Conservative (Male) Writer: Wives: When He Wants Sex, Give It to Him

[cali]

Given our preoccupation with politics and economics, it is easy to forget that for most of us micro issues still play a greater role in our lives. So here are some thoughts that, as heretical as they might sound, have been found extremely helpful, sometimes even marriage-saving, from listeners to my radio show, which features a male-female hour every week.

The subject is one of the most common problems that besets marriages: the wife who is not in the mood and the consequently frustrated and hurt husband.

There are marriages with the opposite problem -- a wife who is frustrated and hurt because her husband is rarely in the mood. But, as important and as destructive as that problem is, it has different causes and different solutions, and is therefore not addressed here. What is addressed is the far more common problem of He wants, she doesn't want.

It is an axiom of contemporary marital life that if a wife is not in the mood, she need not have sex with her husband. Here are some arguments why a woman who loves her husband might want to rethink this axiom.

First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wifes refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him. This is rarely the case for women. Few women know their husband loves them because he gives her his body (the idea sounds almost funny). This is, therefore, usually a revelation to a woman. Many women think men's natures are similar to theirs, and this is so different from a woman's nature, that few women know this about men unless told about it.

This is a major reason many husbands clam up. A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet. And most men will never tell their wives why they have become quiet and distant. They are afraid to tell their wives. They are often made to feel ashamed of their male sexual nature, and they are humiliated (indeed emasculated) by feeling that they are reduced to having to beg for sex.

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In Part II, I will explain in detail why mood should play little or no role in a woman's determining whether she has sex with her husband.

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http://townhall.com/Columnists/DennisPrager/2008/12/23/when_a_woman_isnt_in_the_mood_part_i?page=full&comments=true

What a moron.

[Madam Mossfern]

1. And, then the husband

may leave a generous payment on the dresser.

[acmavm]

2. Dennis need to be neutered. All he wants is a sex slave. NT

[krispos42]

3. Idiot

Just an idiot.


Make her pleasure top priority every time, all the time, and consensual, stress-free sessions happen naturally and frequently.


At least in my experience, which is deep but not broad.







Now having said that... remember, ladies and gentlemen, PG-13 is the guideline here!

[aquart]

4. And has he found the blow up doll who agrees with him?

[CurtEastPoint]

6. Indeed! What a hottie!

:puke:

[XemaSab]

5. If he ever goes to prison

it'll make life MUCH easier if he just gives it up to his cell mate without a fight. :shrug:

[and-justice-for-all]

7. Someone please punch him in the balls...nt

[Mugweed]

8. What a jackass

Figures that it's from Town Hall. A collection of right-wing lunatics who hate America. This is part of the "good old days" that conservatives wish to return to...where women "knew" their place. Next issue: why non-whites need to stop being so "uppity".

[enigmatic]

9. Dennis Prager is vile

He had a short-lived TV show in the 90's that I caught 3 or 4 times; what a condescending, oily creep.

[blogslut]

10. Gee, Dennis. Maybe your wife is just sick of looking at your ugly mug

No need to write a whole column about your personal problems.

[Wapsie B]

11. Oh god, one of those fixated on submission again.

And then listening to them tap dance around trying to explain their interpretation of submission is sad really.

[ck4829]

12. It seems like conservatives are always trying to turn womens bodies into someone else's property

Now it seems that wives owe "it" to their husbands.

(And BTW, aren't these the same guys who say gays are too "promiscuous"? And now they are defending the promiscuity of married men?)

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

13. Fill in the blank:

_________ , n: The act of obtaining sex from an unwilling partner through intimidation from a position of power.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

14. He's just looking for his fifteen seconds of shame. n/t

[Solon]

16. 15 seconds? Surely you are giving him too much credit!

:evilgrin:

[SalmonChantedEvening]

25. I was including foreplay

:D

[Solon]

15. OK, what the hell? Is this really a subject worth even writing about?

This man has some issues that I really don't understand. Shit, having been in relationships before(never married, at least not yet), yes, sometimes she's not in the mood, and you know what? I didn't care, I mean, if I'm really that, uhm, hard up for it, I always have the five fingered option. But I certainly don't expect any woman to give in and have sex with me out of...pity, that's just pathetic.

[cali]

17. This isn't really about sex. It's about

women being submissive to their lords- husbands. It's about male domination and keeping women in their place.

[Solon]

19. Yes, its more about control, and "being a man" type of macho-domination bullshit...

than it is about sex. What this asshole doesn't realize is that a pity fuck pales in comparison to when both partners are in the mood. :D

Of course, he probably thinks the woman shouldn't even enjoy it, misogynistic fucker that he is.

[madrchsod]

18. dennis has a lot of unresolved issues with women and sex

start with his mother who went to work when he was a wee baby and then rest of his conflicted sexual life.

as a public service......

i just spent the last 20 or so minutes reading about him from several sources so no one else has to.


add this to his problems

two wifes-two divorces

[peacefreak]

20. It seems the 2 former Mrs. Prager's

showed how they felt by their divorces.

[Crunchy Frog]

21. So, he's writing a column about how he's unable to pleasure his wife

but she gives it up to him anyway because she's submissive and knows her place. He must be so proud. :eyes:

[Mari333]

22. !! according to wickepedia !!..

hes been divorced TWICE
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Prager
'In 1980, Prager met his first wife, Janice Adelstein, who was a nurse there. They were married on January 15, 1981. Their son, David, was born two years later. In August 1986 Janice filed for divorce.

Prager started his radio career on August 8, 1982 as the moderator of "Religion on the Line," a Sunday night program on KABC-AM, Los Angeles. The program featured discussions between representatives of various religions, typically including a priest, a Protestant minister, and a Jewish rabbi. Prager continued as the show's moderator for 10 years, and he continued to broadcast on KABC for several more years on "The Dennis Prager Show." He then began broadcasting for KRLA (national syndication started 1999), and recently celebrated his 25th anniversary in radio broadcasting. On September 4, 1988, Prager married Francine Stone, an actress, in a Los Angeles synagogue. In November 1992, the couple adopted a son, Aaron Henry Prager. On December 30, 2005, Prager announced on air that he and Stone were getting divorced.'

and it doesnt say hes remarried.
that says a lot right there. oh yeah. those ladies knew when to get out.

[brooklynite]

24. Well, there you go...

Sex is on his mind because he's not having any because, of course, sex out of wedlock would be immoral, right?

[JHB]

23. The only thing worse than the blind leading the blind...

...is the blind lecturing the blind (and non-blind).

[PassingFair]

26. I can hardly wait for part II...

I hope it will explain how to not asphyxiate
if I vomit during sex because I have the flu.

I guess it's more important to submit.

:puke:

[sundog]

27. astounding world of reason he lives in

i wonder how long it took him to rationalize that

would *anyone* be in the mood?? -->

[GoesTo11]

28. If the husband is so unhappy, why doesn't he just leave?

No one makes him stay in the marriage. If they aren't sexually compatible, it may well be best for both partners. Just as the author says it's an axiom of contemporary life that you don't have to have sex if you don't want to, it's also an axiom that you don't have to stay in a marriage if you don't want to!

Handmaid's tale, anyone?

[Mari333]

29. here is an easier pic on the eyes.

I dont agree with obama on a lot of things, but hes not hard to look at.