""But the gay man," she went on, "they whip it out at eye lock!"

[Ohio Joe]

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/live-feed/patti-stanger-gay-comments-joy-behar-240697

WTF? Not one of you gay guys has ever whipped it out upon meeting me... I've never even see one of you start to unzip a little like you were thinking about it... I'm not that fucking ugly so WTF?

:rofl:

[Gold Metal Flake]

1. "I have more gay friends than Carter has pills."

Visual proof she is lying...

[Evasporque]

3. shocking...floral and animal print....(I'm going to be sick....)...

:puke: BLAAACRRGH!

[mitchtv]

6. what is that abomination?

call the fashion police!

[Behind the Aegis]

25. She has plentty of gay friends....

,,,they are all just laughing at her behind her back!

[closeupready]

2. Actually, many a truth is said in jest.

>>"But the gay man," she went on, "they whip it out at eye lock! They get involved, and then find out later whether or not they want a serious relationship."<<

:rofl: Funny, but I do also find that to be true - just my personal experience.

[Prism]

14. My experience, too

It's sort of hilarious. I've had so many friends who meet a cute guy, go on like one and a half dates, and are suddenly "Zomg, it's love! Let's be boyfriends!" Shockingly, it rarely lasts.

In one case, I had a friend sign a lease with a guy he'd been dating for only one month. I just stared.

Gay men are funny little creatures, but I don't think there's any kind of strangeness to the dynamic. It's a simple need for affection, to feel loved, to feel not alone that seems to drive many of them into quickie relationships. And I say that with a few quickly entered relationships under my own belt.

(And you gotta be careful about those eye-locks, man. Three weeks ago, mere eye contact got my junk grabbed by a near stranger. But then, this is San Francisco . . .)

[msongs]

18. "relationships" based on sex end when sex loses allure. hookups do not = love nt

[closeupready]

19. On a side note, and to be fair, not really topical,

I wasn't aware you were in San Francisco; I had a conversation with an older gay man recently who told me that he disliked San Francisco because it's "too gay"; I responded that this was not possible, that nothing can be too gay, the gayer, the better. :D

Do you have any notion as to what he may have been referring to?? (Maybe I should open a thread in GLBT, instead.)

[Prism]

20. Ooh, I'll tread delicately here

I'm a born and raised Midwestern type (Chicago), and I've only lived in the Bay Area for two years now. With that in mind, and keeping front and center that I can only speak to my own experiences . . .

The relationship dynamics among gay men here are not what I am used to. There seems to be a resting assumption that a relationship is open unless otherwise stated. It's really strange for me. I'm in a monogamous, long-term relationship, and making friends here on account of it has been rough. Perhaps I'm meeting the wrong kind of people (over and over again), but I still get a little culture shocked when that phrase "I have a boyfriend" does nothing to impede pursuit. I don't know very many gay men here in monogamous relationships, but I know tons in open ones, and it's a little uncomfortable for me to suddenly feel like my relationship isn't a shield against unwanted attention in this way.

Maybe I'm conservative, maybe I'm *gulp* getting older, but there's definitely this strange vibe here I'm not used to. Too gay. Hrm. Yeah, kind of.

Here's a perfect example that is strangely emblematic of my interactions here. I met a stranger for coffee. We met on a website and exchanged messages in which I was very upfront about the monogamous boyfriend thing. We met, chatted, had lunch, etc. It was a nice afternoon. But throughout, he kept touching me. Light touches on my neck, shoulders, ears, thigh. I never reciprocated, never in any way signaled any kind of interest, always put distance between us when he'd touch. When we finally parted ways, I returned his offered hug and was met with "Oh, look what you did. You made me hard!" He directed my attention downward, and sure enough, I apparently did exactly that.

This is weird to me. But it's an experience I have very often here that I haven't anywhere else. I'm not sure of it's me, if there's some cultural mistranslation happening or what. The boundaries between friends and potential sexual partners seem paper thin.

So yeah, it's a little gay male here =)

(Again, these are only my experiences and may not be representative!)

[closeupready]

21. LOL, that sounds heavenly to me.

:D :hi:

[Prism]

22. If I were single . . .

. . . I think I would have had a lot of fun here. I have a friend who has six current sexual partners (he apparently rests on Sundays).

I'm always a monogamous sort, but at least the attention would be fun instead of vaguely uncomfortable.

By all means, come visit!

[Voice for Peace]

33. I think it's a little like the sexual revolution in the 60's-70's

When sex has been hidden and repressed, and suddenly you can come out publicly as sexual creatures, it's like taking the top off of a pressure cooker. I don't think it's a particularly gay or straight phenomenon.

[Behind the Aegis]

26. and the old joke has fallen out of favor...

What does a gay man bring to a second date? What's a second date?!

What does a lesbian bring to a second date? A U-Haul.

The reality is many, gay and straight, are in the same boat. I have str8 friends who would do the same thing. When gay friends would date someone, then the next time I saw them and they said "oh, my "husband" and me....." I always said, "I will buy you a drink if you can tell me your "husband's" last name!" Never bought drink one!

[LuvNewcastle]

4. The only thing I can figure is,

she must watch a lot of porn.

[LynneSin]

5. Um, who is this person

:shrug:

[mitchtv]

7. someone whose mother never taught her how to dress

[Raine]

16. "The Millionaire Matchmaker" she has a show on Bravo

she's very brash, she's an equal opportunity insulter. In a way she's like Kathy Griffin, says outrageous often crude stuff :wow: one of those people you either love or hate. I can take her in small doses just the way I can take Kathy Griffin.

[LynneSin]

23. But Kathy Griffen insults the individual not entire blocks of people

It's one thing to call someone a dumbass but another to call an entire group of people based on skin color or orientation or nationality or whatever an insultive term. That's just hate.

[Raine]

24. That's true. I don't like people who

use their mouth as a weapon, I find people like that kind of scary, basically they're bullies :scared: I know I don't want to be on the receiving end. :-(

[emulatorloo]

28. She's a matchmaker. She is big on relationships before sex. Not as bad as the excerpt makes her

Sound. Very brash, outspoken, given to hyperbole and exaggeration for humor. Does matchmaking for gays as well as straights.

[Warren DeMontague]

8. Whip what out?

Their Discover card?

[KansDem]

9. And what the hell does "eye lock" mean?

:shrug:

[steve2470]

10. to lock eyes in a gaze, I guess nt

[Warren DeMontague]

11. It's kind of like vapor lock?

Near as I can guess.

[FreeState]

32. It's how gay men cruise or hit on other men

They lock eyes - this is a generalization but I have experienced it (too many times to count).

[QC]

12. If only it were true....

[DesertFlower]

13. none of my gay friends ever "whipped it out".

however, a straight co-worker did.

[snooper2]

15. who is she, why is her neck so fucking big, and why does anybody care what she says?

[geardaddy]

27. You need a lot of neck bandwidth to insult entire groups of people.

[steve2470]

17. her website:

http://pattistanger.net/

[Bucky]

29. I wonder how she would know that. But I'll spare my scorn. She's pro marriage equality.

She's being crass, not mean. I can forgive crass.

[devilgrrl]

30. I live in West Hollywood and I've never seen a gay man whip it out to anyone

:crazy:

[steve2470]

31. lol ! nt