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Edited on Sat Sep-30-06 03:54 PM by TahitiNut
I have a hard time, perhaps unjustifiably(!), being confident that Foley limited his behavior to contact from a distance. It seems to me that such behavior, connected as it seems to be to the turn-on of 'taboo,' wouldn't escalate as the derived sense of arousal diminished due to it becoming banal.
This is, imho, the danger in having our sexual arousal hard-wired to our perception of it being 'taboo' or 'dirty' or 'forbidden.' That association guarantees that increasingly 'forbidden' activities are sought as the potency of the banal is diluted.
Far too many of us learn about sex in a stumbling and secretive way - to varying degrees aware of the 'forbidden' or 'dirty' aura surrounding sexual activity. For many of us, the turn-on gets hard-wired to the 'taboo' - where our arousal isn't from a sense of freedom and intimacy and positive vibes, but from some sense of 'wrongness.'
I think this can lead to some pretty destructive motivations. I think it can lead to people who want to ELEVATE the sense of 'wrongness' in order to heighten their own arousal. Thus, they (perhaps semi-unconsciously) openly advocate against all manner of sexual activities that they, themselves, privately regard as huge turn-ons. In a way, it's a kind of schizophrenia - convince that they're 'sinners' but entrapped in not wanting to give up the sexual arousal to which that's connected. "I'm a very bad boy! Spank me!" is a way I'd say is emblematic of what I'm talking about.
So, rather than actually reducing the scope of eroticism, these people are, in a very perverted way, increasing the scope and opportunity to feel turned on. Increasing the emphasis in religious ways is but a part of this, imho. It's a very clear explanation of why Foley was so 'dedicated' to legislative activities in this area.
It leads me to believe that far too many neoconservatives suffer from the "Please keep me from killing again!" (a cry for help?) syndrome. There's something very common among them in the mentality that they need Parental Authority (in the form of laws and God) to keep them from "sinning again." Merely labeling this as hypocrisy isn't really a path to understanding what we see. The inner conflicts in far, far too many of such people is just too easy to detect.
There's a second-stage factor, as well. Once finding themselves 'successful' in being denied (by some Paternal Authority) from going forth and sinning again (and getting the arousal and turn-on), it seems clear that there's a palpable resentment toward those who healthily engage in such relationships without guilt. At this point, it becomes a jihad to deny such freedoms to others as well. That's when we see anti-choice and anti-everything (including tobacco?) coalitions ... people whose mission in life seems to be centered on keeping others from enjoying that which they see as 'bad.'
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