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qanda
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Thu May-12-11 09:44 AM Original message |
Should a Mother Lose Custody of Her Kids Because She Has Cancer? |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 09:46 AM Response to Original message |
1. Sounds pretty darned sick to me (pun intended.) |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 10:02 AM Response to Reply #1 |
7. It is not uncommon for claims of abuse to be leveled in a nasty divorce. |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 10:17 AM Response to Reply #7 |
14. Right, let him sue for libel, that would be fine, |
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GodlessBiker
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Thu May-12-11 09:48 AM Response to Original message |
2. That's fucked up. The only time illness should be used to take the kids away from a sick parent ... |
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Bladian
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Thu May-12-11 02:43 PM Response to Reply #2 |
84. That's just what I was thinking |
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Deep13
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Thu May-12-11 09:52 AM Response to Original message |
3. What is in the best interest of the children? |
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lumberjack_jeff
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Thu May-12-11 09:56 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. Yes. n/t |
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RC
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Thu May-12-11 09:59 AM Response to Reply #3 |
5. Transferring the children to the abusive parent is OK with you then? |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 10:03 AM Response to Reply #5 |
9. Allegations of abuse are obviously unproven at this point. |
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Angry Dragon
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Thu May-12-11 01:47 PM Response to Reply #9 |
70. OOOOOOOOkay!! |
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kelly1mm
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Thu May-12-11 11:00 PM Response to Reply #70 |
105. Do you have any evidence of abuse other than the one parent's allegation? nt |
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Deep13
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Thu May-12-11 10:04 AM Response to Reply #5 |
10. Usually, neither parent is abusive. nt |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 10:18 AM Response to Reply #10 |
15. Right, usually most people are not abusive. |
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jberryhill
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Thu May-12-11 10:45 AM Response to Reply #5 |
20. Where, in the story or the statement above, was either parent deemed abusive? |
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FLAprogressive
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Thu May-12-11 11:46 PM Response to Reply #20 |
109. I see that the crickets are still chirping.....looks like that strawman fell. |
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qanda
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Thu May-12-11 10:02 AM Response to Reply #3 |
8. While I understand your point |
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Deep13
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Thu May-12-11 10:05 AM Response to Reply #8 |
11. I'll refer you back to my post. |
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Demeter
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Thu May-12-11 10:19 AM Response to Reply #11 |
16. I can see the benefits now |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 10:26 AM Response to Reply #16 |
17. You buy the story hook, line and sinker from ONE side |
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Demeter
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Thu May-12-11 10:46 AM Response to Reply #17 |
21. All he cares about is the child support |
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Thu May-12-11 10:53 AM Response to Reply #21 |
23. Deleted message |
musette_sf
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Thu May-12-11 01:58 PM Response to Reply #21 |
72. + 1 |
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kelly1mm
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Thu May-12-11 10:44 PM Response to Reply #21 |
103. And you know all he cares about is child support how? Is a woman who |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 11:55 AM Response to Reply #16 |
35. You are so right, but the awareness of this issue lags waaay behind. |
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Demeter
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Thu May-12-11 01:27 PM Response to Reply #35 |
62. It Helps That I Won |
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kelly1mm
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Thu May-12-11 10:40 PM Response to Reply #16 |
102. Could a father die of grief as well? nt |
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etherealtruth
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Thu May-12-11 08:29 PM Original message |
I agree fully, the best interest of the children should be the primary concern |
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jberryhill
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Thu May-12-11 10:46 AM Response to Reply #8 |
22. It's not about the parents, or either parent |
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SoCalDem
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Thu May-12-11 11:34 AM Response to Reply #3 |
30. The dad who instigated this will suffer in the end |
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kick-ass-bob
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Thu May-12-11 12:53 PM Response to Reply #3 |
42. The mother is not bed-ridden and states that she is able to effectively parent. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:10 PM Response to Reply #42 |
51. Exactly. And that is the reason the judge gave for her ruling. It is horrible. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:03 PM Response to Reply #3 |
47. The mother is perfectly able. The judge stated her reason as the children should be in a "non cancer |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
6. What is the current custody arrangement? The article does not say. |
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Grey
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Thu May-12-11 10:10 AM Response to Original message |
12. I think the judge should ask the kids what they want. |
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KamaAina
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Thu May-12-11 10:12 AM Response to Original message |
13. Who's the judge? Newt Gingrich? |
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struggle4progress
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Thu May-12-11 10:35 AM Response to Reply #13 |
18. Here's the judge's resume: |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 10:38 AM Response to Reply #18 |
19. Decent resume. Decision surprises. |
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struggle4progress
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Thu May-12-11 12:37 PM Response to Reply #19 |
39. ... A North Carolina judge denied Giordano primary custody of her two children in part because |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 12:48 PM Response to Reply #39 |
41. Good of you to be so thoughtful, I'm not so, |
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struggle4progress
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Thu May-12-11 12:57 PM Response to Reply #41 |
43. I don't actually know enough facts to be "thoughtful" about this case. Nor, I suspect, |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:15 PM Response to Reply #43 |
55. I don't expect to do research on the story. I read the reason the judge gave for her decision and |
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kick-ass-bob
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Thu May-12-11 01:17 PM Response to Reply #43 |
57. But the fact that the ruling even included |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 01:28 PM Response to Reply #57 |
63. Why? |
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kick-ass-bob
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Thu May-12-11 01:54 PM Response to Reply #63 |
71. Because it does not mention the severity of illness or the quality of life. |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 02:11 PM Response to Reply #71 |
76. We only have a snippet of the judge's ruling - there may be much more detail |
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kick-ass-bob
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Thu May-12-11 02:30 PM Response to Reply #76 |
77. But the rest of the ruling is irrelevant to my point, which is why I said what I said. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:13 PM Response to Reply #39 |
54. Her unemployment? Just wow. The judge is a moron. |
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struggle4progress
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Thu May-12-11 10:14 PM Response to Reply #54 |
101. It's one of several standard considerations, in determining parental ability to provide care |
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LisaL
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Thu May-12-11 11:41 PM Response to Reply #54 |
108. The judge has to consider if she can support the kids. |
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ProfessionalLeftist
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Thu May-12-11 11:01 AM Response to Original message |
24. Shared with friends + signed petitions |
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jwirr
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Thu May-12-11 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
25. It would seem that shared custody with the kids spending time in |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 11:27 AM Response to Original message |
26. Her ruling is "children who have a parent with cancer need more contact with the non-ill parent." |
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Thu May-12-11 11:31 AM Response to Reply #26 |
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jberryhill
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Thu May-12-11 11:34 AM Response to Reply #27 |
29. The judge likely heard from more than both sides |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 12:45 PM Response to Reply #27 |
40. Yes, thank you. I am entitled to my opinion. Obviously you think you have the right to one. |
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ProgressiveProfessor
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Thu May-12-11 11:33 AM Response to Original message |
28. Typical assumptions in this thread are disappointing |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 11:45 AM Response to Reply #28 |
33. outstanding |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 12:25 PM Response to Reply #28 |
38. Agreed |
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Demeter
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Thu May-12-11 01:31 PM Response to Reply #38 |
65. Because every dying woman needs a job. |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 01:42 PM Response to Reply #65 |
69. I would wonder how any parent would be able to adequately provide for their children when |
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WolverineDG
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Thu May-12-11 02:04 PM Response to Reply #38 |
74. you'd think DU would learn to not jump to conclusions so quickly |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 11:36 AM Response to Original message |
31. A damned good thing a judge didn't pull this shit on Elizabeth Edwards!! |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:00 PM Response to Reply #31 |
46. Yep. Let her try that on someone with some cash. |
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msanthrope
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Thu May-12-11 11:43 AM Response to Original message |
32. After reading the mother's blog, I think the kids are best off with the Dad, |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 11:47 AM Response to Reply #32 |
34. That blog and her penchant for publicity-seeking when she doesn't get her way |
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jtuck004
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Thu May-12-11 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
36. What utter bullshit |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 12:11 PM Response to Reply #36 |
37. and I think moving the kids, at end of school year, |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 12:58 PM Response to Reply #37 |
45. They're not moving until June |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 01:04 PM Response to Reply #45 |
48. Right, my point, to a city away from their friends +, for the summer. |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 01:08 PM Response to Reply #48 |
50. Don't the majority of parents move children during the summer as to not disrupt school? |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 01:12 PM Response to Reply #50 |
53. Sure, most parents move the whole family, together, + the unit finds friends. |
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WolverineDG
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Thu May-12-11 02:08 PM Response to Reply #48 |
75. they'd be going to visit him in the summer anyway if custody had stayed the same |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 06:48 PM Response to Reply #75 |
93. Don't be ridiculous. I HOPE they'd have a continuing relationship with their father. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 12:58 PM Response to Reply #36 |
44. Well said. Her statement is the real "sick" thing. |
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jtuck004
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Fri May-13-11 11:09 AM Response to Reply #44 |
111. I do hope a well-heeled and politically savvy women's org takes up |
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Zoeisright
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Thu May-12-11 01:05 PM Response to Original message |
49. Judge Nancy Gordon should be ASHAMED of herself. |
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mntleo2
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Thu May-12-11 01:12 PM Response to Original message |
52. As a Family Preservation Advocate ... |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 01:17 PM Response to Reply #52 |
56. In another article I read |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:25 PM Response to Reply #56 |
61. He could use the family leave act if the mother becomes to ill to care for the children. |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 01:29 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. Custody hearings are not about punishing either parent. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 02:45 PM Response to Reply #64 |
85. Interesting that you see it as punishing the dad, when I post that this would be best for the |
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Lance_Boyle
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Thu May-12-11 02:50 PM Response to Reply #85 |
89. Who brought up anything about punishing anyone, again? |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 03:02 PM Response to Reply #89 |
91. Punishment: a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure |
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tammywammy
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Thu May-12-11 01:37 PM Response to Reply #61 |
67. He doesn't qualify for FMLA leave |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 02:42 PM Response to Reply #67 |
81. Wait, you're not going to jump to conclusions on the judge, but you're SURE the mom would have |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 01:18 PM Response to Reply #52 |
59. This "judge" (and I use the term lightly) has certainly proven your point about the |
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LisaL
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Thu May-12-11 11:39 PM Response to Reply #52 |
107. Because the father has a job in Chicago. |
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Thu May-12-11 01:17 PM Response to Original message |
58. If this becomes common, women will avoid getting tested for cancer. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 01:20 PM Response to Reply #58 |
60. "The more contact have with the non-ill parent, the better they do." That's this judge's belief. |
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Thu May-12-11 01:37 PM Response to Reply #60 |
68. Sad that such views come from someone of that standing. |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 02:46 PM Response to Reply #68 |
86. Not surprising. Its all too common. |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 02:50 PM Response to Reply #86 |
90. Children want a normal childhood, and it is not normal with an ill parent." |
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Pithlet
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Thu May-12-11 03:52 PM Response to Reply #90 |
92. The judge spells it out pretty clearly. |
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Demeter
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Thu May-12-11 01:34 PM Response to Reply #58 |
66. I have advised my daughter to have all the children she wants, just never marry |
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kelly1mm
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Thu May-12-11 10:58 PM Response to Reply #66 |
104. Fathers that are not married to the mother of their child can, and often |
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Cerridwen
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Thu May-12-11 02:02 PM Response to Original message |
73. Awwww, the father loves his children so much he |
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qanda
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Thu May-12-11 02:32 PM Response to Reply #73 |
78. You are my hero! |
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Cerridwen
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Thu May-12-11 02:35 PM Response to Reply #78 |
79. You're welcome and sorry it took so long. |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 02:36 PM Response to Reply #73 |
80. Another uppity woman. |
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Cerridwen
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Thu May-12-11 02:42 PM Response to Reply #80 |
82. LOL |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 02:48 PM Response to Reply #82 |
88. You've come a long way, baby! |
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Raschel
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Thu May-12-11 02:48 PM Response to Reply #73 |
87. Thank you for the post! |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 07:49 PM Response to Reply #73 |
95. Some facts here. |
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Thu May-12-11 02:43 PM Response to Original message |
83. In general doctors don't like kids to be with their sick parents, this doesn't surprise me. |
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elleng
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Thu May-12-11 07:25 PM Response to Original message |
94. Judge's decision not here, but more facts: |
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aaaaaa5a
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Thu May-12-11 08:29 PM Response to Original message |
96. It's really sad to see so many posters here who foster heavily prejudicial and discriminatory |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 09:19 PM Response to Reply #96 |
99. .. |
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w8liftinglady
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Thu May-12-11 08:50 PM Response to Original message |
97. Using this mentality,my kids would have been taken from me when I got sick. |
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bobbolink
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Thu May-12-11 09:20 PM Response to Reply #97 |
100. Also, Elizabeth Edwards. I'm glad you weren't subjected to this! |
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blueamy66
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Thu May-12-11 08:52 PM Response to Original message |
98. Excuse my language....but |
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Warren DeMontague
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Thu May-12-11 11:18 PM Response to Original message |
106. What, another Newt Gingrich story? |
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guruoo
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Thu May-12-11 11:50 PM Response to Original message |
110. One wonders how the kids will feel years from now knowing they were taken away |
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Fri May-13-11 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
112. There was a post last night from someone who was upset his 14 year old didn't want to take care |
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