Poll for people with female partners

[RB TexLa]

Poll question: Poll for people with female partners

If your wife/girlfriend/partner were to become pregnant and asked you for your input on what to do regarding abortion.

[DanCa]

1. Ideally this should have been talked about "before" the sex act.

That's the only time where a man gets too decide in the matter. IMO

[RB TexLa]

4. We actually get the first decision

My fiancee can not become pregnant with my child without me allowing her to have my sperm which I do not allow her to have.

[liberal N proud]

8. You would hope that couples have an idea where the other stands on such

subjects.

[TechBear_Seattle]

2. How about a "Does not apply" response

Not all of us men are likely to get a woman pregnant, as we have a husband/boyfriend/partner. :hi:

[RB TexLa]

6. true, changed subject

I had "wife/girlfriend/parter" in the message just didn't make the subject as inclusive

[TechBear_Seattle]

15. Thanks for the clarification

(Yeah, yeah. Picky, politically correct me. Deal with it. :hi: )

[TahitiNut]

3. I see no conflict between being honest AND supportive.

:shrug:

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

14. Thank you. (nt)

[nickinSTL]

5. I'd tell her what I thought...

but ultimately, it'd be her decision.

[BlueJazz]

7. Actually..My answer would be # 1 and #3. I'd tell her what I think...

...which would be that it's her body and her choice and also that I
would support her with any choice she makes.

[Taxloss]

9. I voted for the first option, tell her honestly, BUT ...

... I would stress that whatever I said is simply my feeling, that ultimately, inevitably the choice is hers, and I will love and support her whatever she decides, and offer any honest help or guidance I can in making that decision. I would tell her my opinion, but I would not suggest a course of action.

[Kolesar]

10. Tell her baby is going to experience a global climate catastrophe

Ok, my sustainability activism needs a little polish.

[Dhalgren]

11. I would tell her honestly what I thought. And what I think is

that I will support and encourage her in any course she decides to take. It is her decision and I will stand by her. I would be her sounding board, if she wanted to talk it through, and I would be her rock when her decision has been made. She is the important one in this decision - no one else...

[Sammy Pepys]

12. I would not cede the whole decision to her.....

...but if we didn't see eye to eye I would certainly make an attempt to see her side of things, and I hope she would do that same.

[Lerkfish]

13. assuming the child was mine (your question could be for lesbian partners)

I'd give them my honest feelings, which would be why they're asking. Childbirth is too pivotal in a relationship for any subterfuge or punch-pulling. Try to cover up how you feel and it will be disastrous.

Now, once you have been honest, the decision about what to do should be discussed between you, but the right to make that decision should be hers.

[FSogol]

16. I'm the boss, applesauce.

just kidding.

[TlalocW]

17. This ALMOST happened to me in college

It figured that right when I became sexually active, my girlfriend at the time was late after a few months into the relationship. We talked about it, and I gave her my opinion but said whatever she decided, I would support her in it. She said that she would probably choose to have an abortion, and I told her if and when the time came, we would go to a clinic together.

Fortunately, a week later I checked my voice messages and had one from her telling me, "Congratulations, you're not a father." Ho, boy, was I walking on air for the rest of the day.

TlalocW

[Ready4Change]

18. A and C.

I'll tell her my feelings, but I'd also let Iher know 'll support her in every way I can, no matter what she chooses to do, as she really has the final say.

Some say that's a cop out, placing the burdon on her. I don't agree.

The choice IS hers. I can't legally drag her into an abortion clinic, nor can I legally tie her down for 9 months. The strongest influence I can exhert is to say that, if she doesn't do as I desire, then I won't support her at all. That's a pretty crappy thing to say.

Hopefully, I and she have enough mutual trust that we can weigh the pros and cons and make a rational choice together. But, if she has strong feelings, I'm backing her up 100%. If I can't do that, maybe I don't deserve to be her SO.

[dysfunctional press]

19. I'd toss her out and tell her to go ask the father-

seeing as i had a vasectomy 7 years ago.

[Neil Lisst]

20. Subtly is the enemy of Clarity. Say what is on your mind.

[soothsayer]

21. If she asks you, then be honest.

[RB TexLa]

22. I would be honest, it's her decision and I would not say anything that

could influence her decision or ever say anything to make her think about what I would or would not have wanted as an outcome.