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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 09:58 AM Original message |
DU women (and men), how do YOU control tears in professional situations? |
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Bonobo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
1. Men are conditioned since childhood that tears are "for girls", so... |
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JerseygirlCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:13 AM Response to Reply #1 |
38. It's funny |
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russian33 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:00 AM Response to Original message |
2. it's hard to do when i'm drunk |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:01 AM Response to Original message |
3. It is hard because I cannot ESPECIALLY when I'm tired and beat down. |
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Arkansas Granny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:14 AM Response to Reply #3 |
11. I don't cry easily, but if someone talks sympathetically to me |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:18 AM Response to Reply #11 |
17. yup. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:19 AM Response to Reply #11 |
19. I think compassion is so rare now a days that when you see it sweeps you off your feet. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:24 AM Response to Reply #11 |
27. Sometimes a simple "How are you?" said in a nice tone is enough to put you over the edge. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:26 AM Response to Reply #27 |
28. Tenderness can often be harder to bear up to than indifference or even meanness |
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VelmaD (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:01 AM Response to Original message |
4. wow...sometimes the patriarchy isn't even subtle about things... |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:09 AM Response to Reply #4 |
8. agreed. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:21 AM Response to Reply #4 |
22. i know. it would be funny if it werent so sad. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:21 AM Response to Reply #4 |
23. i know. it would be funny if it werent so sad. |
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Buzz Clik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:02 AM Response to Original message |
5. Crying is not an option. Period. |
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LibraLiz1973 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:17 AM Response to Reply #5 |
16. I would never cry in a professional situation |
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Buzz Clik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:24 AM Response to Reply #16 |
26. You are correct. |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 12:46 PM Response to Reply #26 |
41. I only cry at weddings. |
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SteelPenguin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:33 AM Response to Reply #5 |
31. Same |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:04 AM Response to Original message |
6. in my 20 years in the work force |
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LibraLiz1973 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:18 AM Response to Reply #6 |
18. Ugh- I have. Many times. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:04 AM Response to Original message |
7. I don't worry about it. In some meetings I've seen incredibly tough people cry, |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:19 AM Response to Reply #7 |
20. didnt gore tear up once when clinton admitted to having an affair? |
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sojourner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:43 AM Response to Reply #7 |
34. I have a hard time hiding any strong emotion. It helps to be in a helping |
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TwilightGardener (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:09 AM Response to Original message |
9. I worked in ICU as a nurse for years, and I would never cry, even |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:16 AM Response to Reply #9 |
13. Agree. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:42 PM Response to Reply #13 |
43. I can understand that. The great majority of healthcare workers I have known |
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stillrockin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:12 AM Response to Original message |
10. I cried once. |
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The Traveler (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:15 AM Response to Original message |
12. Breathe |
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LibraLiz1973 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:16 AM Response to Original message |
14. I'm weird about crying & I admit it |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:16 AM Response to Original message |
15. men are not 'allowed' to cry for a much longer period, so as adults they do not need this training |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:20 AM Response to Original message |
21. We used to say my grandmother would rather swallow her own tongue than cry in public. |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:21 AM Response to Original message |
24. I'm a pretty emotional person.. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:30 AM Response to Reply #24 |
30. Yes, if you care a lot about what you are doing it can be devastating. |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:21 AM Response to Original message |
25. if someone sees me cry, I have to kill them. |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:28 AM Response to Reply #25 |
29. It is bizarre when you think about it, which is one reason I posted about it. |
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Lerkfish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:38 AM Response to Reply #29 |
33. just to be clear, its not the way I think it should be, its just the way it is. |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 12:06 PM Response to Reply #25 |
39. I know a macho guy who only cries at movies |
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Rob H. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:37 AM Response to Original message |
32. I've never cried under high-stress situations at work, BUT |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 10:52 AM Response to Original message |
35. apply the prudish Victorian standard of sexuality to people for showing emotion |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:09 AM Response to Original message |
36. I don't. Tears are nothing to be ashamed of. |
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Samantha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 11:11 AM Response to Original message |
37. It's not a problem for me anymore |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:53 PM Response to Reply #37 |
48. I was one of 6 women over the age of 60 who were edged out of their jobs a few years back. |
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Samantha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:08 PM Response to Reply #48 |
49. That's a pattern I have noticed in a lot of DC entities |
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CTyankee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jan-11-08 08:59 AM Response to Reply #49 |
51. Another consolation is that the bosses that can cause you so much angst |
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gkhouston (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 12:16 PM Response to Original message |
40. The only time I've been close to tears at work is when I've been angry |
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XOKCowboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:50 PM Response to Reply #40 |
45. No kidding! |
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warren pease (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 12:57 PM Response to Original message |
42. I just imagine Cheney being pulled apart on the rack and I suddenly can't stop grinning. n/t |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:45 PM Response to Original message |
44. It's a two step method. First I cackle, then I flip flop. The second I stop doing that, I cry. |
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Proud2BAmurkin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
46. Tell them they're fired if they don't quit with the blubbering |
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crispini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
47. I generally lose my composure in other ways. |
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Djinn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-10-08 08:36 PM Response to Original message |
50. I've only cried in front of other people |
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