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I read this story and tried to piece together what kind of mindset rewards itself by such blatant overindulgence. I'm not trying to criticize Dean, but he seems symbolic of all the greed I constantly sense oozing out of so many conservatives I know. The relentless drumbeat of "anyone can become rich in America if they work hard enough" translated to "anyone who is unemployed is lazy and stupid" and then I look at these pictures and wonder what kind of real happiness and security did that family get out of building such a monstrosity?
Now I vaguely remember my younger years, when I had a partner who became fairly successful (while I kept moving to accommodate his "dream" and often sacrificing my own) and how we bought into the "bigger is better" meme - but we never went beyond a large condo with multiple bathrooms (which made me resent spending all day Saturday cleaning rooms we weren't really using). And I remember all the furniture selection (the first time in my life we picked an entire room of furniture rather than buying one piece at a time). Heck, I can remember years before that, when wealthier friends would laugh and tell me that I decorated in "hodge-podge" because we could only afford to buy one thing at a time and chose things we liked though they usually complemented some sort of decorating scheme.
But my biggest memory was the time spent on maintenance, and no, it never made us happier. In fact, within a year, our long-term relationship ended and I moved away and back to school to pick up the pieces of my own lost life. Suddenly, I was living in a tiny, one-bedroom, unattractive apartment with ugly dark wood paneling (and later, a tiny apartment with concrete block walls!) and for six months I felt like I had lost everything. Except, in the end, I had actually gained. . .the downsizing, though painful, became much more enjoyable - less maintenance and cleaning time, a newfound avoidance of purchasing anything I had to dust (no stupid knick-knacks). And, I'm happier now.
There is just something wrong with the motivation that success is "having" more. I grew up poor, and remembering that my biggest ambition was to be "free from worry". . .so while there are certain things I'd love to indulge in, I was more concerned about being free of concern. Having a lot more only gives you more to be concerned about maintaining - and I don't see how that really enhances someone's life. And, in the Dean case here, it seems like having so much more only increased the worry and potential for even more debt. I'm not saying that being poor is great, but in some respects, it does remind us of what is really important.
I see this overindulgence as the real issue with our economic problems in this country. When people are only motivated by a desire to construct monstrosities to "show-off" to others, what kind of "morality" are we endorsing? The neverending quest for greed (something I see in many conservatives I've known) doesn't really accomplish anything. I still see it in the eyes of distant relatives who swoop down on the estates of their estranged gay cousins, suddenly rediscovering a "family right" when that cousin dies. There is something just so fu*ked up about valuing a person only on how much you can get from him/her, and yet that seems a hallmark of much of our culture.
You know, we can have a thread on here about people begging for food in this country - and how some people walk past the homeless and blame them for their condition or situation. And then we see stuff like this story, where the wealthy downsize and become (maybe upper middle-class)"failures" - in my mind, there is just something fundamentally wrong with a society that places so much emphasis on things for success.
Maybe I'm just glad that I'm getting older, or have grasped the idea that I'll not be wealthy and don't care, or maybe just that I finally understood that things don't make someone much of a success or provide happiness. Or maybe I've matured enough and experienced enough to know that, for many people, bad situations aren't always about bad choices, but circumstances they can do little about solving. But yet, when it is obvious that Dean's situation is partially based on his multiple marriages and divorces, rather than a homeless person whose only "choice" was involuntary unemployment, why is it that someone like Dean still has more than the homeless person? Where is the justice in that?
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