What message did you get about drugs from your parents?

[Locut0s]

1.I will disown you if you take drugs!

2.Never EVER take drugs of ANY type!

3.Never take hard drugs! Don't take pot either, but their message on pot was softer.

4.Don't take hard drugs. My parents don't really care if I were to take pot.

5.I never got any negative messages about taking any types of drugs.

There are basically two stereotypes when it comes to drugs and parents. There's the "even an once of pot will kill you and I will disown you if you take it" and then there's the "want to share a joint son". Truth is most of us grew up with parents somewhere in the middle, probably closer to the first than the second. What message did you get about drugs from your parents?

Personally I've grown up with parents who are quite open about such things. I've never received a positive message about drugs and have always been steered away from them but I've never exactly been given the "don't take drugs" speech either. My father took marijuana a couple of times and found the experience rather disturbing I understand, he was suffering from depression at the time and had a nervous break down around that time. Having suffered from depression myself I've always been wary of trying pot. Still I know that while my parents might not be exactly happy if I did try it they wouldn't flip out either. At some point in life I may try it but it won't be from peer pressure or alienation. And both of us know I will never try hard drugs.

[pitohui]

1. do as i do and not as i say

message -- we are the parents and so we can take drugs and you had better damn well not notice it either but in case you do we are the parents and do as i do and not as i say

can't imagine my mom sharing a joint, she was the classic 60s/70s mother's little helper, you get drugs from your doctor heh heh

and don't get me wrong, my mom was and is not an addict, she just took pills because it was suburbia and all suburbia was on pills back then, that's just the way of the wicked world i suppose, we all did drugs in the 70s, even moms!


as far as pot, i doubt they smoked any, but when i did or when my brother did, they pretended they didn't notice, so maybe they did notice, i will have to ask now that we have gotten to middle age and not landed in jail, perhaps we can all share a laugh! heh heh

first rule of fight club, don't embarrass the 'rents by asking if they were in fight club, this ain't a sorority where you get points for being a legacy

:-)

[Horse with no Name]

My Dad's message was simple

Do drugs and I will kick your ass. It worked. I believed him.

[shenmue]

6. Mine too...

:7

He even nearly smacked me when he saw me with candy cigarettes. I still remember shaking as I held up the box and showed him it was just fake.

[Skidmore]

18. Sounds like we had the same parental units. LOL!

Unfortunately, a couple of my brothers did not listen and had to hit rock bottom before getting their lives back together again.

[xultar]

14. Ditto for me too. I'm still skeerd!

:scared:

[Blue Diadem]

30. Mine was "do anything wrong and I'll kick

your ass" and that included even if he thought I did something I hadn't done because I'd probably thought about it anyway.

[noamnety]

2. cigarettes are the work of the devil

we sort of moved up from there in severity. :)

My mom would start fights over people smoking in nonsmoking areas, which used to be really common (for you young ones). I remember a grand one she started with some guy smoking while we were in line to check in at the airport.

My dad used to gather up the subscription postcard and envelope inserts from magazines, the prepaid ones, and scrawl across them in permanent marker NO MORE CIGARETTE ADS and mail them in.

[cynatnite]

3. Never was told not to do anything...

It's kind of weird, though, when I think about it. I wasn't told, but I stayed pretty busy at school with drama/debate, basketball, dances and everything else. I had no time to get in trouble, try drugs or even drink that much.

It wasn't until after I graduated high school that I tried pot and speed. It was okay. :shrug:

Stayed drunk for almost two years in Europe.

Now, I'm lucky if I take a drink twice a year and do smoke.

[Broken_Hero]

4. Dont do drugs, or

1. YOu will rot in hell

2. You will burn in hell

3. You will burn for eternity

4. You will die if you do drugs...

5. If you die, from taking drugs, you will burn in hell

6. If you snort any drugs into your brain, your brain will burn, and then you will burn in hell


See a theme here? :)

[Skip Intro]

5. "don't do it or I'll kill ya"

that was the message

although,I must say, years later, that message failed miserably

:smoke:

[Random_Australian]

7. My parents are way more tolerant of me smoking pot than I am.

But then I have been hiding mental illness from them. ;)

[EC]

8. None,

It just never came up...But with my daughter, I told her not to touch anything until she was over 18, to give her brain a chance to develop and then she could make informed decisions...we both settled for pot after much research and she says she waited until she was close to 18...

[cynatnite]

10. Neither of my kids were ever interested in any kind of drugs

They've tried alcohol, but won't touch anything else. It wasn't that we told them not to. We mainly wanted them informed.

I think part of it was they watched friends of theirs get pretty messed up by drugs and want no part of it.

[DanCa]

9. My parents never brought it up

All though my parents had a shit fit when I started playing Dungeons and Dragons.

[msgadget]

11. #1 except it was more like,

"You'll get addicted - ah yes, that pot is addictive too, don't let them fool you - and ruin your life and subject yourself to jail time. Do you thik I'll visit you in jail? Well, I wont. So, if you do drugs and you get caught don't call me. And, don't be dumb enough to associate with people who do drugs and end up being arrested with them. You can't survive jail. You hear me? Now go clean your room!"

She didn't say anything about alcohol though...until I tried it and was - of course - caught. I didn't need a lot of talking to. No way was I daring enough to risk being caught and pot smokers were too cool to associate with me anyway.

[deadcenter]

12. my parents

taught my brother and sister and I to be free thinkers and to make up our own minds regarding how we would go through life, affected or unaffected by alcohol or drugs.

[laundry_queen]

15. Mine too.

They even told us that, yes, once upon a time they smoked pot, but that it was no big deal, they didn't care for it, and they slowly stopped doing it as they got older and had kids.
My siblings and I have never even tried it. We just never got around to it. LOL.

[don954]

13. they just told me the facts:, "here is what they do to ya, and here is the

dangers of hard drugs. Don't ever do hard drugs cause i love you too much. I don't want you to do pot either 'cause it will make you slow and stupid if you do it while you are developing. If you ever get in trouble at a party, call, no punishment will come of it, i just want you safe.."

I never even took one toke. I have had ample opportunity to, but I just don't feel like it. No forbidden fruit i guess.

Now in the hospital, when I got sick one time, i was put on some really, really heavy pain killers by injection for a week solid. I still have cravings to feel that numbing, tingling, drift off feeling again... that scares me, and because of that, i stay as far away from them as possible..

[NMMNG]

16. 5. No negative messages about drugs

The subject never came up at all. :shrug:

[ET Awful]

17. Don't steal my stash . . .

Yup, that's about it. :P

[Yollam]

19. I never got messages of any kind about drugs from my folks...

Until I was a teen and fell in with some people at work at a pizza joint who used cocaine. I started using it, staying out all night, acting weird, and selling things to get more. They eventually confronted me, and I apologized, quit the job and the drugs - and the bad friends. I went through other things in my early 20's, but never used hard drugs again. I did use marijuana a couple times, the last being about 8 years ago, but now that I have kids, I would feel kind of embarrassed to smoke grass. There's something kind of sad about a person in his 30s who STILL hasn't outgrown pot.

But no, my folks were never very moralistic about it. It seems a little unrealistic to expect kids to never experiment. Just about everyone I knew, from geeks to cool kids experimented at least a bit. And this was in the "Just Say No" eighties.

[W_HAMILTON]

20. I guess #5

My parents really never talked to me about drugs, or sex, or anything like that. On the bright side, I turned out pretty well. Never did drugs. Don't really even drink. Tried a cigarette once when I was like 12, found out there's a reason they call it smoking (since that's the only thing I got out of it), and have never smoked again.

I fully believe in you are responsible for yourself, for the most part. In the end, kids will do what they want. Don't preach to them so much, just raise them to make the best choices, and hope for the best. Usually if you do this, everything will turn out okay.

[supernova]

21. It was very nuanced

I'd say it was basically a 5 with the following addons:

1) Drugs are sometimes appropriate (They are medicine; they help us stay healthy. Both my parents worked in hospitals.)
2) Always follow the instructions on drugs.
2) Self control is of prime importance.
3) If you take them illegally or recreationally you can lose control (see #2) (i.e., the drug takes control, not you).

So, it was a lot more involved than "drugs are bad; don't do it."

[cali]

22. Heh,

I'll never forget the bizarre don't do drugs talk my father gave me, which veered off into a tale of his doing mescaline with Huxley.

[porphyrian]

23. 3.

My parents are older than other people my age, and would more closely resemble Baby Boomers' parents.

I didn't do any drugs until I was out of high school. Then, as I learned empirically how much of the anti-drug propaganda was bullshit, I experimented more than I probably would have were I not lied to.

I eventually came to decide that the only drug I really liked was pot. It's just stupid that it's illegal. I hardly even drink anymore.

[bfam9913]

24. When I was a teenager, my father made it clear that...

When I was a teenager, my father made it clear that if he found out that I had taken any drugs, he would blister my ass, ground me for life, or hand me over to the police himself, and let me rot in jail. Now, I'm not sure if he would have stuck to the police and jail part but, I'm sure of the rest of it and that was deterrent enough for me. Looking back, I'm glad that he was that harsh even though I didn't truly appreciate it at the time.

[seabeyond]

25. my boys have been culted in school, one experience with drug, death

i pull them away from that. explain that isnt true. the fear fear fear we do with our children cause we are so fearful of what might happen we go to extreme to keep them off. i tell them honestly about the drug world. we have addiction in our familyl. no one knows who it will hit and with what drug or alcohol will take hold so gotta be careful and aware. there are also drugs out there that will cause incredible damage to body and lifes journey. as they get older i will talk about individual drugs mre and provide them with the information. it is personal choice, even with my kids. the best i can do is give the honest information and hope the will be cognitive about the repercussions of experimentation.

[sproutster]

26. Haha I have a funny story about that

My father (he died when I was 12) was adamently against drugs. Always throughout our childhood we heard and knew this. The message was crystal.

So me and my sister are sitting around talking in our 30's. She tells me - Oh my husband figured out our dad was a big pothead. I'm like, NO WAY. She starts giggling and says how she told him what a good plant person he was in the early 80's. I'm nodding because I remember this. How he had tinfoil up and plant grow lights in the basement. ...OMG HE WAS GROWING POT! LOL we always thought it was tomatoes. Neither of us thought any different until someone who didn't know him said... UH, Honey...

[NaturalHigh]

27. My parents never did any kind of drugs...

and neither did I. Of course, I enjoy a beer occasionally while they're pretty much teetotalers, and they still hate it that I smoke.

[Gormy Cuss]

28. Don't do illegal drugs because you don't want to go to jail.

Don't drink or smoke until you're old enough to buy them legally.
Once you're old enough, try not to be an idiot about it.

[Bigmack]

29. They smoked two pack a day each....

... and smoked heavily in a closed car with me in it. I never smoked..... cigarettes. They both died of smoking-related diseases.

They never told me to not do drugs. It never came up.

A much better story comes from my friends in SoCal. They were beachbums/hippies in the 70's when they had kids. When the kids got older, they told them "Don't you DARE bring drugs into this house..... unless you share them with your parents!"

I've talked to the two boys... in their 30's now.. and they agree that the family that tokes together stays together. Both are well educated and hold professional jobs.

[ContraBass Black]

31. Now that I think about it, I don't think it ever came up.

I've never had more than a sip of alcohol, smoked, taken an injection that wasn't a vaccination, or taken a pill stronger than Motrin that wasn't prescribed to me.

32. my parents were extremely tolerant of smoking pot

in the early 70s, things were pretty easy going and they were very hip people, and basically thought we could all raise ourselves. I have one older sister who grew up smoking pot and my father had smoked some at parties and such. Then at my father's funeral, when a younger sister wanted to mention my father's smoking pot in his eulogy, the older sister who had smoked pot tried to ban her from doing so, (yuppie-dom).

I think basically drugs can be bad when you are trying to escape life, and alcohol can be a killer too.