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My Irish and Welsh ancestors came to this country around the same time as yours. But there is one huge difference, compared to what you describe.
Never, under any circumstances, would any of my relatives use any racial/ethnic slurs against their own people. Ever. That just wasn't done. Our people took enough of that BS from the British, and it certainly wasn't acceptable to use that sort of language here.
Maybe it has to do with where in Ireland the immigrants were from--mine were from County Wexford, and lived in an Irish colony in Nebraska. But being Irish was a source of great pride, never anything to be ridiculed under any circumstances. Even the Irish people who hated each other like poison would call their enemies SOB's, generalized curse words like that, but never anything like mick, paddy, or (the worst slur IMHO) n***er turned inside-out. I'm not saying my Irish ancestors were better or anything like that, just that it was incomprehensible to even consider saying such things. You were proud to be Irish--period.
As for my Welsh ancestors...well, I can't comment on them, because my mother (the only one alive who remembers them) couldn't understand their accents at all, LOL.
Regarding your wife, being half Korean and half Japanese must be the ultimate in inner conflict. :)
On a more serious note, when people make racist comments about their own race, it's just as bad as an "outsider" using those terms. Why? Because tearing apart your community from within is as harmful as being oppressed from the outside. Especially with people who have been oppressed as much as the black community, it infuriates me when they refer to each other as n***er. It's absolutely wrong. When you use it among yourselves, it gives justification to others who would use it. I mean, I don't want to be called a c***, so I'm not going to use that word when talking to other women, either. To do so would be hypocritical, as well as stupid; if you find a word offensive, you should never use it.
Does this make Paula Deen right? Hell, no! I'm glad to see her career in a tailspin. Every time she makes a video or goes on TV, she makes it worse for herself by revealing how much she just doesn't get it.
But here's who needs to be excluded from using the N-word: EVERYBODY. It's not acceptable for any American to use it. It represents a horrible time in American history that needs to be regarded with shame.
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