinking.

:hi:

[DemReadingDU]

9. That's hard

I'm struggling with this with my son. Thanks for everyone's words of encouragement.

[NMDemDist2]

11. tell me about bro

I'm watching my stepmom down 6 oz of gin in spite of being told not to drink today after her surgery...

sigh

anything beyond the tip of my nose is none of my business

you don't know how many times I've had to remind myself of that today

:hug:

[Justpat]

10. Letting Go was one of the most freeing concepts I learned in AA.

I was so exhausted from trying to make the world see things from my point of view.

The fact that I was a drunk never deterred me from trying to fix others and the world.
Man, that is such hard work.

I am no longer in charge of the universe - just my little corner of it and I have a lot
more energy to do things that are actually useful sometimes.

The program is a psychiatric do it yourself kit and letting do is a big item in my toolbox.


much love to you. OB