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nadine_mn
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:49 PM Original message |
If you chose not to have children... what was/is your reason? |
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gateley
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:54 PM Response to Original message |
1. I never had that strong maternal instinct so many of my friends did. |
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nadine_mn
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:55 PM Response to Reply #1 |
2. I feel ya... never had that urge |
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Lorien
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:11 AM Response to Reply #1 |
35. I never thought I had a maternal instinct until someone brought me a |
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beam me up scottie
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:58 PM Response to Reply #35 |
120. Likewise. |
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zanne
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:20 AM Response to Reply #1 |
87. Same here. I knew when I was a kid that I didn't want to have any. nt |
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ladywnch
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:40 PM Response to Reply #87 |
118. Same here. I knew I didn't want kids when I was in my early teens |
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slackmaster
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:10 AM Response to Reply #1 |
95. Same here - It always looked like an unrewarding hassle fraught with risk |
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ThatsMyBarack
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:15 AM Response to Reply #1 |
106. Same here. |
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Skip Intro
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:57 PM Response to Original message |
3. 3 reasons. |
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DesertFlower
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:25 AM Response to Reply #3 |
13. i know the feeling. nt |
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Manifestor_of_Light
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:57 PM Response to Original message |
4. I can give you the opposite position. |
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Flabbergasted
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:58 PM Response to Reply #4 |
169. If you were raising the child, why we're you paying child support? nt |
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Manifestor_of_Light
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:17 PM Response to Reply #169 |
180. We had joint custody. The child went back and forth between houses. |
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Pisces
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:58 PM Response to Original message |
5. The pressure to procreate is unbelievable. Do what is right for you and screw everyone else. |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:01 AM Response to Reply #5 |
7. I always hate the"oh you'll change your mind" |
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TlalocW
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:45 AM Response to Reply #7 |
28. Here's the reply |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:02 AM Response to Reply #28 |
33. "you're next" |
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TlalocW
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:12 AM Response to Reply #33 |
36. I guess I'm lucky |
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Recursion
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:59 PM Response to Reply #33 |
216. I think Margaret Cho had a good one |
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MidwestTransplant
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:38 AM Response to Reply #5 |
17. The more you screw, the greater your chance of getting (or getting somebody) pregnant |
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Common Sense Party
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:57 AM Response to Reply #5 |
19. Screwing everyone else...can often LEAD to procreation. |
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tomreedtoon
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Sun Jul-20-08 11:59 PM Response to Original message |
6. No woman would let me near her. |
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Sen. Walter Sobchak
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:08 AM Response to Original message |
8. I love children and on an emotional level I want them badly |
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billyoc
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:11 AM Response to Original message |
9. Just don't like 'em. |
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lostnotforgotten
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:20 AM Response to Original message |
10. Love Kids - Never Found A Woman That Would Have Me |
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elocs
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:20 AM Response to Original message |
11. I never had children because I never got married (I'm a guy). |
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raccoon
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:56 AM Response to Reply #11 |
81. I'm old-fashioned that way too. nt |
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DesertFlower
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:24 AM Response to Original message |
12. i had 1 child. did not want anymore. |
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zanne
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:24 AM Response to Reply #12 |
88. OMG! I don't know how to talk to them either! |
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FedUpWithIt All
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:25 AM Response to Original message |
14. As a mom I know you weren't speaking to me but i just wanted to say thank you... |
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Sherman A1
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:05 AM Response to Reply #14 |
43. Well Said! |
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Number23
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:37 AM Response to Reply #14 |
62. I completely agree |
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Luminous Animal
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Sat Jul-26-08 03:40 PM Response to Reply #62 |
243. A few month after our one child was born (18 years ago)... |
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EnviroBat
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:41 PM Response to Reply #14 |
134. HEY! You're back! |
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FedUpWithIt All
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:17 PM Response to Reply #134 |
145. Good to see you too... |
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undergroundpanther
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:32 AM Response to Original message |
15. I hate this world |
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vadawg
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:40 AM Response to Reply #15 |
27. kids |
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Leeny
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:49 AM Response to Reply #27 |
49. maternal bliss!!! |
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vadawg
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:51 AM Response to Reply #49 |
50. lolz |
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Leeny
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:55 AM Response to Reply #50 |
51. ha! |
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beam me up scottie
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:22 PM Response to Reply #15 |
115. "To be forced to exist in a pay to exist world (you must BUY food,BUY water,BUY shelter..etc.)" |
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Kitty Herder
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Fri Jul-25-08 06:42 AM Response to Reply #115 |
238. I second that. |
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Missy Vixen
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:37 AM Response to Original message |
16. I didn't get the mommy gene |
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flvegan
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:51 AM Response to Original message |
18. Bring a child into this world, with me as a dad? |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:05 AM Response to Reply #18 |
34. we have a mini-rescue our home |
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Midlodemocrat
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:29 AM Response to Reply #18 |
61. I fear you'd be wrong. |
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Karenina
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:54 PM Response to Reply #61 |
139. They shine quite brilliantly where currently directed. |
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Midlodemocrat
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:00 PM Response to Reply #139 |
141. Of, FFS. |
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flvegan
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Tue Jul-22-08 12:11 AM Response to Reply #139 |
218. Indeed. |
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Karenina
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Tue Jul-22-08 07:20 AM Response to Reply #218 |
225. I've read, with quite some admiration and interest, |
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cliffordu
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:58 AM Response to Original message |
20. I never wanted them. Neither did my wife. |
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Truth4Justice
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:41 AM Response to Reply #20 |
45. Amen to that! If only more people felt that way, we could make this world a nice place to be. |
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cliffordu
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Mon Jul-21-08 10:50 AM Response to Reply #45 |
103. Yep - and I didn't want to subject any kids to my "parenting". |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:00 AM Response to Original message |
21. Like Margaret Cho said, "I ovulate sand". |
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fed_up_mother
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:57 PM Response to Reply #21 |
140. Really? |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:10 PM Response to Reply #140 |
142. Which women have it? Which don't? |
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fed_up_mother
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:20 PM Response to Reply #142 |
173. First off, it's not my place to say who "has it." |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:49 PM Response to Reply #173 |
177. You're making the exact point of why it's bullshit. |
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fed_up_mother
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:53 PM Response to Reply #177 |
178. If to some degree, it didn't happen like that we wouldn't be here today |
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RandomKoolzip
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:01 AM Response to Original message |
22. I'm too poor. It sucks. I really want to have kids, but it'd be cruel to raise them in |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:13 AM Response to Reply #22 |
37. I have mixed feelings on that reason |
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Truth4Justice
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:44 AM Response to Reply #22 |
46. You are not. Your freedom is at stake when children are involved in any DV call. |
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Heidi
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:56 AM Response to Reply #22 |
52. I think you'd be a great parent, RK. |
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RandomKoolzip
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:27 AM Response to Reply #52 |
89. Hey, thanks. |
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Number23
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:42 AM Response to Reply #22 |
64. How sad and beautiful |
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shadowknows69
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:31 AM Response to Reply #22 |
70. ,,,,, |
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fed_up_mother
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:22 PM Response to Reply #22 |
175. IF "you" want a child, you are missing out on something |
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BlueIris
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:04 AM Response to Original message |
23. At this point, it is because I know |
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Lorien
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:54 AM Response to Reply #23 |
31. Pretty much the same here |
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Lady Effingbroke
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:55 AM Response to Reply #31 |
55. I agree 100%. It is for the same reasons that I have no children. |
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LostInAnomie
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:05 AM Response to Original message |
24. I know it sounds bad... |
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tpsbmam
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:02 AM Response to Reply #24 |
57. Doesn't sound bad.... |
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Prophet 451
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:28 AM Response to Original message |
25. I don't like kids |
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TlalocW
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:34 AM Response to Original message |
26. Pffft... Where to begin? |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:18 AM Response to Reply #26 |
39. DINKs or SINKs? |
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Lady Effingbroke
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:17 AM Response to Reply #39 |
59. I was STINKY for a long while, now I'm just a SINK, |
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Lorien
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:22 AM Response to Reply #26 |
40. Ah, my new favorite rationale for having kids |
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dysfunctional press
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:40 AM Response to Reply #40 |
72. i didn't have kids because i didn't want to pass on shitty genes. |
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Blue Belle
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:37 AM Response to Reply #26 |
107. I went to a U2 Concert... |
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beam me up scottie
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:52 PM Response to Reply #107 |
119. I hear ya, my ex was a race car driver and parents would bring infants and toddlers into the pits. |
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TlalocW
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:03 PM Response to Reply #107 |
127. When you get down to it, it's the parents being selfish |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:25 PM Response to Reply #26 |
147. I believe the word you're searching for is Quirkyalone |
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lastliberalintexas
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:32 PM Response to Reply #26 |
209. I've never yet taken my child to a movie theater, and he is 4 |
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Bettie
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Tue Jul-22-08 08:48 AM Response to Reply #26 |
228. Um....not all parents are like that... |
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pansypoo53219
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:50 AM Response to Original message |
29. i'm not maternal. baby wise. |
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dgibby
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:51 AM Response to Original message |
30. Because |
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Mind_your_head
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:59 AM Response to Original message |
32. I have a LOT of respect for people who consciously 'choose' not to be parents..... |
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galledgoblin
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:16 AM Response to Original message |
38. gay |
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Cheap_Trick
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:31 AM Response to Original message |
41. I don't wanna have to share all my stuff.... |
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Greyhound
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:48 AM Response to Original message |
42. A very different led me to the same place. |
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Cobalt-60
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:14 AM Response to Original message |
44. I won't reproduce in poverty |
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Truth4Justice
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:46 AM Response to Reply #44 |
47. Amen to that. The masters are counting on more human bodies to run THEIR machine. |
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Heidi
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:49 AM Response to Original message |
48. I like kids, but I don't feel I need one or two of each thing in the world that I like. |
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comtec
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:46 AM Response to Original message |
53. All this talk about HAVING, MAKING kids... What about adoption? |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:16 AM Response to Reply #53 |
66. this isn't about adopting or biological children |
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Heidi
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:29 AM Response to Reply #53 |
69. I'm adopted, |
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comtec
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:13 AM Response to Reply #69 |
96. We have a niece we might end up adopting |
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Heidi
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:46 AM Response to Reply #96 |
99. My sister and I |
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old mark
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:52 AM Response to Original message |
54. Neither my wife nor I want kids |
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eShirl
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:00 AM Response to Original message |
56. Frankly, I've never had a good enough reason to HAVE kids. |
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Hissyspit
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:05 AM Response to Original message |
58. Two Reasons: |
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Dissent Is Patriotic
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:23 AM Response to Original message |
60. I just don't like children. Much like you, i found a loving |
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distantearlywarning
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:41 AM Response to Original message |
63. My reasons: |
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CatBO
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:47 AM Response to Original message |
65. There are many, many reasons... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:26 AM Response to Original message |
67. I'm from a big family, 13 of us kids, 5 girls and 8 of us boys |
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shadowknows69
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:29 AM Response to Original message |
68. I hope my wife won't end up hating me for it, I fear she will |
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dysfunctional press
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:34 AM Response to Original message |
71. when i was diagnosed with a congenital arthritic condition, i had a vasectomy. |
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MichellesBFF
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:06 AM Response to Reply #71 |
74. We got rid of the kids, cause the cats are allergic! |
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dysfunctional press
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:41 AM Response to Reply #74 |
93. we've got 3 cats, and one beautiful black labrador retriever... |
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Mabel Dodge
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:00 AM Response to Original message |
73. We made the decision back in the 80's |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:10 AM Response to Original message |
75. I have one child and I can NOT imagine life without knowing what it is like to be a mom. |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:44 AM Response to Reply #75 |
79. I don't think that is a fair statement |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:56 PM Response to Reply #79 |
126. Saying you think kids are great from a far is NOT the same as actually having your own kid. |
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lukasahero
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:27 PM Response to Reply #126 |
129. "Being a parent helped me to truly understand life" "And you can't know that..." |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:54 PM Response to Reply #129 |
152. Too bad if you can't handle the truth. |
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lukasahero
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:38 PM Response to Reply #152 |
184. Are you sure you're in the right place? |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:21 PM Response to Reply #184 |
187. WTF-Are you sure you're a democrat???!!! |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:19 PM Response to Reply #129 |
181. You are not a fully actualized person until you've procreated. |
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lukasahero
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:40 PM Response to Reply #181 |
185. A reality, I'm sure, the poster reserves especially for women. |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:25 PM Response to Reply #181 |
190. What TOTAL bullshit! |
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lukasahero
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:48 PM Response to Reply #190 |
198. No - that's NOT what you freakin' said! |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:23 PM Response to Reply #129 |
188. Same back at ya! nt |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:31 PM Response to Reply #126 |
132. IMO, Having a child is the key to understanding what life is all about. |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:52 PM Response to Reply #132 |
151. No, the reality is don't knock something until you've tried it and understand it. nt |
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nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:37 PM Response to Reply #151 |
160. Don't knock it until you try it? |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:53 PM Response to Reply #160 |
168. No one had a perfect childhood. |
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mrreowwr_kittty
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:22 PM Response to Reply #168 |
182. Can't you just say that you're very glad you became a parent and leave it at that? |
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dysfunctional press
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:38 PM Response to Reply #168 |
210. nobody can experience life "fully"... |
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Iris
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:13 PM Response to Reply #151 |
179. Well, then get off this thread. Because you can't know what it's like to have decided NOT to have |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:27 PM Response to Reply #179 |
192. I didn't decide to have a child until I was in my mid 30s! I know what I'm talking about! nt |
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dysfunctional press
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:40 PM Response to Reply #192 |
212. if you don't know what it's like to be in your 40's and childless, you just wouldn't understand... |
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Kitty Herder
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Fri Jul-25-08 05:46 AM Response to Reply #132 |
236. My thoughts, exactly. |
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azmouse
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:34 PM Response to Reply #126 |
133. Having, or not having, children is much too personal a choice |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:01 PM Response to Reply #133 |
154. Look, if people don't want to have kids, fine. I think having 1 child is all anyone should have |
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azmouse
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:21 PM Response to Reply #154 |
158. You say that those of us without children don't understand your life. |
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earth mom
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:40 PM Response to Reply #158 |
163. I've seen parenthood slammed before, so yes, I do have my back up here. |
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lukasahero
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:46 PM Response to Reply #163 |
186. "that I think we are all meant to have in order to truly understand life" |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:33 PM Response to Reply #186 |
193. I know from experience, you all know nothing yet sit there and say how great not having kids is. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:03 PM Response to Reply #158 |
171. Everyone who has had a child |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:40 PM Response to Reply #154 |
161. You are the one steering this thread into a rant |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:02 PM Response to Reply #161 |
170. No, you are trying to dictate what people can and can not say on this thread! |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:25 PM Response to Reply #170 |
189. how is this a thinly-veiled sanctimonious thread? |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:36 PM Response to Reply #189 |
195. See post #156. I'm getting tired of repeating myself here. nt |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:48 PM Response to Reply #195 |
197. yeah, i saw it |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:03 PM Response to Reply #170 |
204. why you all think you are better than those who choose to have kids |
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Tue Jul-22-08 08:08 AM Response to Reply #170 |
227. Huh? Where'd you see that? |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:00 PM Response to Reply #154 |
202. "talking about something they don't know anything about" |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:16 PM Response to Reply #126 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:29 PM Response to Reply #126 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:45 PM Response to Reply #159 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:52 PM Response to Reply #164 |
167. You didn't even read this OP did you lol |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:44 PM Response to Reply #126 |
196. Life isn't about making babies. It's about exploring, experiencing, seeing, tasting, |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:01 PM Response to Reply #126 |
203. I may not know what it's like to be a parent |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:27 PM Response to Reply #126 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:37 PM Response to Reply #208 |
215. Same back at ya! |
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Tue Jul-22-08 01:54 AM Response to Reply #126 |
222. Ah, ignorant assumptions are fun |
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Tue Jul-22-08 02:14 AM Response to Reply #126 |
224. So, we should all withhold our judgement about whether or not to become |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:41 AM Response to Reply #75 |
109. So childless people really can't make this decision |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:21 PM Response to Reply #109 |
157. No, just don't spout off like an expert about something you don't know anything about. nt |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:28 PM Response to Reply #75 |
148. I was a full-time nanny for 3 young boys for 2 years in my twenties |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:15 PM Response to Reply #148 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:25 PM Response to Reply #75 |
207. i'm sorry for you that your imagination is so limited. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:17 AM Response to Original message |
76. I don't think anyone who doesn't REALLY want to be a parent, should be one. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:22 AM Response to Original message |
77. I never really liked kids all that much. When I was a teenage girl |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:05 AM Response to Reply #77 |
85. My almost 17 year old goddaughter is like that, except she would never even babysit. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:39 AM Response to Original message |
78. The reason people say 'you'll change your mind' is because of |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:51 AM Response to Original message |
80. I always knew I didn't want kids. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:59 AM Response to Original message |
82. I just don't think I have the mental makeup to be a parent..... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:00 AM Response to Original message |
83. waiting to see if mother nature |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:01 AM Response to Original message |
84. I didn't have children because I wasn't sure I would be a good mother. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:11 AM Response to Original message |
86. No desire to be a parent |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:29 AM Response to Original message |
90. I never wanted kids at 16, but now I have 3 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:40 AM Response to Reply #90 |
97. I've actually met people who've said if they had it to do over again, they wouldn't have kids |
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Mon Jul-21-08 10:00 AM Response to Reply #97 |
101. I admit that I sometimes think that way... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:14 PM Response to Reply #90 |
123. I do sometimes wonder about... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:30 AM Response to Original message |
91. I don't think I'm ready yet. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:38 AM Response to Original message |
92. Married almost 20 years, childless by choice. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:08 AM Response to Original message |
94. 46 and child free |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:43 AM Response to Original message |
98. I've enjoyed reading this thread. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:52 AM Response to Original message |
100. We chose cats. They're easier to herd and a lot cheaper. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 10:10 AM Response to Original message |
102. Not Every Woman or Man Should Be a Parent |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:03 AM Response to Original message |
104. My gynecologist wouldnt' tie my tubes because of the |
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:21 PM Response to Reply #104 |
124. Zero population growth. I alluded to this in another thread last week... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:28 PM Response to Reply #104 |
183. It's more than an 18 year commitment |
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Tue Jul-22-08 07:39 AM Response to Reply #183 |
226. I know it's more than an 18 year commitment. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:08 AM Response to Original message |
105. I enjoy my life the way it is, don't want to give up time or money to raise them. Children |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:40 AM Response to Original message |
108. I'm poor and I'm a slacker by nature. I won't work full-time, life is too short. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
110. I haven't met the right person... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
111. While my mind is allowing me to work and prosper... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:09 PM Response to Original message |
112. Thought I was going to do the wife, mother, white picket fence thang... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:24 PM Response to Reply #112 |
125. It's amazing how thoroughly children can pick up subtle messages... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:19 PM Response to Original message |
113. I never felt the need to have children. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:20 PM Response to Original message |
114. So far I've chosen not to have kids because.... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:25 PM Response to Original message |
116. Just not interested. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
117. So far, I've chosen not to have children. But that doesn't mean I'm not maternal. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:02 PM Response to Original message |
121. I would've been the very best Daddy. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 01:10 PM Response to Original message |
122. I'm at the age when my friends are starting to raise families. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:15 PM Response to Reply #122 |
143. Is it any wonder so many middle class families become Republican? |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:22 PM Response to Original message |
128. I am childfree first by choice and then by chance. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:27 PM Response to Original message |
130. Those who do not want children, should not have them. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:30 PM Response to Original message |
131. UofK medical center took away our ability to have children. They |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:44 PM Response to Original message |
135. Never was interested |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:46 PM Response to Original message |
136. Reasons |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
137. My best friend has two children. One is Autistic and he requires |
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Mon Jul-21-08 02:48 PM Response to Original message |
138. I Love Kids, But I Love My Independence and Freedom More. (n/t) |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:17 PM Response to Reply #138 |
172. The wife and I are doing everything we can to get minimally financially stable |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:21 PM Response to Original message |
146. Zero desire to have kids. None. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:38 PM Response to Original message |
149. I would have had to have been a single mother and the desire |
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Mon Jul-21-08 03:57 PM Response to Original message |
153. Good for you. I decided I wanted to be a mom when I was in my twenties. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:06 PM Response to Original message |
155. Too many humans already |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
162. I can't afford them |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:46 PM Response to Original message |
165. I don't have any sort of paternal instinct. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:48 PM Response to Original message |
166. I Was Messed Up |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:21 PM Response to Original message |
174. Don't Want the Responsibility / Enjoy my Lifestyle |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:34 PM Response to Original message |
176. Never Been Remotely Financially Secure Enough To Have Kids |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:27 PM Response to Original message |
191. i don't think it would be fair of me to have a child, at least right now |
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Mon Jul-21-08 07:36 PM Response to Original message |
194. If you've ever watched The West Wing, that's the kind of career I want |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:03 PM Response to Original message |
199. Another non-maternal woman here |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:11 PM Response to Original message |
200. Money and a preference for 4-legged children. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 08:32 PM Response to Original message |
201. Ok, first some background info... |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:11 PM Response to Original message |
205. I Have The Utmost Respect For Those Who Opt For No Kids |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:16 PM Response to Original message |
206. I let my wife decide. She wanted 2, so we had 2 |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:40 PM Response to Original message |
211. Very simple: I don't like them. |
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:40 PM Response to Original message |
213. MONEY! People don't have children because they can't AFFORD TOO! |
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Mon Jul-21-08 10:55 PM Response to Original message |
214. a lot of my own reasons mirror yours |
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Tue Jul-22-08 12:01 AM Response to Original message |
217. I knew I would not have them when i was very young. |
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Tue Jul-22-08 12:29 AM Response to Original message |
219. I have always adored freedom, so I didn't have kids. |
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Tue Jul-22-08 01:39 AM Response to Original message |
220. hmmm.... |
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Tue Jul-22-08 01:40 AM Response to Original message |
221. because they are non-refundable and i'd get in trouble if i break 'the new toy.' |
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Tue Jul-22-08 01:07 PM Response to Reply #221 |
231. similar fears of the non-refundable part |
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Tue Jul-22-08 02:00 AM Response to Original message |
223. I grew up in a very large family. . .and was second oldest |
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Tue Jul-22-08 09:56 AM Response to Original message |
229. I do want kids but haven't fond anyone to have them with yet... |
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Tue Jul-22-08 10:29 AM Response to Original message |
230. time, money, freedom... |
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Tue Jul-22-08 02:14 PM Response to Original message |
232. I'm almost 30 and I don't have any kids. |
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Tue Jul-22-08 02:22 PM Response to Original message |
233. How do I count the ways? |
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Fri Jul-25-08 12:41 AM Response to Original message |
234. My not having children is due to both choice and circumstance |
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Fri Jul-25-08 12:55 AM Response to Original message |
235. Misanthropic |
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Fri Jul-25-08 06:02 AM Response to Original message |
237. To be honest, I don't think I'd make a very good mother. |
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Fri Jul-25-08 08:12 AM Response to Original message |
239. At 36 |
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Fri Jul-25-08 08:12 AM Response to Original message |
240. I have so many reasons |
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Sat Jul-26-08 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
241. Reason |
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Sat Jul-26-08 03:17 PM Response to Reply #241 |
242. Welcome to DU, Minervah |
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Sat Jul-26-08 03:42 PM Response to Original message |
244. genetic illness, i never saw a reason to pass on bad genes |
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