...from an article I linked in the irr forum on this topic:
Quote from article:
Yellow FeverThey got it bad, and that ain’t good
By VICKIE CHANG
Thursday, November 2, 2006 - 3:00 pm
Whatcha drinking? Photo by Jennie Warren. Makeup by Bill Child Born and raised in La Habra, Dan* didn’t see many Asian Americans before college. Now 22, he attributes his Asiaphilia to UC Irvine, where he’s a studio art major and an astounding 58 percent of students claim Asian descent.
But his Asian fetish actually originated in high school, in trig class, where he met a Vietnamese American girl named Ann. Although born in the United States, Ann was raised in Indonesia until about a year before Dan met her. She spoke English well, but not perfectly. They shared the standard high school dating experience: dinner-and-movie dates, study dates, boba dates, kung fu lessons, meditation with the girlfriend’s Buddhist monk uncle. The relationship ended in a pretty standard way, too: Dan suggested sex, Ann resisted, things spiraled. There was an ultimatum and then a breakup, and then—classic—threats of suicide.
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http://www.ocweekly.com/news/news/yellow-fever/26126/We were discussing the issue of being "fetishized." To wake up and realize someone is with you because of some superficial, weird, idealized fantasy of who (and what) they think you are is eye opening and not at all fun. Been there, done that, got the shitty t-shirt from the trip. :eyes:
A very well stated post from irr forum, regarding "fantasy casting." Says it so much better than I could.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=289&topic_id=20#559