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Being atheist I doubt I would have found or read this one on my own but my mom hooked me up and it's a good one. (Mom is still my greatest teacher.)
I don't have a link so I've posted the article in full.
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"NEVER SAY "NEVER!"
I can still remember that evening a number of years ago, when myself and a woman who was a Christian Counselor were discussing abortion - she had just shared with me about the compassion, love and concern she felt for women who have had an abortion, and my reply to her was something along the lines of...... "I could never feel that way for them! Never!". Looking back now, I can almost picture God, with a twinkle in His eye, listening to me make that statement, with Him knowing all that was to follow, and me knowing nothing, absolutely nothing...............
You see, He knew the lessons that He wanted to teach me, He knew the path that I would take a few years later, that would see me in a place where there was plenty of room in my heart for those women who have had an abortion, but very little room in my heart for those who are Pro-Life, who supposedly care about these women only because they have been told to by leaders in the Pro- Life movement. They have been taught that if they truly want abortion to become illegal, then they must show compassion, mercy and love to those women. Huh?? Did I miss something? Whatever happened to caring for them just because you care? Not because they are a part of an Agenda, not because you've been told to, but because you just care? This is just one of the 'doesn't make sense' traits of the Pro-Life Movement that have led me to where I now state quite fervently and loudly "I am NOT Pro-Life!!!!".
The change in me began about 18 months ago, while I was participating in an Abortion Discussion Board on the Internet. During my early times there, I was a pretty typical Pro-Lifer - it was all about the baby, and to hell with the women. Then, one day I was sitting in the Chat Room attached to this Board, and a Christian women entered. She started sharing with me about the grief, pain, remorse and unforgiveness that she was feeling over an abortion she had years earlier, and as I listened to her, I felt something stirring in my heart. I felt the desire to reach out to her, to hold her, to love her, and I also did not want her to feel that way. I didn't want her to be hurting, I didn't want her to be hating herself the way she was...........I did not want her to feel condemned anymore. These feelings surprised me, and for a while I kept them hidden from the other people who participated at the Debate Board.
Then, a woman posted at the Debate Board who was considering having an abortion, and naturally she received a number of posts from Pro-Lifers attempting to dissuade her. I honestly do not remember if I was one of those Pro-Lifers, but what I do remember is that she continued to post there, even after she had gone through with the abortion. Yet again, I felt concern for a woman who had an abortion, and I emailed her and let her know that if she needed someone to talk to, I was there. She replied, albeit somewhat wearily - after all, all she really knew of me was what she had witnessed on the Debate Board! And so began my relationship with a person whom I now consider a dear Friend, and so also began my "path of learning".
Since that time and the present, there have been a number of things that I have learned, and to learn these things, I first had to un-learn all that the Pro-Life movement had taught me. I became a person who actively reached out to Post-Abortive women through pages on my website, as well as a Yahoo Club that I founded. I became a person who no longer spoke out as vehemently against abortion, because I was no longer certain that the Pro-Life movement was 'right'. Things just weren't sitting right in my spirit, things just weren't adding up anymore, so I allowed myself to really think about things. To not just accept things that I was being told, but to actually THINK about them. Those changes were gradual - they didn't happen overnight, but they DID happen. I cannot remember the time frame for them, or each precise change, but the following are probably the main 'bits':
1. The Pro-Life movement did not support the use of either the Morning After Pills or the IUD, yet I saw them as the ONLY post-intercourse option to prevent pregnancy, and if we can prevent pregnancy, then we can decrease the need for abortion. Nope! Their stance on the use contraception didn't make sense to me......
2. The Pro-Life movement believed that making abortion illegal would solve the problem. But would making abortion illegal solve the problem of unplanned/unwanted pregnancies? Ummmm, no. They spend their time, money and efforts in fighting to make abortion illegal, not realising that what one government may make illegal, another can just make legal again. I saw that it would become like a game of ping-pong, and whilst I don't mind ping-pong, I object strongly when the ping-pong balls being used are women!
3. After reading a book called Making Abortion Rare, by David Reardon, I saw something that I really did not like, at all. That book was kind of an eye- opener into the Pro-Life movement for me, as it showed me the real reason a number of Pro-Lifers expressed 'compassion and concern' for women who have had an abortion. It was solely to further their agenda, nothing more, nothing less. The Pro-Life voice had thus far fallen on deaf ears where the public at large was concerned, so a new tactic was needed. That new tactic was to reach out to post abortive women, in the hopes that they would one day be the voices speaking out against abortion, that their voices would bring about the illegalising of abortion. This just seemed so very wrong to me. Whilst it is a good thing to care about the women, that caring should be genuine, brought forth from the heart, not brought forth from an agenda.
4. I had been taught that Pro-Choicers were the enemy, but as I dialogued with them, and even became friends with some of them, I could see that they were not my enemies! They were women like me, women with their own thoughts, beliefs and ideas, and some of them just happened to differ from mine. That didn't make them evil, or hard-hearted, or any of the other labels that the Pro-Life movement likes to throw at them. Now, I am proud to call a number of Pro-Choicers my close Friends!
The 'straw that broke the camels back' for me was when I saw a disturbing picture - a photo of a woman, lying dead on a motel room floor, after having an illegal abortion. It wasn't just the photo itself that disturbed me, it was the desperation and utter aloneness of Gerri Santoro that disturbed me, and stuck at the core of my being. I don't even think the person who posted the link to that photo at the Abortion Debate Board knows the affect that it had on me, so thanks, "V", you know who you are.
I was now no longer Pro-Life, and had no desire to even be called Pro-Life, or associated with "Pro-Life"............
I am just me, a woman with her own thoughts and ideas that she has actually thought through, a women who really does care about other women, and who desires to reach out to those who are hurting.
I me, and I am free to be me!
'Martha2Mary'
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