An Open Letter to Frightened Married Heterosexuals

[babsbunny]

http://www.ostroyreport.com/2010/08/open-letter-to-frightened-married.html

Friday, August 06, 2010

In the wake of the overturning of California's Prop 8 ban on same sex marriage, you terrified straight folks are once again regurgitating the old homophobic propaganda that gay marriage threatens the great institution of "natural" heterosexual marriage. You know, the kind that Mel Gibson, O.J. Simpson, Robert Blake, Joey Buttafuoco, Klaus von Bulow, Newt Gingrich, Mark Sanford, John Edwards and countless others have been so respectful of.

[Warpy]

1. One thing the holy institution of heterosexual marriage taught me

is to avoid getting stuck in another one for the rest of my life. I have been happily divorced since 1985 and if Prince Charming is out there, languishing for my wifely expertise, he's just going to have to heave his bulk out of that recliner chair and take care of himself for a change.

I'm officially matrimoniophobic.

I'm always amused by the shrieks about the terrible threat to straight marriage, mostly from men. If ever there were an institution overdue for a major shakeup, it's straight marriage.

Unfortunately, gay marriage isn't going to do it. It will have absolutely no effect on it and the alarmism is just more wasted energy.

So congratulations, best wishes and Mazel Tov. I will dance at any wedding that isn't mine. I am delighted it will eventually be extended to any adult that consents to it. That's long overdue.

[Nightshade01]

4. Best Comment EVER!!!

My wife and I both read this and couldn't stop laughing!!!

[lunatica]

6. My happiest years have been since 1995 when I got divorced

I find life is much better when I'm alone than it is in bad company. Not interested in marriage at all thank you.

[cliffordu]

7. Best. Answer.Ever.

I'm getting divorced even as we speak, after 27 years. I'll dance at anyone else's wedding, too.

(FWIW, my bulk IS out of the recliner.....)

:rofl:

[Demeter]

8. I'm not happy as a Divorcee.

But I'm less unhappy. If I were to find a non-psychopath, I would seriously consider marrying again. My standards have risen, as have the risks facing women in wedlock.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

10. +1

[pnwmom]

2. You forgot Larry Craig and Ted Haggard.

If you really want to frighten married heterosexuals, ask them how they'd feel if their daughter married a gay man who was pretending to be straight -- because he wanted a family and that's the only way this society would let him have one. Gay people need and deserve to have families and people to love just as much as straight people do.

Realistically, this isn't about whether gay people can get married. It's whether they can only marry straight people, or whether they can also be allowed to marry each other.

[Curmudgeoness]

3. Good point. I still think that if they are so worried about the sanctity

of marriage, they should be thumping for abolishing divorce. I always wonder how many of them have been divorced themselves.

[Mnemosyne]

5. Apparently, hetero marriage is a very emotionally insecure state. I, as Warpy coined so eloquently,

am also "matrimoniophobic".:yourock:

:rofl: Great letter!

Anyone know how to get a copy of 'Catching On: The Day the World Turned Gay'? I have dial-up. :cry:

[Winterblues]

9. Well I may be in the minority but I have been married over thirty years

and would not trade what I have for anything I could think of.. I am not worried gays will in any way damage what I have and in fact it is my belief things can only get better if all get to enjoy even part of what I have. The more love in this world the better this world will be.

[tavalon]

11. That's because you enjoy your marriage not the marital privilege

One of my husbands was explaining to me the other day that the reason so many heterosexual couples are up in arms is the same reason many white males were up in arms during the civil rights era - their "God given" privilege was being threatened.

[Demeter]

12. If there were any privileges, I might agree.

But all I found were responsibilities--for a child-man who didn't care to be responsible himself.

[tavalon]

13. As one who has spent thousands on legal documents and lawyers

I can promise you that there is privilege but yeah, lots of responsibility too and lots of crappy partners of all genders, I'm afraid. I have two great husbands but it's a huge amount of work on all of our parts to keep it that way.

[Demeter]

14. The Whole Point of the Women's Movement Was Equality

and it removed all the privileges of the married state--for women. And still, equality before the law eludes us.