I am in love with a woman, who is in love with another man.!

[Tripod]

I keep trying to convince her to love me, but she can't. She still loves an evil man. One that tried to kill her, and threatened it so many times. I am 1 1/2 years into this relationship, and I just found out that she is talking on the computer again with him. And she says "I don't know how I feel about him". I know what to do, but it is so hard. She is so beautiful, and so sexy, and we have a chemistry, when we are close. I have treated her wrong also. But I still want her. What should I do??

[ceveritt]

1. Leave.

Leave her. Find a way to get away from her. Easy to advise, I know. But I've been in a similar situation. Her self-destructive behavior will destroy you. You cannot change her mind. Get away.

[Tripod]

2. Thanks for your reply. You are right. I'm trying.

[ceveritt]

3. Glad you are trying.

I won't lie to you and say I know your pain. But I can say I have an understanding of it, and how immense it is. I am sorry for how much you hurt.

[Tripod]

4. yes. this does!

[comtec]

5. RUN away!

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, mug, commemorative coin AND the home game.

leave now, heal your heart later.

this woman is poison for you.

I DO know what you're going through, and I DO KNOW that it will never end well for you.

Some women are simply incapable of choosing the right, good man. they WANT the asshole. that's not you, so leave.
Don't try and help her recover. DON'T be there for her. you will never be her man.

it's brutal, but it's the god's honest truth.

trust me, she isn't worth it. there are other women, better women who are worth your time and love and energy, this one isn't. just... run, don't walk, away.

cut off all contact with her. you can't help her.

don't try, DO!

"DO, or DO not. There is no try" - Yoda

[Tripod]

6. Thanks for the words of wisdom comtec. n/t

[Ninjaneer]

13. Yoda

now there's a guy who never has lady problems.

[pscot]

7. Give it up

You're making yourself miserable in a lost cause.

[Tripod]

8. I can't!

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[Tripod]

10. That is mean!

I have as much right to be here as you. Why do you think I shouldn't air my problems, when it is okay for you. I have liked your responses comtec, but if that is all you have for me, so be it. I thought that I was formulating a relationship with you here on DU. It's okay if you don't want to converse here any more with me. You haven't walked in my shoes, so you don't know if I might have "much worse, grievous wounds" then yours. As if you have never been stuck..... in love or such. I'm so sorry for you if you haven't had the chance to deal with issues of the heart, soul, emotions. What a loss that can be. :(

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[Ninjaneer]

12. Let it go.

Been there, done that. You can't make people love you. Sooner you understand this, the sooner you can stop wasting precious time of your life. There is no secret or magic advice. The right answer is the obvious one.

[lumberjack_jeff]

14. +1

[Tripod]

15. Plus two. thanks

[demosincebirth]

16. Next thing that will happen is a restraining order.