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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 03:59 PM Original message |
Feminist view of marriage proposal? |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:10 PM Response to Original message |
1. Hmmm... marriage can be such a conflicting desire for some women.... |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:15 PM Response to Reply #1 |
2. Actually, she wants to take my last name |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:29 PM Response to Reply #2 |
6. Of course... |
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northzax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 12:11 PM Response to Reply #2 |
33. she's taking "stampede"? |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 02:55 PM Response to Reply #33 |
37. You didn't know "Stampede" was Italian? |
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northzax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 06:10 PM Response to Reply #37 |
46. oh, Stampede! |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-11-07 09:17 AM Response to Reply #46 |
58. I live up to my name nicely. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:28 PM Response to Reply #1 |
5. re: the name talk. haha! My wife and I both agreed that she should keep her name |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:32 PM Response to Reply #5 |
7. I tried every possible name scenario.... |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:39 PM Response to Reply #7 |
8. we considered either creating a brand new name for both of us or combining them |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 07:27 PM Response to Reply #8 |
51. That is quite marvelous... |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 09:02 AM Response to Reply #5 |
22. Well, the reason she's keeping my name is simple... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:20 PM Response to Original message |
3. Congratulations Vash! That was a very interesting read. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:22 PM Response to Reply #3 |
4. Thank you very much! |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:52 PM Response to Reply #4 |
11. I think you'll be a wonderful husband, too |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:54 PM Response to Reply #4 |
13. Sigh... that is so romantic. |
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crispini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
9. I wonder if this is one of those planner / no planner things. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 05:02 PM Response to Reply #9 |
14. Perhaps |
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Totallybushed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:49 PM Response to Original message |
10. Congratulations on |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 08:59 AM Response to Reply #10 |
21. Thanks muchly! |
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Totallybushed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 11:11 AM Response to Reply #21 |
30. " How can you fix |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 04:53 PM Response to Original message |
12. I think a 'proposal' doesnt' make sense if it was already discussed.. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 05:06 PM Response to Reply #12 |
15. She's definitely NOT being "given away" by her dad. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 05:15 PM Response to Reply #15 |
17. Even with what I said.. I don't think you did anything wrong |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
16. The only way to make up for such a horrible faux pas is to have a wonderful marriage. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 08:58 AM Response to Reply #16 |
20. Oh, she'll have her revenge, don't you worry. |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-09-07 05:37 PM Response to Original message |
18. that's a complex one |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 08:57 AM Response to Reply #18 |
19. Thank you very much! |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 09:36 AM Response to Original message |
23. I guess my thought is |
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izzybeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 10:34 AM Response to Original message |
24. Mrs. Izzybeans felt the same dissonance. I printed this essay out for her. I know |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 10:40 AM Response to Reply #24 |
25. Thank you so much for your response. |
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izzybeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 10:44 AM Response to Reply #25 |
26. No problem. I think this is a common experience. many of our friends are getting married very soon |
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Orsino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 10:55 AM Response to Original message |
27. I think that there doesn't have to be a proposal, as such. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 11:01 AM Response to Reply #27 |
28. That probably would've been better. |
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Orsino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 11:06 AM Response to Reply #28 |
29. It sounds as though you did fine. |
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SoyCat (660 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
31. This may sound very strange but we never had any semblance of a proposal. It was just assumed that |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 02:54 PM Response to Reply #31 |
36. Doesn't sound strange at all. |
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SoyCat (660 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 11:50 PM Response to Reply #36 |
54. Thank you! |
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CanuckAmok (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 12:11 PM Response to Original message |
32. Oh, for Christ's sake.... |
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SoyCat (660 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 12:18 PM Response to Reply #32 |
34. I think we view marriage the same way.-- |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 02:53 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. Your reaction was mine initially. |
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CanuckAmok (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 04:47 PM Response to Reply #35 |
40. Feminism = the right to make your own choices. |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-11-07 09:21 AM Response to Reply #40 |
59. Yes and no. |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 03:04 PM Response to Original message |
38. Without reading anyone else's comments, here are mine |
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Nicholas D Wolfwood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 03:31 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. Because I'm an idiot? |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 04:52 PM Response to Original message |
41. I think marriage proposals are rather sexist on the whole. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 04:53 PM Response to Reply #41 |
42. I proposed to Sniffa the other night |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 04:55 PM Response to Reply #42 |
43. That's cool. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 07:15 PM Response to Reply #43 |
49. I agree |
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Left Is Write (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 07:19 PM Response to Reply #43 |
50. My husband and I did agree to marry by mutual agreement. |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 05:45 PM Response to Reply #41 |
44. Have you been married or in a committed relationship? |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 05:53 PM Response to Reply #44 |
45. Yes, and I prefer not to be. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 06:22 PM Response to Reply #45 |
47. But honey, her last name was *her* father's. |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-11-07 01:09 AM Response to Reply #47 |
57. But midlo, men get their last names from their fathers too. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 07:34 PM Response to Reply #41 |
53. Good post -- I agree |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 06:24 PM Response to Original message |
48. From this old lady feminist, do it, Vash. |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-10-07 07:33 PM Response to Reply #48 |
52. A lot of marriage is dying to self, that's for sure |
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WindRavenX (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-11-07 12:03 AM Response to Original message |
55. Well, my SO and I have talked (we're both feminists) |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jan-11-07 12:17 AM Response to Original message |
56. We mutually decided to get married |
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