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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 01:44 PM
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Sometimes I hate being an immigrant, a woman and Queer
Edited on Mon Aug-27-07 01:45 PM by lionesspriyanka
the combination is just too much. its one thing when you dont fit in, in any one category. But to not fit it, in multiple ways in society is very taxing.

For instance i find my fellow indian immigrants to be VERY socially conservative, homophobic and sexist. Yet we share a large cultural heritage.

In American society I will always be exotic.

Maybe what i am trying to say, is that its hard to be exotic and at outsider at all times.

I am posting this here because i had this really annoying cab driver this morning, and I realized that he felt entitled to question my life because he is a man. And thats just it. This incident made me realize my lack of fit.


http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=6871452&mesg_id=6871452


Sorry for such a strange rant





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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 02:15 PM
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1. I wish I could offer some type of positive response.
I can't think of anything positive to say to this. I'm sorry.

I've often felt like I don't fit in anywhere but if I'm sitting down, hide my hardware, and keep my mouth shut I get all the benefits of being just another US born white guy. I'm not sure that I could easily imagine the day to day hassles you deal with.

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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 02:16 PM
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2. you know i left india partly because i couldnt stand the scrutiny in my private life
this is why i like to live in manhattan so much, i prefer the anonymity rather than dealing with this.

thanks thom. i am just really depressed about this crap today.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 02:18 PM
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3. I didn't reply to your cab driver story because I was fuming at the idiocy of that remark
Of course you MUST be a virgin because lesbians don't have penises. Aargh.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 02:19 PM
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4. yeah, but more importantly he would have never said this to an american girl
Edited on Mon Aug-27-07 02:19 PM by lionesspriyanka
he only said it to me because he felt entitled.

as an indian woman he assumes i should be subservient to him.

:(
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 03:01 PM
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5. Ahh. That of course does make it easier for him.
Foreign women being so docile and all. :banghead:
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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-27-07 08:25 PM
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6. Not strange
There is that sense of the "exotic" in America, especially among white American males. A brown skinned women is perceived as more available, more sexual, sometimes in a visceral way, sometimes through outright racism.

Some men, as I'm sure you know, think lesbians are basically 'only kidding' and what they REALLY want is a male to complete them-- No real concept of the deep emotional, mental, physical and spiritual love one women can have for another that has nothing to do with being male.

The virgin thing. Gods. What an idiot.

It compares to how the pan-Asian women is perceived, compliant, servile, obedient, AND sexual.

Sorry you have to go through this shit.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-28-07 06:43 AM
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7. well its not just white men, i get the worst from men from the subcontinent
because they cannot believe a woman would betray her culture in this manner.

:puke: :cry:
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-31-07 08:14 PM
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8. Ugh, the proprietary attitude
Hey, we're from the same continent so I have the right to tell you what to do.
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