My cousin took a hose ... ran it from his 4 wheeler and into his truck where he breathed until he

[greenbriar]

left this earth.


He was a nurse at one of the worlds leading Heart Hospitals...

Such a waste

keith Piha
EL DORADO - Piha, Keith, 43, died March 29, 2007. Service 10:30 a.m. Monday, . Survivors: wife, ; son
Published in the Wichita Eagle on 3/31/2007.

[mr_hat]

1. RIP, poor soul.

[greenbriar]

47. I tried to post his picture

but can't...

can someone help

[Ghost in the Machine]

55. I'm sorry for your loss. Peace be with you and your family.

As for help with posting his picture, you need to upload it to a server somewhere (photobucket, photocasket, etc).. the put the URL in a post.

If you don't know how to do this, or don't want to set up an account, please PM me and I'll give you my email address to send the picture to, and I will put it on one of my servers (I own 24 websites) and will be happy to post it to help you out.

PEACE!

Ghost

[Jonathan50]

64. I'll try to help you post the picture..

Here is an image hosting site that is free, easy to use and requires no registration.

http://tinypic.com/

When you log onto the site, look for the button that says "browse" under "upload videos and images" on the right hand side of the page.

Make sure that you know what directory the image is in and what the name of the image file is on your hard drive.

Click "browse" and a window will open which gives you a listing of the files on your hard drive.

In the window which opens, navigate to the proper directory and then double click on the image file you wish to upload.

Once you have done that, then click on the green "upload now" button.

As soon as your image is uploaded another window will show several different styles of URLs.

Pick the one that is third from the top and says "URL" to the left of it.

Highlight and right click on the URL and then select "copy".

Go the the window where you wish to post the picture in the message you are composing for DU.

Right click again and then select "paste".

That should do it.

You can click on "preview" to see if you picture shows up before you actually post.

Hope this helps..

My condolences for your loss.. :grouphug:

[Justice]

2. I am so sorry

[LeftyMom]

3. I'm sorry.

My stepdad ate a bullet ten years ago, so sadly I have some idea of how you feel right now. :hug: Be gentle with yourself, and with his wife and son.

[GreenPartyVoter]

4. I am so sorry *hugs*

[xultar]

5. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. RIP Keith.

[MissWaverly]

6. I am sorry for your loss

I am sorry for your family, sometimes the kindest and best of us leave before their time,
I still feel bad about Andy Stephenson's death, he was 43.

[Robbien]

7. wow. So sorry

Words fail.

Peace to you and your family.

[karlrschneider]

8. How awful. Condolences to your family.

:grouphug:

[WinkyDink]

9. {{{greenbriar}}} I pray your cousin has found his peace.

[Benhurst]

10. How sad. My best to you and yours.

Recommended.

[WiseButAngrySara]

11. Oh, how tragic. I am so sorry. A 'waste' is right. ...n/t

[hlthe2b]

12. I'm so sorry.... Hope is a tenuous commidity...

I pray others may find it before letting their dispair drive their actions.

May you and the family find peace... To better days, for all.

[City Lights]

13. Oh, greenbriar, I'm so very sorry for your family's loss.

:-(

:hug:

Peace to all of you...

[Breeze54]

14. That's awful news.

I'm sorry he was so sad.

My condolences to you and his family.

[Stardust]

15. While I grieve for the survivors, could it be that your cousin is immeasurably better off now?

[greenbriar]

19. no, he was not ill physically, no one even knew he was so sad

he and his wife had some issues, but I didn't think they were that bad...

[Bucky]

29. It's more than sad, of course. Depression is a disease, a potentially fatal one.

When Thomas Jefferson was participating in Virginia reforming its law codes in the 1780s, he's the first one to suggest that suicides quite being treated like murders (as they were back then) and instead be treated like death by disease. I pray today that we live in a society capable of as much compassion as they managed to have back then.

I hope his family and you can find some peace out of this when the time comes. I guess that will be a long long time from now.

[LibertyorDeath]

16. Damn

Condolences...

:grouphug:

[Cha]

17. I'm so sorry, greenbriar, for

your loss and it's a loss for humanity, too. :grouphug: O8)

[malaise]

18. How sad

and even harder for his wife and son. Deepest sympathy Greenbriar. Sometimes I wonder whether it is the really brave who take their own lives.

[Maddy McCall]

20. How terrible.

I am wishing your family much healing during the days to come.

:hug:

[nosmokes]

21. my condolences greenbriar

and good thoughts anat to his wife and son and the rest of the family.
peace

[cali]

22. My sincerest condolences.

I am so very, very sorry. Best thoughts and hopes for his family, particularly his son.

[Bucky]

23. God, what terrible news. That's such a sad loss.

He must've been in a lot of pain--and I know it's no consolation that at least his pain is over with now. But as a nurse, he must have brought a lot of healing to others while he was on this earth.

You and his family have my deepest condolensces.

[peacebird]

24. So sad.... so very sad.

:hug:

[Cabcere]

25. Oh no, greenbriar...

:hug: I'm so sorry. May he rest in peace. :grouphug:

[blues90]

26. Truely sorry

It is sad when anyone feels so lost and has to find a way out whatever this may be . I am not religous however for what it's worth I hope he has found peace .

[proud2BlibKansan]

27. Oh how tragic

How are you? :hug:

[renate]

28. I'm so sorry

So sorry for your family, so sorry that he was so unhappy.

:hug:

[Richardo]

30. Wishing peace and strength to his family and yours, gb...

:hug:

[rockymountaindem]

31. My condolences n/t

[DemReadingDU]

32. I am so sorry

It is always a sad emotional time when a loved one passes away.

[CrazyOrangeCat]

33. I'm so sorry.

K&R

[yellerpup]

34. Deepest sympathy to you and your cousin's family.

Wishing you all peace and reconciliation.

[barbtries]

35. i'm so sorry

oh

[Just-plain-Kathy]

36. My condolences to you and your family.

:hug:

[windbreeze]

37. What a sad state of affairs things are in, for someone to take this

way out...so sorry to hear this bad news....take care, condolences to his whole family...
wb

[Old and In the Way]

38. Lost a very close friend to CO poisoning...

to this day (35 years later), we still don't understand why. No one saw it coming. Sorry for your loss.

[melody]

39. Clinical depression is frequently a terminal disease

It kills us, one way or the other. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately,
suicide often culminates in idiots insulting the deceased. If only they knew what it
was like to have your mind and emotions work against you.

[tularetom]

40. Please accept my sincerest condolences

What can we say in such a circumstance. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[TheCowsCameHome]

41. That is so tragic.

[Olney Blue]

42. Only 43. I'm so sorry, greenbriar.

[femmedem]

43. I'm so very sorry. May he RIP.

And may your family, including your late cousin's wife, reach out to each other during their grief.
I am also the survivor of a loved one's suicide. :hug:

[Nutmegger]

45. .

:hug:

[AmandaRuth]

44. sincerely sorry for you and his family

thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Nutmegger]

46. Sad

:hug: to you and the family.

[IChing]

48. I am sorry for everyones loss-RIP N/T

[laylah]

49. I am so sorry

for your loss...and for the pain that drove him to this extreme :hug:

Jenn

[Mnemosyne]

50. I am so sorry to hear this gb. Suicide is such a permanent solution to

usually temporary problems. :cry: The guilt, the shock, the sorrow and anger left behind after a loved ones suicide can seem unbearable at times, but it will hurt somewhat less with time and only with time.

Please give my deepest condolences to your family. And if any assholes try to say he is going to hell; tell them that a loving God would never condemn someone to hell for the horrible suffering and hopelessness that drives anyone to this act. :hug:

How old is Keith's son, if it's not too personal? My daughter was 6 when her father committed suicide in the apartment entryway. I had left him for the final time 10 months before. I was advised to just tell her he was very ill and died until she grew old enough to ask questions, and around 8 yrs. old she started asking.

The worst part to deal with has been convincing her that he didn't do it because he didn't love her. She is 28 and still gets upset at how much they both lost when he died.

My heart is breaking for Keith's wife, son and all who loved him. :cry:

When the time is better, this book has saved my sanity and life, literally at times. I have dealt with too many suicides of family and friends over the years. If his son is older, please make sure he watched carefully in the future. It is, unfortunately, way too common for someone else close to a suicide to attempt it later on.

Silent Grief
Living in the Wake of Suicide. Revised Edition
Christopher Lukas and Henry M. Seiden

Paperback, ISBN: 9781843108474, 224pp, 2007, £13.99, $19.95

BIC: JBSN VFPX
Silent Grief is a book for and about “suicide survivors” – those who have been left behind by the suicide of a friend or loved one.

Author Christopher Lukas is a suicide survivor himself – several members of his family have taken their own lives – and the book draws on his own experiences, as well as those of numerous other suicide survivors. These personal testimonies are combined with the professional expertise of Henry M. Seiden, a psychologist and psychoanalytic psychotherapist.

The authors present information on common experiences of bereavement, grief reactions and various ways of coping. Their message is that it is important to share one's experience of “survival” with others and they encourage survivors to overcome the perceived stigma or shame associated with suicide and to seek support from self-help groups, psychotherapy, family therapy, Internet support forums or simply a friend or family member who will listen.

Silent Grief gives valuable insights into living in the wake of suicide and provides useful strategies and support for those affected by a suicide, as well as professionals in the field of psychology, social work, and medicine.

Namaste

[greenbriar]

52. thank you

His son is 16

The book looks helpful. Thanks

[Mnemosyne]

77. I hope it can help him, poor kid. n/t

[Digit]

51. Rest in Peace, Keith

[bdamomma]

53. I am so sorry for your loss.

[shadowknows69]

54. So sorry for your loss

I had a friend end his time here the same way. Doesn't make it any easier that it was their choice.

[mike_c]

56. damn, that is terrible for your family, Greenbrier....

I'm so sorry.

[xchrom]

57. for you greenbriar -- peace be with you --

Naked you came
from Earth the Mother.
Naked you return to her.
May a good wind be your road.
- Omaha prayer

Native American

That They May Face the Winds
Great Spirit, Great Spirit, my Grandfather,
all over the Earth the faces of living things are all alike.
With tenderness have these come up out of the ground.
Look upon these faces of children without number
and with children in their arms
that they may face the winds
and walk the good road to the day of quiet.

- Black Elk (1863-1950)


Prayer to the Voice in the Winds
O Great Spirit, whose Voice I hear in the Winds,
Hear me -- for I am small and weak:
I need Your Strength and Wisdom.
I seek Strength, O Great One, not to be superior to my Brothers --
But to conquer my greatest enemy: Myself.
I seek Wisdom: the Lessons You have hidden
In every Leaf and Rock so that I may learn
And carry these messages of Life and Hope to my People.
May my hands respect the many beautiful things You have made;
May my ears be sharp - to hear Your voice.
May I always walk in Your beauty;
And let my eyes behold the red and purple Sunset
So that when Life fades with the setting Sun,
My Spirit will come to You without shame.
Native American
source: Submitted by Beliefnet member Kaqtukwawsisipuskw

[ComerPerro]

58. reminds me of a family friend of ours, running car in the garage. I am sorry for your loss

[spanone]

59. sorry, so sad. so sad.

:grouphug:

[atommom]

60. So sorry to hear that.

:hug:

[MagickMuffin]

61. I'm so sorry for your loss, greenbriar

know that you are in my thoughts at this painful time.

[Madspirit]

62. Poor Man...I am sorry...RIP n/t

[ClintonTyree]

63. Man....

a permanent solution to a temporary problem. What a waste. My condolences to you and the rest of your family.

[ninkasi]

65. I'm so sorry

I wish I knew what to say, other than to offer you my sincere condolences. I have lost a cousin, an uncle, and a brother to suicide, and it's a very, very hard loss to bear.

[Ghost in the Machine]

66. Photo of Keith:

keith Piha
EL DORADO - Piha, Keith, 43, died March 29, 2007. Service 10:30 a.m. Monday, . Survivors: wife, ; son
Published in the Wichita Eagle on 3/31/2007.




R.I.P. Keith Piha

[greenbriar]

69. thank you

so much

[Ghost in the Machine]

70. you are very welcome..

:hug:

[candymarl]

67. My heart hurts

I am so sorry.

[Raksha]

68. I am so sorry, greenbriar.

I've had it happen in my family too (not in exactly the same way, but close enough) so I can understand how you feel.

[H2O Man]

71. I'm very sorry.

That is a hard way to lose a family member. I'm sorry for your loss, and for your family's loss.

Your friend,
Pat

[greenbriar]

72. Mods...could you move the picture to the opening post?

just wondering?


thanks

[Justitia]

73. I'm so sorry, friend. My best friend of many years killed herself last month. She was 39.

She left two beautiful young girls behind and thoughts of her haunt me every day and night.

The questions, regrets and recriminations are endless for the rest of us.

I wish I could help you in some way, but these things are cloaked in mystery for the survivors.

I would encourage you to check out a local suicide survivors group, here's a link to find one:

http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=FEE33687-BD31-F739-D66C210657168295

These are people who are completely nonjudgmental and can relate to probably any and every emotion you are experiencing.

A book to recommend would be "Night Falls Fast".

What has helped me is finding out that the massive confusion we feel is almost 100% universal for us survivors, no matter what the circumstances of the actual suicide.

Best thoughts to you.

[flamingyouth]

74. My condolences on your loss.

I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this news. My heart goes out to you and to your family during this time of grief. :hug:

[greenbriar]

75. thank you all

your kind words have moved me again to tears

[PassingFair]

76. Ahhh, crap. He looks like a kind, gentle guy.

As a nurse, he probably saw a lot of pain.
I am sorry for you and the family, greenbriar.
He must have had his reasons, as weird as it
seems to everyone.

He looks like a sweetheart!

:cry:

[greenbriar]

78. he was the most soft spoken gentle MAN

I ever knew who loved his wife and family fiercely


I don't know why

[femmedem]

100. The why's are haunting

for every family.

But ultimately there is no why. Not a rational why. Only the curse of an invisible illness.

[wicket]

79. I am so sorry

:hug:

:cry:

[libnnc]

80. I'm very sorry for your loss

My first cousin Alice shot herself 2 years ago this coming June. She was only 36. We'll never know why.

My thoughts are with you tonight.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[uppityperson]

81. My condolences, RIP.

[Blue_Tires]

82. i'm very sorry to read about this

there have been a couple of times when i was close to the edge of suicide, until people close to me helped me out...

i hope you and your cousin find peace

[salin]

83. tears for your family

suicide is such a painful travail for those left behind. Death is always hard, but suicide leaves so many questions and so many opportunities to take on guilt for those left behind. May your cousin Rest In Peace, and may his surviving family find peace in the near, rather than distant, future.

[bigwillq]

84. How awful.

I am so sorry for your families loss.

What a shame indeed.

:hug:

[lala_rawraw]

85. I am very sorry for your loss

A friend of mine in college took his own life this way. I understand.

[Terri S]

86. I'm so very sorry for your loss, greenbriar

No death of a loved one is ever without incredible grief, but suicide has to be the most devastating. Can any of us ever really know what pain lies deep inside anyone. The most loving, caring, sensitive of us seem to carry so much more so much deeper..especially men, who are taught from birth to be 'tough'. My heart aches for you and your family. May you all be surrounded by love, support and peace.

[LibDemAlways]

87. Heartfelt condolences. Your cousin must have

been the kind of person who kept a side of himself so well hidden that no one knew the depths of his despair. I hope all of his friends and family will one day find peace and acceptance and that you will take comfort in the memories of times you shared.

[Maraya1969]

88. I am so sorry for you loss.

:hug: :grouphug:

[Behind the Aegis]

89. Deepest condolences.

Death is always a difficult thing, but suicides seem to be even more difficult. My thoughts and prayers for you and your entire family.

Here are some links to explore: Suicide Awareness Voice of Education
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
The American Association of Suicidology

They all offer suggestions for healing, and the last two offer contacts to support groups. I hope it helps.

:hug:

[AZBlue]

90. I'm so sorry for your loss!

My condolences to you and your family!!

[Ilsa]

91. I am so sorry. I found out this morning that I lost a cousin this

week to a brain tumor. When her father found out that she had inoperable brain tumors a year ago, he died the following week because he couldn't stand to bury another daughter, another victim of cancer.

I am so sorry for what you and his family must be going through, and what he must have been going through to be so depressed that this had to be his way out.

[roguevalley]

92. I am so sorry. What a desperately lonely man. Please accept our

family's condolences for your loss. I am sure if he could have a second chance, he would not do it. Very sad thing, this.

[Tsiyu]

93. Sorry to hear this

Such a loss. It is hard not to wonder what one can do to prevent this, but in the end we can not blame ourselves for another's choices.


We can take this time - in memory of Keith - to try to understand suicide. Maybe we can save someone next time, or even save ourselves.



If you know anyone contemplating suicide, please pass along this link:

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/index.html



Peace and hope to you and yours.

[daleo]

94. Sorry to hear that

I had a very close relative do something similar. I still think of her often, 18 years later.

[6000eliot]

95. I'm so sorry for your loss, Greenbriar.

[Skittles]

96. very sorry

I know the feeling all to well :(

[area51]

97. I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[eleny]

98. My condolences to you and your family

[bridgit]

99. a great sadness...

[zippy890]

101. so very sorry for your family

a terrible illness that moves a person to this.

He couldn't help it, he didn't mean to hurt his family.
His pain was too much to bear.One of his thoughts, distorted by illness, was probably something like "My family will be better off without me"
and he believed that.

I know how it feels to be that sick.
:cry:

My heart goes out to your family.

[AnOhioan]

102. My condolences and sympathy to you and your family

[greenbriar]

103. thank you all for all your prayers and kind thoughts

The funeral is tomorrow and it is going to be hard


have been with family and it is devestating to see his wife and folks. His Mom is absolutely heart broke

[greenbriar]

104. The funeral was the roughest one i have ever been too

I couldn't look at him. Didn't want to be there