I have faced the most sadistic ridicule you could imagine for years.
Now I don't care what anyone thinks if their opinion is based in ridicule. I disregard their bullshit and they lose my respect.And they prove to me they are dead inside.I draw a boundary and admit thas person is toxic to me.Thier comments are disregarded.
If I knew how to do this boundary making years ago to shut out abusive people and not take their ridicule as a thing worth my consideration maybe things would have been different, I dunno.
I know however seeing the torment some people go through can be frightening to someone who is fortunate and has never felt such painful stuff.Alien and scary.
But I feel this bad stuff, the trauma, this pain, the hole inside our souls,the mental illness, the way it all feels to be part of a culture of psychopathy , however much or less you have trauma inside yourself is not the point here this is not a victim contest or stoic contest.
Facing reality of what we do and say to each other in the name of security, control,social domination,and obedience,conformity pleasing authority, or avoidance is exactly what our culture needs to stop running away from.
We need to stop all the bullshit so we can begin to reach out and respond, learn to trust ourselves and know each other again as people.
Traumatic issues like child abuse, alcoholism ,drugs,rape,verbal abuse,poverty, violence,social death sentences, bullies, outcasts,social domination,pecking orders,the shit we learn from our parents and this sick culture that hurts us but is invisible and everywhere like air,We must deal with it directly instead of shoving it down the collective unconscious and letting it play out in verbal abuse online,or violent movies or a homicidal guys like cho at VT...
And we must stop this denial of the pain of it all ,stop playing the"normal" game itself, stop believing the lies we tell ourselves to keep the bad feelings away. We must Get past the shallowness, the social crap, the aching isolation,the petty distractions, the bullshit media,and learn to shut out what people (including experts)say,and form our OWN thoughts..We need to get past the pretensions,assumptions bigotries and crap..And empathize with each other's experiences on a much deeper and more honest level than we are,regardless of what we fear others might say or what ridicule we might fear hearing.
Did you read the comments to Cho's strange violent plays? People ridiculed about grammar.These scared little monkeys played self superiority games rather than face what sick things resided in Cho might reside in themselves.They were such puffed up petty people they failed to even ask WHY was cho so messed up failed to even feel anything but an ego trip, failing to introspect as to why they just HAD to say such stupid , insipid thoughtless ridiculing comments about this.
http://newsbloggers.aol.com/2007/04/17/cho-seung-huis-plays/WE need to be courageous hearers and sharers and not let petty ego bullshit get in the way of being a human being...We need to step outside ourselves.Shut down the arrogant defenses.We need to get over our own asshole and face down the fear of being human in an unpredictable dangerous world we cannot control and cannot force to behave in accordance with our fears,wills and wishes..and grow up.
THe results of all of this mess resides inside us all. It needs to be cracked wide open, examined and the secrets said and heard and we need to re learn how to feel each others pain,without fear,and empathize and draw boundaries without blame or shame or games .We need to stop playing master and servant.We need to admit we are not as sane as we want to be,not as clever as we wish,admit we need each other more than we need to buy stuff or believe crap or control everyone else's life and share the really tough burdens of this life and the comforts of it without fearing incurring unwarranted shame from those who have not been scarred who are afraid of being'tainted' by others traumas they are afraid of hearing and taking some responsibility for.We all need to accept the human condition is real and hurts us as it is for ourselves and accept how it is for others and quit turning away and quit ignoring it and making it worse for some so others don't have to be bothered with the gritty details of survival on the bottom of the social food chain..
We all need to stop pretending and help each other grow up together, not as little stunted islands pretending if we just make believe hard enough the threat isn't there.We cannot go on pretending misfortune or trauma will never happen to us..We must admit we are fragile, we also must admit certain members of humanity are not like us they are unable to love and unable to feel shame they are dangerous,and we have to do something to protect ourselves from psychopaths.In a way that works and is effective and does not harm people who are NOT psychopaths..We must learn to value each other even when we do not understand them or relate well and we must stop the control game crap and get honest about what we REALLY fear and ignore the fucking propaganda telling us what we should fear...If we fail to do this kind of emotional maturing as a culture we will NEVER heal from this trauma And history will go on repeating.Psychopaths will go undetected because they look so normal and when we all play normal and fake who we are the psychopaths can blend right in and ruin everything they touch..And when nobody bothers to stick their neck out and stop by-standing it is a sociopaths playground...and if we as a society do not get past this selfish anxiety and fear of the other enough to help each other history will keep hurting us until we finally kill life on this planet.