Women Escaping A Violent Environment

[asdjrocky]

Just in case...
http://www.weaveinc.org/

[derby378]

1. That link you click to escape the site quickly...

...doesn't let you escape the site quickly. It dragged when I tried it.

[asdjrocky]

2. It dragged a bit for me too.

But I posted it like I post all other links at DU. Can't imagine why.

[derby378]

3. A worthy cause, though

Maybe it'll help someone escape an abusive relationship and get the support and medical treatment they need.

[asdjrocky]

4. Thank you.

I've seen men go through the counseling program come out with a completely changed perspective as well.

[derby378]

5. As victims or as abusers?

I'm of the mindset that abusers are a danger to society if left free. They should receive counseling, true, but behind bars.

[asdjrocky]

7. In the county that I lived in at one time you could call WEAVE for counseling-

Male or female. They offered courses on conflict management and anger control. I never went through he program, but I helped with some fund raising. Also, if you were arrested on a domestic violence charge, the counseling was mandatory.

And yes, of course abusers should be in jail, but they also need to be taught another way of dealing with their anger.

Hitting, threats and abusive language is wrong, and many don't learn that without some help.

[derby378]

8. That's good to hear

I'll let you in on a little secret. Once when Ginny was in the hospital, I had to leave her side for a few moments and run downstairs. As I passed by a kiosk, I saw a domestic violence questionnaire for victims and decided to give it a peek, trying to imagine how Ginny would answer.

"Do you feel obligated or coerced into having sex with your partner?" He's a man, you know how they are, but that's a big no.

"Are you afraid of voicing a different opinion than your partner?" As if!

"Does your partner criticize you or embarrass you in front of others?" Criticize, no, but embarrass...

YES!! And it's not like I ever meant to embarrass Ginny in public; there was never any malice or intent to make her feel uncomfortable around family or friends. I felt like I was only six inches tall at that moment. I finally shared that realization with Ginny, and we had a giggle about it, but it still made me think about how to avoid putting Ginny in any sort of situation where she could lose face in public.

There are other questions that pop up such as "Does your partner's behavior make you feel as if you are wrong?" but I've come to realize that this criteria by itself sometimes pops up even in the best of relationships, and we've both done that to each other, but the important thing was that this was never a pattern in our marriage - it was just a matter of one of us being grumpy or feeling misunderstood, some of the normal pitfalls of any committed relationship. The important thing was to realize "I love you, and I know you love me, and we can get through any bump in the road together."

[bobbolink]

10. "Hitting, threats and abusive language is wrong, and many don't learn that without some help."

Is that timely to DU or what??!!!!

[laughingliberal]

11. +1000 nt

[bobbolink]

9. "Liberals" don't see that.

Right here at DU, it is excused.

[hfojvt]

12. especially by the people who engage in it

usually by blaming the victim

[Liberal_in_LA]

6. thanks.