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He grew from teen to man as an awkward, socially inept guy.. How many families have one of these..maybe more.
Failure affects people differently.
He failed at high school He failed at community college He apparently failed at personal friendships/dating He failed at entering the military
He was 22, no job, living as a child in Mom & Dad's home.
Angry, depressed, delusional, paranoid
I'd bet that most DUers know someone right now, who would fit this basic profile.
His parents, probably in their 40's 50's apparently are of modest means.
So they have this "weird kid", who really isn't a "kid".
They are probably away from the home most of the time, working, and may only have small interactions with him. He will not be telling them of his deep-seated psychic problems.
They probably kept telling themselves that he would "grow out of it"... that someday, he would meet someone or find that perfect job & would turn his life around.
If they did suspect that he needed mental health care, could they afford the $150+ an hour for him to go? Would he even go? Would he take the meds?
As an adult, they could not commit him long-term.
People who do check themselves in, often feel "better" once the meds kick in, pronounce themselves cured, and check out...and then stop the meds.
Police don't arrest people before they commit a crime. Psychiatric hospitals do not accept patients without someone paying the bills.
There are people like Jared all over, in every town..ticking time bombs just waiting for something to set them off, and realistically, there is little we can do.
Imagine the uproar if the school system started requiring a psychological exam before a kid left school, or a college requiring one before a kid entered.
And what if an exam shows that care is needed? Who pays? How many families have an extra $1k a month for office visits and then even more once the maximum (10-30 visits usually, if on an insurance plan)
Pre-Reagan, (in CA) "odd people" were routinely put into institutions, and once he closed all the facilities, these people were all just pushed out onto the streets. They became the "odd" homeless people.
The school shooters/office shooters/ and now this one are not of that ilk, but their mental issues are the same.. untreated mental health problems...couple that with easy access to weapons & we are where we are.
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