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Raven
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:00 PM Original message |
My sexual harrassment story and what I did with it. |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:04 PM Response to Original message |
1. some on du seem to be saying that since you did not prosecute, it did not |
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Raven
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:09 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. I still wonder what would have happened if I had been the first |
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notadmblnd
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:17 PM Response to Reply #1 |
7. I've never considered it harassment if a guy made an comment to me in regards to sex. |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:35 PM Response to Reply #7 |
15. he was whorin her. not with money, but with grades. fuck me and you get a pay back |
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redqueen
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:39 PM Response to Reply #15 |
17. I have to wonder how many people would agree... |
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WingDinger
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:08 PM Response to Reply #17 |
26. When a guy murders you after spitting on you, he is not a spitter, he is a murderer. |
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notadmblnd
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:01 PM Response to Reply #15 |
24. Did I say that? |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:04 PM Response to Reply #24 |
25. some young 20 yr old sittin at phones at reception desk and a man says, give me a blow job? |
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notadmblnd
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:11 PM Response to Reply #25 |
27. he say's that over the phone? I hang up. If he calls back, it's harassment. |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:14 PM Response to Reply #27 |
29. you dont get to smack him, that is battery on your part. not all women and young girls are you |
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notadmblnd
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:40 PM Response to Reply #29 |
31. I posted how I felt about sexual harassment. I didn't say everyone had to feel the same way |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:53 PM Response to Reply #31 |
33. thank you. i know i probably went much further than you wanted to. |
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notadmblnd
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:59 PM Response to Reply #33 |
34. It wasn't too painful |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 08:03 PM Response to Reply #34 |
35. that is always my goal. i tell you, after listening to this from those that shrug it off |
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elehhhhna
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:17 AM Response to Reply #31 |
45. if a male authority suggested your son (let's say the kid's' 18) suck hm off |
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Remember Me
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Mon Nov-07-11 11:03 PM Response to Reply #27 |
43. No, it's harassment from the get-go |
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raccoon
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:45 AM Response to Reply #27 |
47. He might smack you back. nt |
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treestar
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:33 PM Response to Reply #27 |
77. He could have you charged with assault |
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Honeycombe8
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Tue Nov-08-11 01:11 PM Response to Reply #7 |
62. The story didn't involve "a guy." It was her professor....teachers & students |
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WingDinger
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:17 PM Response to Reply #1 |
9. I hope that strawman is not meant for me. |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:37 PM Response to Reply #9 |
16. i am glad you clarified that. but i dont know that it had anything to do with you. just what i |
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RedCloud
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:10 PM Response to Reply #9 |
85. But it is more assault in that case. |
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Warpy
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:23 PM Response to Reply #1 |
11. Addressing it to higher ups is sufficient if they do something to remedy the problem |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:40 PM Original message |
so, in your book a woman/girl does not get any pass if nothing is done and she chooses |
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WingDinger
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:13 PM Response to Original message |
28. I believe there is a horrible statistic that says half of all rapes, and I assume that includes |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:25 PM Response to Reply #28 |
30. fbi reports anywhere from 30%-70%. for that statistic to be so far out on what is NOT |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 02:14 PM Response to Original message |
65. I think there is a fine line here. |
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seabeyond
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:28 PM Response to Reply #65 |
74. i ahve always worked in male dominant jobs with male bosses. fortunately, i also have always had |
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LiberalEsto
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Mon Nov-07-11 08:23 PM Response to Reply #1 |
37. Things were very different in the 1960s |
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seabeyond
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Mon Nov-07-11 08:48 PM Response to Reply #37 |
39. yes. and in the last decade, we are going backward. that is what is scary. nt |
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Alameda
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:58 AM Response to Reply #37 |
50. Exactly!!! Been there had that happen. |
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alp227
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:03 PM Response to Reply #1 |
73. sexual harassment is a crime? |
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trueblue2007
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:30 PM Response to Reply #1 |
76. if it happened.... IT HAPPENS!!! |
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Nye Bevan
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:04 PM Response to Original message |
2. What a disgusting creep (nt) |
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spanone
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
4. k&r.. |
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mike_c
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
5. I was once a teaching assistant for that guy.... |
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Raven
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:17 PM Response to Reply #5 |
8. I think it's all about power. Look at Cain's response to that woman's |
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coalition_unwilling
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:59 AM Response to Reply #8 |
51. When she said that line, I knew right away she was telling the |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:31 PM Response to Reply #51 |
81. Anita Hill was/is a hero. |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:20 PM Response to Reply #5 |
80. I wish I could rec your reply. |
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mike_c
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:34 PM Response to Reply #80 |
82. or at least a lot less trouble.... |
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frazzled
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:14 PM Response to Original message |
6. When I was in graduate school ... |
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Raven
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:21 PM Response to Reply #6 |
10. Interesting point. Women can be predators too. My first advice to |
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noiretextatique
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Tue Nov-08-11 01:52 PM Response to Reply #10 |
64. i was harassed by a female professor in grad school |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:44 PM Response to Reply #10 |
83. DUPPETY DUP. SORRY! N/T |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:48 PM Response to Reply #10 |
84. When my brother was a principal at a middle school... |
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Siwsan
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
12. I was in the Navy |
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Gregorian
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:31 PM Response to Original message |
13. As a male I had something similar happen |
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Texasgal
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:35 PM Response to Original message |
14. The summer before college |
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Raven
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:40 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. Wow. At least I got some satisfaction. Interesting, isn't it , how these |
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Texasgal
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:48 PM Response to Reply #18 |
20. Just typing that post |
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kag
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:11 PM Response to Reply #20 |
86. Me, too, Texasgal. |
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Ship of Fools
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:01 PM Response to Reply #18 |
23. Yep. It was nearly 7 years before I remembered my ordeal, |
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catrose
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Tue Nov-08-11 08:45 PM Response to Reply #23 |
79. For everyone still feeling it... |
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redqueen
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:41 PM Response to Original message |
19. It's good that you had the strength to do something about it. |
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Texasgal
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:52 PM Response to Reply #19 |
21. I agree. I wish that I had had |
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redqueen
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Mon Nov-07-11 06:57 PM Response to Reply #21 |
22. You had the gumption to say something to the Dean, though. |
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femrap
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Mon Nov-07-11 07:40 PM Response to Original message |
32. Glad she had Gloria |
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knitter4democracy
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Mon Nov-07-11 08:10 PM Response to Original message |
36. I had a college prof threaten to paddle me and two other female students. |
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NNN0LHI
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Mon Nov-07-11 08:33 PM Response to Original message |
38. I admire your bravery for turning this thug in to your Dean |
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Cerridwen
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Mon Nov-07-11 09:02 PM Response to Original message |
40. Kick. |
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Cerridwen
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Mon Nov-07-11 09:19 PM Response to Original message |
41. Kick. |
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Odin2005
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Mon Nov-07-11 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
42. K&R |
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snot
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Tue Nov-08-11 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
44. It's crucial to distinguish betw. situations where there IS or is NOT equal power. |
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raccoon
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:44 AM Response to Original message |
46. Thanks for sharing that. I'm so glad you reported the creep. nt |
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coalition_unwilling
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:51 AM Response to Original message |
48. +1,000,000,000 x 1,000,000,000 - Anita Hill revolutionized my |
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seabeyond
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Tue Nov-08-11 11:01 AM Response to Reply #48 |
52. . she did the same for me as a female. i was young. i learned a lot during that trial. nt |
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Alameda
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Tue Nov-08-11 10:54 AM Response to Original message |
49. I had a similar thing in high school....at that time I was so naive |
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pasto76
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Tue Nov-08-11 11:56 AM Response to Original message |
53. I'm a father of two daughters, and a husband and a war veteran |
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seabeyond
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:05 PM Response to Reply #53 |
55. my daddy took care of me, too. lol. he taught me a lot |
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tavalon
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
54. I have tremendous respect for you |
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JDPriestly
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:12 PM Response to Original message |
56. Something very similar happened to me with a professor who had |
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madmom
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:19 PM Response to Original message |
57. I had a situation in high school also.. one of my classes required a part time job, the |
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Raven
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:35 PM Response to Original message |
58. Another memory... |
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RaleighNCDUer
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:48 PM Response to Original message |
59. A guy hitting on a woman once is not harrassment. |
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seabeyond
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:58 PM Response to Reply #59 |
61. how about taking out "hitting on her" and merely say, ask her out? nt |
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RaleighNCDUer
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Tue Nov-08-11 01:21 PM Response to Reply #61 |
63. I'm good with that. |
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valerief
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:53 PM Response to Reply #61 |
72. How about promising a good grade if she put out? That's what happened. nt |
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seabeyond
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:30 PM Response to Reply #72 |
75. i wasnt addressing the op. |
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Tue Nov-08-11 12:52 PM Response to Original message |
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Tue Nov-08-11 03:07 PM Response to Original message |
66. You are to be commended. |
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
67. You're a hero--takes guts to report a professor-you saved others |
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:23 PM Response to Original message |
68. Anita Hill did that for me too. n/t |
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The Traveler
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:34 PM Response to Original message |
69. Thank you for sharing that with us |
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RainDog
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:37 PM Response to Original message |
70. k&r n/t |
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valerief
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Tue Nov-08-11 04:53 PM Response to Original message |
71. Get a good grade for putting out. If that isn't harrassment, I don't know what is. nt |
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Tue Nov-08-11 05:39 PM Response to Original message |
78. 40 years ago, 19 years old, my first orchestra job |
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