This Morning I kissed my husband goodbye as I left work. By Dinner I could be Unmarried.

[Ioo]

This morning as I readied myself for work I awoke my husband, we have been together for almost 15 years (not bad for someone who is 35) and we were married on Oct 16, 2008.

I sat on the bed putting my shoes on, reached over and stroked my cat "Ginger". I got up, bent over and gently kissed by sleeping husband on the forehead. In a half awake, half asleep voice he said, "I love you"...

When I see him again tonight he may no longer be my husband. He and I, and our love will once again make him my "friend" or "partner" or "roommate", all terms we have had used for us...

I ask for those that do not care one way or the other, to think about this... to think about the fact that right now, at this very moment, MY LIFE IS OUT OF MY HANDS. I am a nameless faceless person who waits for a court to tell me if I am married...

I am freaked out... sad, and hurt.



I am on the right, without the glasses.

[bicentennial_baby]

1. ...

:hug:

[CBR]

2. I am praying for the right decision. Best wishes to you and your

husband. Wonderful picture.

[Beetwasher]

3. I Sure Hope Not

That would suck. I think the court will do the right thing.

[supernova]

4. ...

:hug:

waiting right there with ya.

Wish there was something I could say to make it better for you both.

[Happyhippychick]

5. ...

:cry:

I care.

[CatWoman]

6. Ioo

:hug:

[Echo In Light]

7. K&R

[cali]

8. your post brought tears to my eyes.

keeping my fingers crossed for you, your husband and all the other couples who are now legally married in CA and waiting anxiously to find out if their marriages are still valid.

[Ioo]

47. TY

[sellitman]

107. Ditto. ( The Tears here are flowing)

That you should have to post this in todays day and age is shameful.


I wish you and your husband a world of happyness no matter what the outcome.

[csziggy]

9. Damn, that you have to worry is so wrong - when you two look so right together

:hug: I hope the CASC gets it right.

[RetroLounge]

10. ...

:hug:

RL

[ismnotwasm]

11. You two are beautiful

Your post made me cry.

I'm hoping against hope you and your husband have your human rights intact by the end of this day.

In any case, I'll never stop fighting for them, OK? Ever. :hug:

[Ioo]

49. *blush* TY

[Mythsaje]

12. Either way, my wife and I stand by you folks

I'd keep my fingers crossed if it would help, but it would make it SO hard to type.

Best wishes

[imdjh]

13. Regardless of what happens this afternoon- you have made history.

Never again will they be able to say, "In the history of the world, marriage has always been only for a man and a woman." They might have been able to erase it from parchment history, (or at least make it much harder to find) but in the age of the internet and the unbridled press history will not as easily be manipulated.

What you have done is nothing short of earthshaking in terms of history. They can't take that away from you.

[GreenPartyVoter]

14. I am so sad for you guys. *hugs* If I woke up tomorrow no longer married to my husband it

would break my heart. I know not everyone cares for marriage and dismiss it as archaic religious nonsense but for me there's always been something special about being able to say that I am his wife and he is my husband.

:hug:

[KillCapitalism]

15. No matter what, you'll still have each other.

They can take your marriage away, but at least they can't take him away. Just remember that regardless of how this all plays out.

[OmmmSweetOmmm]

16. My hugs and best wishes to the both of you.

:hug:

[Hugabear]

17. Your marriage is a threat to fundies everywhere

I really shouldn't need to add this, but just in case - :sarcasm:

Seriously, I have yet to hear ANY right-winger give me a compelling reason why gay marriage is a threat to their relationship.

[pleah]

18. ....

:hug:

[Peacetrain]

19. Thinking of you today..

:hug:

[CrispyQ]

20. I hope for a 21st century decision, not a 1950s one.

The best to both of you. Thanks for sharing your story & photo with us.

:hug:

[stray cat]

21. One of the best arguments I've seen for gay marriage - best wishes to you both

and good luck

[bigscott]

22. YOU WILL BE MARRIED

but living in a fucked up state. I am tired of letting the government tell us what we can and cannot be.

YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND HAVE BEEN MARRIED LONGER THAN MOST STRAIGHT COUPLES!

(sorry for shouting)

Good luck to the two of you - you have a relationship that should be a model for all couples - straight and gay

peace

[Soylent Brice]

23. no matter what happens

don't give up hope. we're all behind you 100%

[Solly Mack]

24. ...

:hug:

[myrna minx]

25. My heart is with you and your husband today.

:hug:

[Ioo]

46. TY

[WeDidIt]

26. You two are a CUTE COUPLE!

I pray the court does the right thing.

If not, your story should be a rallying cry for the fight for the right thing.

[Greybnk48]

27. My husband I support your marriage and rights.

I'm optimistic, I hope not wrongly. Be strong, both you and your husband.

[sinkingfeeling]

28. Ain't this world a mess? Believe that there is nothing in this universe that can really take

anything away from the two of you.

[jobycom]

29. My aunt and her wife have been together as long as I remember

and I'm in my forties. Same deal as you--they're married, if someone allows them to stay married. I hate hatred. This nation one day needs to live up the ideals it was founded upon.

Touching post. K&R. And we've all got our fingers crossed that they'll do the right thing here.

[bertman]

30. I'm not a praying kind of a guy, but I'm doing some heavy hoping that you are

treated as equal Americans under the eyes of the law.

[KitchenWitch]

31. ...

:hug:

[hangman86]

32. No matter what the outcome

he will ALWAYS be your husband as long as you love each other to the fullest extent. I know it's really important for that to be recognized by the damn government but, in my opinion, marriage goes beyond written documents.

With that said, I am still praying that the right decision is made.

[CADEMOCRAT7]

33. My eyes filled with tears. I will keep fighting for your equal rights.

I am so sorry that you are having to suffer this anxiety. This is not fair. This is awful !
My husband and I both do not feel it is fair that we are able to have marriage rights, and those rights are not protected and open for all. This is about equal rights. We are on pins and needles here in the Bay Area awaiting the decision. We, as a straight couple, will continue to fight on your behalf. We can not be happy knowing that others suffer and do not enjoy the same rights we have.

[RevolutionStartsNow]

34. This just breaks my heart

As a Californian, I am just stunned that we are so backward here.

[Arugula Latte]

44. Same here, in Oregon.

I grew up in the Bay Area and live in Portland now (after time elsewhere). Oregon voted against gay marriage in '04. It shouldn't be like this ANYWHERE, but especially not on the west coast. We're supposed to be better than that.

[havocmom]

35. Am hoping for a good decision on this one. Hoping the state recognizes your marriage forever.

And you two make a really beautiful couple. Thanks for being so brave and sharing the tragic situation foolish people have put you two in.

Best wishes for a long, happy married life together.

[Missy Vixen]

36. Please remember that we are with you

I am hoping for good news, too. You, and millions of others, deserve the legal recognition of your family.

Those who seek to prevent it are nothing more than bigots.

I hope for many happy years for you and your husband. Please give each other a hug from me.

[Gemini Cat]

37. Good luck!

:hug: That's a great photo by the way.

[Arugula Latte]

38. K&R

:kick:

[Starry Messenger]

39. Beautiful post.

I'm crying at work. :hug:

[dana_b]

40. oh my

I am hoping for the best for you both. Thank God you have each other.

[Spazito]

41. Very powerful OP....

My heart is in my throat waiting for the decision to be handed down and your OP is why. I want for you and yours what is already law in Canada, equal rights for ALL.

[Maru Kitteh]

42. !. That's a lovely photo. 2. My heart goes out to you. I can't possibly imagine what you feel like

I can try to, but I'll NEVER have to worry about such a scathing injustice being done to me and my husband because of our genders. There is nothing right about that.

I know it will eventually change. The sheer, undeniable force of justice will bring marriage equality for all - but I'm desperately sorry for the hundreds of thousands, (millions?) of couples who are denied this human right, right NOW.

I shall keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers today.

[sandyj999]

43. I will say a prayer for you and I know the God I believe in will hear me.

Because He believes in love. I will be hoping for the best for you both.

[Vickers]

45. Easily the most moving post I've seen on DU.

:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

[Chorophyll]

48. K&R. You are a beautiful couple,

and remember that no bigoted bastards can ever really un-marry you.

[Rhythm]

50. My 'roommate' and i send you the biggest hugs we can...

We've been together for almost 10 years; after we finish our undergrad studies here in West Virginia (we're both non-trad students at WVU), we're moving to a state that will guarantee us equality of the laws, and are hoping dearly that our choices can include beautiful California.

[Ioo]

52. We live in WV too :) Thank you.

[Ioo]

51. I can not thank you all one by one...

Thank you so much all of you... I hope they do the right thing.

[JitterbugPerfume]

53. if there is any justice in this world

you will always be married. This straight woman thinks you are beautiful--both of you just as you are.

[Terran]

54. ((hugs))

Never forget that you still have each other. I believe we'll get there someday. Probably not in my backward-ass state in time enough to formalize my 23-year union with my guy, but for the rest...

You guys are both very cute, btw!

[merh]

55. I pray that the California court will do what is right

what is required under our laws.

You and your's deserve no less.

The freedom to marry is one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free persons. Marriage is one of the "basic civil rights" fundamental to our very existence and survival. The freedom to marry, or not marry, a person resides with the individual and cannot and should not be infringed.

[Exultant Democracy]

56. Brother my heart hurts for you. I speak for all of New England in inviting you and your Husband to

move up here. The human rights situation is a little bit better.

[DKRC]

57. So sorry y'all are having to go through this

You're not alone even though it feels that way.

:grouphug:

[livefreest]

58. this is heart breaking.

the government or the law can't take love out of your hearts

[ceile]

59. Stay strong

We'll keep fighting....

[bluedawg12]

60. I pray that justice will be served today and wrongs undone.

[Neecy]

61. This makes me so goddamn angry

You have a beautiful family and no matter what happens today, you have your love and the love of our community behind you.

The fact that we have to jump through these friggin' hoops makes me just want to scream.

[bluedawg12]

62. ...

:hug:

[sazemisery]

63. I hope this goes the way it should.

I'm tired of injustice.

[Stinky The Clown]

64. You're married

You know it.

I know it.

They know it.

:hug:

[Toasterlad]

65. Times Like This, I Wish I Could Pray.

My thoughts and understanding are with you. And I'm given hope by your love. Stay strong.

[InvisibleTouch]

66. I do care...

...even though I'm the last person in the world who would ever want to be married, myself, and the issue has zero impact on my own daily life - but I care, because of the injustice of it, and I'm indignant over the bigotry driven by sad pseudo-religious losers who can't seem to be happy unless they make others miserable. Those who want to get married, should have that option, no matter what. It's just a simple, basic right. I'm hoping for the best for you!

[OHDEM]

67. Wow! Your husband is quite a catch.

What a beautiful couple! Congratulations on your long marriage!

You and he deserve all the happiness in the world including continued acknowledgement (and legal rights) of your commmitment.

I'm pulling for you and so many other happy couples!

[Ioo]

69. Thank you - I agree!!

[tosh]

68. I care...a lot.

And the fact that we even have to be concerned with this today just plain SUCKS!!:eyes:

[tosh]

71. Damn!!!

[tosh]

72. Well at least they are ruling that existing marriages can stand.

Sucks overall.

[havocmom]

84. Pardon the racist anachronism but: That was damned white of them.

Why does the California Supreme Court hate America?

[PopSixSquish]

70. You and All Others are in My Prayers Today

regardless of what happens, don't ever give up!

:grouphug:

[ohheckyeah]

73. I'm so sorry the

California Supreme Court upheld prop. 8. While existing marriages will stand it can't be much comfort knowing that civil rights for same sex couples isn't a priority in this country. It's a travesty.

[Ioo]

74. So now I am in the "I got mine" class. Sad day for everyone

[ohheckyeah]

77. I don't get how any

judge can find prop. 8 constitutional. It is a sad day for everyone who has a heart.

[polmaven]

96. You are NOT in the "I got mine" class at all!

I see that class as saying that as long as they have what they want, forget if anyone else can have the same......I do not think you and your husband will go there. I doubt very much that you will sit back and just revel in your own marriage while others are being discriminated against.

I hope for the day when threads like this one are no longer necessary!

[Gormy Cuss]

75. I hope that you are still married tonight.

I still can't believe that enough voters in this state thought Prop. H8 was worth a YES vote.

:hug:

[democrank]

76. You`re in my thoughts

[MagickMuffin]

78. Unfortunately the Court ruled against people who love one another

But if you are already married then you are still legally married. This was just explained on MSNBC.

I guess this ruling in favor of Prop 8 means the gay community needs to get the legalization of gay couples back on the ballot. NEVER give up.

:hug: to you and your husband.

[stray cat]

79. I'm glad your marriage was upheld - congrats.

I'm sorry about the rest of the ruling but I'm really glad the marriages to date were upheld.

[Ioo]

80. Thanks... but I am sad for those that want to come after us...

I am special, and I don't want to be..

[stray cat]

94. Hopefully it won't be long.....

[CLANG]

158. Not only does the court uphold discrimination

It also creates a minority class within a minority class. How does this hold any constitutional water?

Equal protection may ass!

[KittyWampus]

81. I am sorry but things will improve. You two will find justice. Sadly it will take more time

[Rebubula]

82. Love

Be strong...he will always be your husband and love of your life.

No one can take that away from YOU!

[lies and propaganda]

83. *bawling

Ive been a hot mess all day... and its 10:30


I cannot wait to know the verdict.. and I hope to hell it does in our favor!

Fingers crossed for you guys.. and Ginger too!

[grantcart]

85. what a lovely couple, glad your still legal

Couples like this make it easier to overturn next time.

[QueenOfCalifornia]

86. If I really were

the Queen of California... I would never take away your right to be an equal member of this fucked up society. I find it unthinkable that you are being put through this shit.

Peace.

[shadowknows69]

87. I'm so happy for you Ioo that the CSC at least kept your marriage in this travesty

But your community there must be overwhelmed with anger right now. I can't blame you. I can't even say what I think I'd do in this case.

[Ioo]

95. I I feel for others... I do not want to be special

[shadowknows69]

100. It's a completely ridiculous ruling, but you should feel no guilt about it.

Now is the time for strength and perseverance.

[OnyxCollie]

88. K&R. nt

[slackmaster]

89. I'm glad the ruling spared your relationship

The fight will continue, and the rights of people to marry same-sex partners will be vindicated.

[nichomachus]

90. You're still married -- just freaks

Just like my husband and I are. The court has turned us into freaks. There are now 36,000 people who are married in a state that forbids them to be married.

[Ioo]

98. Yah Freaks!

[a la izquierda]

91. I'm sad for you...

and I just heard the news as I walked in from teaching.
My mom is gay, and has been with her partner for nearly 30 years; if your situation had happened to her, I'd be irate. Right now, I'm just sort of sick.
Cheers to you and your husband, for a brighter day.

[bvar22]

92. You touched my heart.

Thanks.

IMO, this is NOT a GLBT Issue, but part of a much larger issue that affects everyone....basic Civil Rights.

Equal Rights and Equal Protections for EVERYONE...NO exceptions.

BTW: Beautiful Photo !

[malta blue]

93. Your post just sent tingles down my spine....

I am glad your marriage will still be recognized, but I weep for the countless couples who have to face this sort of discrimination every single day in this country. It is a sad day.....

[Just-plain-Kathy]

97. I wish you both happiness...You're lucky you have each other.

:hug:

[Kajsa]

99. You are still married.

This shouldn't be on any ballot-
it's a personal matter no court should
decide!

I am so ashamed of my State Supremes
right now!

:(

That's a great picture of the two of you.

:)

[peacetalksforall]

101. Thanks for writing and the photo. Good luck to you both today.

[ElusiveSigh]

103. K&R. nt

[handmade34]

102. we love you and are so very troubled by whats happening

...many of us are fighting for you and we will keep fighting. PROMISE!

[K Gardner]

104. I don't know what to say except I'm sorry, and ashamed of this country and the ignorance

displayed by people in it.

[goclark]

106. Me too

[bdamomma]

115. me too, gay people are not hurting anyone.

[Ioo]

116. I can think of a few people that I would like to...

[defendandprotect]

105. Hartmann just read part of the decision -- you're safe -- all the marriages will hold.

I don't know much more on this but shouldn't the question of involvement

of the Church's/$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ be questioned???

Best wishes!!!

[WeDidIt]

108. I am happy you're still married

I am reviled by the fact that no other gay couples can get married.

It's a pradox and shouldn't stand. It's fucking sick the courts would do this to people.

[SteppingRazor]

111. Your name is kinda apropos here, WeDidIt. Because the courts didn't do this to people.

We, the voters, did. Not that you or I voted for Prop 8 -- heck, I'm a resident of Florida, but rest assured I would have voted against if I still lived in Cali. I'm just saying that the blame for this doesn't really lie with the state supreme court, which issued an aggravating, but all too expected, ruling. The blame lies with the voters who codified Prop. 8 in the first place.

[Chovexani]

109. Honey you know all of you were in my prayers

:hug:

I hope everyone who thinks this is just an abstract thing to be argued on a message board reads this. We are fighting for our lives and our right to be citizens under the law.

What gives me hope is that freedom is continually to roll here in the Northeast, I will probably be able to get married in my home state before too long.

[bdamomma]

110. this is not right at all.

as a heterosexual woman this is horrible and so unfair.

[mzmolly]

112. You're a lovely couple.

I am so very sorry.

[jeff30997]

113. Your post made me very emotional.

I love the picture.15 years together and you seem to be a very strong couple.That ruling sucks and I

sincerely hope that there's something that can be done.Can it go to the U.S supreme court ?

Anyway, all I can add is: :hug:

(Oh man,I have tears in my eyes again just typing this).

[DarkTirade]

114. Fuck the court. Fuck the hateful mob. He is your husband.

No one can take that from you.
:hug:

[FourScore]

117. I just read the ruling. You are still married.

You and 18,000 other couples. But the fact that others cannot get married is a travesty.

:hug:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

118. Read your post with tears in my eyes

I'm glad your marriage is still valid, but I'm crying for one of our patients here in Arkansas. He called because he's being flown to a hospital for serious surgery. His partner for many years was not allowed to go with him, but is driving to the hospital far away just so he can wait nearby to find out the outcome. These two gentlemen have the kindest voices (I've only talked with them on the phone), and their concern and love for one another is evident. But because of the stupidity and hatred of the people in my state, Bob can't be with Bill at this critical time.

I hope that, in my lifetime, all loving couples have the right to marry.

[gbate]

119. Thank you so much for posting this.

I love the picture.

You deserve to have the same rights as my husband and I share.

Bless you.

[keepCAblue]

120. Shame on the STUPID SIX

[Mira]

121. I am enraged beyond words. Won't ever forget your post,

and the impact on me this day.
In my eyes and God's eyes and DU's eyes you are married.

[Juche]

122. We need more stories like this. Have you thought of a letter to the editor

The concept of gay marriage is so abstract, but when you put an individual face on the sense of rejection and cultural oppression that these decisions have on human beings who have done nothing to deserve it, it makes it much more powerful of an argument for gay human rights.

[jeepnstein]

123. Sounds like...

they split the difference. Left married couples married but barred further weddings, which I think is a cop-out. This matter needs to be settled.

[Enthusiast]

124. Sorry for the cruel and bigoted state

of our country. Those that profess their Christianity the loudest practice it the least.

As a married hetero male I wish you all happiness and success in your partnership. We have been married 36 years, I wish you the same and more.

[carlyhippy]

125. so sad.....you have put a face and a story to the prop 8 decision

I'm so sorry.
Carly

[Lerkfish]

126. completely as a side note: cute couple!

:)

[Ioo]

128. *blush* thank you!

[emsimon33]

127. Please know that the rest of us will fight this with you

Prop 8 will not stand!!!!

[kimmerspixelated]

129. In the words of Joni Mitchell:

From My Old Man: "We don't need no piece of paper from the city hall, keepin us tied and true, My Old Man, keeping away those blues".

[ScreamingMeemie]

130. On another morning, not so long ago, I kissed my husband goodbye

and was a widow by lunchtime. As heartbreaking as it might be... marriages should end by choice, or fate---not by decisions enforced by ignorance and bigotry. It is my sincerest hope that you and your husband have many happy years together filled with joy. They were the best years of my life.

[wellstone dem]

155. Thank you for your post too. Am so sorry

for your loss, but grateful for the insight you have chosen to share.

[NEOhiodemocrat]

131. so sorry

remember not everyone wants to take away your rights. I feel that if your rights are taken away mine might as well be also.

[noiretextatique]

132. the court made it clear that those who were married before Prop 8

are still married. the proposition failed to specify retoactivity, so you have nothing to worry about.

[ScreamingMeemie]

133. "nothing to worry about"....

except for the fact that he lives in a state that isn't committed to offering and protecting equal rights for all of its citizens. l

[noiretextatique]

136. this is the same court that made this marriage possible

and 17,999 others. it's shocking that they've reversed themselves with this decision.
please don't lecture me, btw. i am a lesbian, and i am a californian.
the poster doesn't have to worry about his marriage being invalidated...unless another proposition is passed.

[ScreamingMeemie]

138. Please show me where I have "lectured" you...

and I'll not give you any of my background because I really freaking abhor it when people use the "I am...some of my best friends are..." line in order to make a point on a faceless message board. He's got lots to worry about.

Cheers.

[noiretextatique]

139. you post was snarky and condescending

i took it personally, but perhaps you didn't mean it that way.

[ScreamingMeemie]

140. Then you don't know me at all...

And now, I'm not going to mess on a beautiful thread any longer.

[Ioo]

135. Right Wing said they will appeal the part of the ruling that let me stay married.

So, i have lots to worry about.

[noiretextatique]

137. the court made it very clear...very clear

that retroactivity was not mentioned in Prop 8 and therefore doesn't apply. at least that's some good news from this otherwise dismal ruling.

[nichomachus]

148. Right -- so look for the fundies to come back and try for that next

They're not going to stop now. There's blood in the water and they are energized.

[sipping radicchio]

141. I can appreciate your wanting the same rights as afforded others, but

please do not worry about what someone else designates you! Your relationship is not rendered legitimate because of that slip of paper. I know, I know, it's not fair, but I am just talking about beyond that issue. Is Mel Gibson's marriage legitimate because they have that paper? How about the Edwards? It's really an illusion and has nothing to do with love, which is why I stay the hell away from signing any document, if I can help it. But I just don't want you to get in a tizzy about whether these people will take away that blasted paper or not. It wouldn't make you less-than.

But I stand with your fight for equal rights.

[The Doctor.]

165. Actually, that 'piece of paper' makes a world of difference.

When it comes to property rights, decision-making, and the most heartbreaking;

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x5676365

[Number23]

146. Thank you for posting that, Noire. There is some comfort in what you've written

To Ioo: Hold on to your husband. Cherish him and your love. You and both beautiful and so lucky to have found each other.

[siligut]

134. You two look like you belong together.

It is the unwise, bigoted people who are causing this heartbreak. We have hope on our side, we won’t let them take that from you too.

[HOLOS]

142. K&R

[OKDem08]

143. you are not alone

I make a point of talking to just about everyone on this issue in a small attempt to change attitudes. It will happen. It's just a matter of time.

[secondwind]

144. I am a straight woman, but very supportive of your equal rights!!!

[Wednesdays]

145. K&R

:kick:

[panzerfaust]

147. Marriage is more about love, than sex

no matter what one's preferences.

My heart goes out to you both.

I find it difficult to believe that so many marriages can simply be set aside. That is NOT right.

[catrose]

149. K&R

[winyanstaz]

150. I am sorry that the highest courts in california are using their power..

to make a mockery out of the Constitution and to put you both in such pain.
Hang in there..perhaps someday the dream of equality and freedom for all will still come true..we just have to keep on trying.
Blessings to you both.

[chieftain]

151. I am so sorry and yet I know there are no words that can ease

your pain. I was one of those liberal heterosexuals who hid behind the formulation of civil marriage as a way to give us Democrats political cover. I gave up that pusillanimous fig leaf when I saw the joy on the faces of so many newly married couples and began to comprehend what the bigoted and their co-dependents in the liberal community were doing to our fellow human beings. It may be of no comfort to you and your husband, especially considering the source, but the Catholic Church teaches that the sacrament of matrimony is actually administered by the couple, one to the other. The priest, the congregation are mere witnesses to the rite. So to me it is clear that by those lights, you and your husband remain bound in holy matrimony. It ought not matter what anyone else thinks or says. And yet I know that it does matter and it does hurt. And for that I am profoundly sorry.

[TomClash]

152. You're married

no matter what the State, the Court or any other institution dictates. It is your birthright. Don't let them hurt your feelings - that's what these freaks live for.

[Jeff In Milwaukee]

153. What God Hath Joined Together, Let No Man Put Asunder

So basically fuck the California Supreme Court and anybody else who says you're not married...

[Mermaid7]

154. Hey just remember the gov can never sanction love

Things will eventually turn around...
what's most important is that you love each other.

No one ever can take that away, so who you regard as your husband
is your husband.

We will fight to get you 'legal' rights, but the love relationship can't be taken away

NOT BY ANYONE EVER!!!

HE IS STILL YOUR HUSBAND, isn't he?

YOU HEAR ME ?

and that is WHO will be coming home to YOU tonight.

NO-ONE CAN TELL YOU OTHERWISE!!!

At least not in your heart.

We will take care of the rest.

Trust us.

[wellstone dem]

156. You should never have had to face today.

We will never take this battle for granted again.

[kudzu22]

157. Two points on this

#1 - although the court's decision was unfortunate, they really didn't have a choice. The voters amended the constitution, and the constitution can't be unconstitutional.

#2 - that said, why is it so effing easy to amend the California constitution?!? A simple majority vote can change the fundamental underpinnings of the entire governmental structure? That seems exceptionally dangerous to me. To amend the US Constitution takes two-thirds of BOTH houses of Congress to even propose an amendment, and then three-fourths of the states to ratify it. It should not be an easy process. This is probably why California is so effed up.

[CLANG]

159. On your point #1

They certainly did have a choice. It wouldn't have become part of the state constitution if they had deemed the amendment unconstitutional.

[arthritisR_US]

160. fuck them! you're married no matter what, and soon the rest of your country will

be saying so. Those narrow minded bigots have some heavy duty karma waiting them and I'll be there to cheer their demise. BASTARDS!!

[Nikki Stone1]

161. You're a cute couple. :)

And I am overjoyed that you (and friends of mine) can stay legally married. But we need to fight now more than ever.

[PBS Poll-435]

162. Proud to be the 125th Rec

This is gonna get fixed.

[Skittles]

163. I am with you and your hubbie, Ioo

always - and there are more and more of us every day

[Christa]

164. My heart goes out to you and your husband

:hug: :cry:

What happened yesterday is unforgivable. If the religious nuts would just stay out of the lives and bedrooms of everyone else, life would be better.

[Vidar]

166. Sorry for the pain this is causing you both.

[feslen]

167. :(

sigh....

[Ioo]

168. You all are way to nice - Thank you for the kind words. I am happy, and sad at the same time!

I want to thank you all for all the kind words. I am glad that for some this post has made this a real issue that they can put a face too.

I am happy because my marriage is safe for now, but I am sad because many may not know the overwhelming joy that day was to us.

[sammythecat]

169. Be sad, and be hurt,

but don't be freaked out.

Not to get all poetic on you here, but, although you may be in stormy waters, you're firmly anchored. You still have each other. :hug:

[JackDragna]

170. Keep fighting.

The other side is the one losing the fight, slowly but surely. You'll get to call each other whatever the heck you please soon enough.

[applegrove]

171. So sorry.