Could you stay married to a spouse when 14 (and counting) affairs were revealed?

[Liberal_in_LA]

Poll question: Could you stay married to a spouse when 14 (and counting) affairs were revealed?

Asking because some are suggesting that Tiger should chuck it in...too much pain for a marrage to withstand. Wondering what DUers think.

[peacetalksforall]

1. No. Who are we talking about? Is is Sanford?

[flvegan]

2. Yes, if she'd forgive me for them.

[polichick]

4. LOL

[polpilot]

20. Would depend on their golf game...and endorsements.

[polichick]

3. The child welfare people were at the Woods house today...

This IS about Tiger and Elin, right?

[Liberal_in_LA]

7. Yeah, mistresses are revealing all kinds of stuff and the mistresses are NUMBERED

for gawds sake. How much can a spouse take?

[polichick]

13. Well, looks like Elin has had enough. She was photographed pumping gas...

WITHOUT her wedding ring.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2770617/Tiger-Woods-wife-Elin-Nordegren-goes-out-without-her-wedding-ring.html

[dkf]

5. I wouldn't call them affairs. Too dignified.

[Liberal_in_LA]

11. I guess a better question would be "if all a revealed at once, is 14 hookups worse than 1?"

[dkf]

15. Disease wise, yes.

Emotional involvement wise, 14 is better.

[yourout]

6. Made it through one but I dont see how I could have handled any more.

[quiller4]

8. meet-ups, hook-ups, one night stands all seem more accurate descriptions than affairs

I wouldn't put up with that kind of behavior today from current spouse but stayed with first husband for nearly 10 years. He worked with a touring theatre company and had a woman in almost every stop on the tour. That was part of our arrangement that I accepted for years.

[Liberal_in_LA]

9. ugh

[Ruby the Liberal]

16. I am so sorry

Back in the 90's, I was a golf "mistress", but mine was not married. One of who knows how many. It is all too common on tour. :(

[polichick]

17. Did you at least have a few boy-toys to play with while he was gone?...

That only seems fair.

[OneTenthofOnePercent]

10. For millions of dollars and a mansion...

You betcha. Okie Dokie? :D

[HipChick]

12. She's bought and paid for...pre-nup$$$...so who cares? Tom Jones has hundred of mistress..

His wife stays for the $$$, bet Elin will too unless she turns into another Mrs.Phil Hartman.seems like she headed that way....

[Blasphemer]

40. I don't think she was in it for the money and she'll walk

That's the worst part of all of this. He COULD have found someone who was more interested in the money and the lifestyle than in completely fidelity. Instead, he chose to mislead a young woman who seems to have naively believed that he actually loved her and was committed to marriage and family. There is no way she will turn into a Mrs. Phil Hartman. If she were that unstable, he'd be dead already. She seems to be talking to attorneys. I'm sure she wants to make the transition as easy as possible for her children but divorce isn't easy and it's not pretty. I hope she takes all the time she needs and is getting good advice. Her family seems to be a good support system. I think she and the children would be better off in Sweden. Tiger has enough money to fly there as often as he likes. However, given his proclivities, he probably prefers spending his time elsewhere.

[Ruby the Liberal]

14. "affairs"? That assumes respect.

TW was into sex for the sake of sex. If I were Elin, I would dump his butt, suggest he go for the pron career he so obviously wants and find a real family-oriented man to raise my kids with.

If i didn't have kids, I might think differently, but they deserve better than to be raised by a weekend-warrior and his hooker du-jour on alternate weekends.

Then again, they have the $$$ to let the attorneys work it all out to the best interests of the younguns.

[Fla_Democrat]

18. Mine, or hers?

:shrug:

[Atticus]

19. Who gives a big brown rat's ass what DUers---or anyone else not directly involved---

thinks about this?

I don't know what did or did not happen. I DO know that the MSM has engaged in a classic media feeding frenzy and is doing all it can to convince us whe SHOULD care whether this athlete cheated on his wife.

People commit adultery quite frequently. Are we really interested in this particular couple's problems?

Great minds discuss ideas.
Mediocre minds discuss events.
Small minds discuss people.

[polichick]

22. Perhaps you should have skipped this thread then. nt

[Atticus]

50. Maybe you're right. Never mind. nt

[spanone]

21. who's counting?

nobody's bidness but tiger & the mrs

[branders seine]

23. Depends on the terms of the prenup.

[NorthCarolina]

24. I'd have to see those *nude pics* before I could give a definative answer

JUST KIDDING...the guy is a spoiled brat and a slimeball loser....and to be honest, I'm beyond tired of hearing about his escapades because personally, I could hardly care less what Tiger does in his personal life.:boring:

[Joe Bacon]

25. Sure!

I'm sure that a spouse whose husband is a TV Preacher that makes Tiger Woods look like Mary Poppins loves the money too much too leave!

[a la izquierda]

26. Not a chance...

one i could deal with, so long as my husband was sorry and worked to truly repair the marriage. If not, he could hit the road after one.

[liberalmuse]

27. Why would someone like that even get married?

He should have stayed single if he couldn't keep it in his pants so we wouldn't have to hear about this shit. Selfish, I know, but I'm so tired of seeing it all over the intertubes. Thank god I haven't turned on a tv in awhile.

[polichick]

28. It was probably a PR move - or a trophy wife thing. ICK! nt

[endless october]

29. no. but i have been in relationships with cheaters.

it hurt me to the point that i have trouble believing in love lately.

[bridgit]

30. Other: I pinned an X's boxers to the wall with a crossbow arrow after *one*...

[polichick]

31. Was he wearing the boxers? :)

[bridgit]

33. heh-heh, the night he was tossed? Oh yes, I felt he deserved that much...

[Hippo_Tron]

32. If it's a marriage of convenience and not of love and companionship than yes

Remember, Franklin Roosevelt was sleeping with his very attractive mistress rather than his wife yet they stayed married.

I should add that a marriage of companionship and love would be preferable to one of convenience.

[polichick]

35. Hopefully, Mrs. had her own on the side too then. nt

[Hippo_Tron]

37. I really hope she did, Eleanor Roosevelt was a wonderful person

[Octafish]

34. How much is half a billion, again?

The other half is for the lawyers.

[Generator]

36. No, my limit is 13

you have to draw a line somewhere.

[Blasphemer]

38. Not if the circumstances mirrored the Woods situation

Given all of the reports regarding things he has told his MANY mistresses, I would question whether or not he ever entered into the marriage in good faith. He was screwing a porn star during his bachelor party. It looks to me like he was just using her and she was unwittingly part of a con job he was pulling on his sponsors and the public at large. That's fraud. The house is reportedly in her name only. I would have thrown him out and started packing my bags immediately. However, I do think it's possible to overcome infidelity under different circumstances.

[MissDeeds]

39. Wouldn't be an issue

I'd be a widow and a felon.

[ismnotwasm]

41. Nope

But I wouldn't get married in the first place if I wasn't sure that monogamy wasn't the way I wanted to go, and I'd expect the same of my spouse. My husband and I talked that one out years ago, before we got married and we do a regular check in with each other.((Plus we're one of those silly couples who sometimes still act like newlyweds after 20 years)

It's not the infidelity-- the actual sex part-- it's the bullshit, the prolonged lies and the cruelty. No one HAS to get married. No one HAS to stay married. If someone thinks they need multiple partners, they should just fucking say so, and make the cut clean, or work something out. Open marriage or whatever.

I can't stand mean-ass behavior out of people who should know better. It's a fucked up, shitty way to act. How individual couples handle infidelity, is of course, their business.

[tonysam]

42. If the reports are true, Tiger has had a LOT more than 14

women; he's into threesomes, etc.

[dixiegrrrrl]

43. I could stay long enough to collect on the the accidental death insurance policy.

:evilgrin:

[bermudat]

44. Please, she is staying. Not for the kids, for the millions.

If Tiger was that much of a p*ssyhound, he is not changing. He'll just go on the down-low

because she can't be with him 100% of the time. She won't be raising the kidlets, the nannies

and housekeepers will. Everyone says she should just divorce him and then what? She was a

nanny. She may be a rich divorcee but what will be her identity? If she stays she is

Mrs. Tiger Woods, married to one of the most famous men on the planet. Nothing to see here.

[dkf]

49. She's already going to get millions.

She's staying for the kids.

[anigbrowl]

45. Sure, 15 is not that much tougher than 14.

And Tiger is a man used to going a full 18 rounds. Let's not underestimate his capabilities.

[FourScore]

46. How does a person really not know BEFORE they get married about the character of their partner?

For a person to run astray 14 or more times is a chronic character flaw (unless an open marriage was agreed upon in advance). This person has and will always be unfaithful. So, my question is, how does a partner manage to block that out and not see it? There are ALWAYS telltale signs when someone is chronically unfaithful. A person may not want to wake up and see them, but they are there nonetheless. So how, and more importantly, WHY would a person block that out and not see the obvious?

[ecstatic]

47. No, but how do we know some of them aren't lying/ exaggerating?

If I came forward and talked about *my* time with Tiger, would that count too?

[Cleita]

48. Maybe I might like the life style money can buy, but the only other reason

I would stay besides for the children is if it became an open marriage. I mean I would want my own separate living spaces. There would be no more sex. I would reserve the right to date other men and he could do what he likes as long as neither of us brings it home or are indiscreet. I think it's how rich Europeans handled these situations in the past especially in countries where there was no divorce, so they had to evolve a different way of dealing with it. I must say, it did keep the family intact, the children with both parents and I suppose the money stayed in the family.